Meeting my father-in-law for the first time. The situation is complicated. Please help me!

Let's not talk about anything else, and I don't know how helpful it would be to give you a suggestion.

Let me start with my own personality-

If I go to see my father-in-law, of course, I have to buy a gift first. Alcohol and tobacco depend on the actual situation If my father-in-law is a good smoker and drinker, I will buy some. If not, I'd better not buy it. After all, they are not good for my health. Buying less or even not buying can express your concern for your father-in-law's physical and mental health. The best gifts are tonics and specialties, and specialties should be considered. Regarding tonics, such as some suitable for middle-aged and elderly people, if there are younger generations at home, you have to buy some suitable tonics. Giving gifts is a headache, short and ugly, but it doesn't matter. This can be discussed with my wife. It's best not to buy any furniture for the first time, but to be restrained and reserved, otherwise you will get something too expensive at once, and there will be nothing to sell when you go again next time, which will increase the burden on the journey and is not good.

You should wear simple and elegant clothes, casual and dignified, and avoid wearing different clothes, which you should know yourself.

It is essential to call someone when you first arrive at your father-in-law's house. Don't nest in the room with your wife as soon as you come in. Rural people are simple, honest and most practical. The best way to open the topic is to greet each other, which is the first step to communicate with my father-in-law. For example, how is your uncle recently? How's it going? It is very important that you can't talk to your father-in-law. It doesn't matter if you are supercilious, articulate and speak louder. If you can speak, you are successful, at least it is no problem to enter your father-in-law's heart. The most important thing for people to get along with each other is politeness, which is the same concept for people in rural areas and cities. Cooking doesn't have to be deliberate. There's no harm in helping you with this and that. The most important thing is to express your diligence. This is what rural people appreciate most. I believe that few people like lazy people, and we should pay special attention to this. Don't brag when you speak, listen to the teachings of your elders, tell your own situation sincerely and show your determination for the future. You should show in your actions that you can bear hardships. This is not something you can see in a day or two. You should always be gradual and subtle. Since your mother-in-law is in poor health and you, the future son-in-law, can't make her work hard, you should take care of all her work. You should be particularly active here, so that you can better integrate into your wife's home, let your father-in-law treat you as their family, and let her feel that you can support a sky and a pillar of a family. You should keep this up, even if you get married in the future, you should redouble your efforts, because I think you can be a man.

It happens that you will stay for a few days, which is enough for you. Of course, you may be a little impatient in your heart. For your happiness and harmony with your wife and parents-in-law, success or failure is at stake.

The above content is summarized in one sentence. Since we don't have much money, let's show our minds by actions.

Well, I only give these opinions and suggestions for reference only. After all, it depends on human effort, and the specific situation needs specific analysis. The character of parents-in-law should be determined according to the actual situation. Other people's ideas can only be used for your reference, not generalized. The important thing is to rely on your flexible adaptability. Flow leads to life, and silence leads to death. Now, let me talk about my experience-

My wife is also from the countryside, and my parents-in-law are also authentic farmers. At that time, I had no money, no power, no career and no job. It is because of my wife that I began to work hard for their livelihood. It was still early when I went to see my family. What's more frightening is that I'm actually lazy and can't talk. When I got there, I looked introverted, didn't know how to speak, and was bored when I was eating. As a result, I ran home the next day with a gray head and a gray face. The first time I visited my wife's house, I really failed. Later, my family arranged for me to work as a clerk, but I couldn't do anything. I typed quickly, the salary was not high, and the treatment was even more average. I didn't allocate a unit house and didn't get a year-end bonus, so I could only spend my life mediocre. But my wife didn't abandon me, but encouraged me to make money and increase their economic income, which was very touching.

Since I failed once, my wife has been by my side to comfort me, cheer me up and increase my confidence. I review my mistakes every day, and soon I visit my parents again. This time, I had the cheek to talk to my elders and took the initiative to care about my parents-in-law. Because my first impression was bad, they strongly opposed my son-in-law. Although the result is not satisfactory this time, it is better than nothing. At least they've started thinking about it. Mainly because I have a thick skin and gained a lot of self-confidence, the more mature I am during many visits, the more relaxed I feel, and it took me a long time to marry my beautiful, generous, considerate and gentle dear wife. That is, from then on, I had confidence in life and started my initial career. God helps those who help themselves to keep me out of the world. ...

Therefore, everything, including meeting in-laws, is an experience for us. Don't be afraid, face it bravely. When you regain your confidence, you will find that your life begins to improve. I wish you a successful career, a successful career, a happy family and happiness.