Debate on "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor" If you were an opponent, what questions would you ask?

"Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors", that is to say, relatives who are far away from home are not as good as close neighbors. This is the personal experience accumulated by ordinary people from long-term life practice, and it can also be said to be the "truth" of life; Of course, building a conservation-oriented community needs to build a harmonious neighborhood relationship.

The war is over, life is stable, and when you have a home, you have neighbors. Gradually, in getting along with our neighbors, we realized the true meaning of the proverb "a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor" and realized that neighbors are an invisible force, which is your dependence. Why is there a philosophical proverb that "a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor" drawn by the people in their long-term life practice? You will experience it in your life. Of course, the unity and friendship between neighbors, being kind to neighbors, caring for each other, helping each other and living in harmony should take me first and start from our own bits and pieces.

Just talk about ourselves. My wife and I are over 80 years old. We used to do medical work. I am a doctor. My wife was a battlefield surgeon during the war and became a gynecologist after graduating from college. We take advantage of this advantage of ourselves, in addition to taking the initiative to care about our neighbors, we often give whatever we want. Especially his wife, the most people come to him: the younger generation is pregnant, so let's listen to the fetal sound and feel the fetal position of the expected date of delivery; If someone is dizzy, take the initiative to care. I remember that many years ago, we lived in our home in Shanghai. One day, our neighbor next door came to see us and said that the old man was ill and the first aid box could not be opened. My wife and I rushed over and saw the patient pale, short of breath and severe pain in his chest. This must be a heart attack. On the one hand, we arrange the patient's lying position, stabilize the mood, call the health center and ask for an ambulance; On the one hand, I opened the first aid kit, crushed a "cannonball" on my handkerchief and put it on the patient's nose and mouth, and soon the symptoms eased. Subsequently, the doctor from the health center came, and the ambulance came, and the patient was quickly taken to the hospital for treatment. He was diagnosed with acute posterior myocardial infarction, and his life was saved because of timely treatment.

My wife is a passionate person. This typhoon hit Hainan, and Sanya was also seriously affected. Because our family made full preparations in advance, the morning after the typhoon (27th), she cooked two home-cooked dishes and gave them to her neighbors respectively, which solved the urgent need.

An old couple of us live here, and our neighbors take care of us like a family. We haven't lived in Shanghai for a long time, and our neighbors help us take care of the house, get money and things. We raise a lot of flowers and plants, and help to water and take care of them when we are away. They will never forget what the neighbors cooked delicious or what their hometown brought. We don't have a car. Some of our neighbors have cars. When they go to the city to do business, they often say hello and ask if they need any help and want to go out together. Everyone lives like a family.

A distant relative is better than a close neighbor, that's right! Children and relatives are in the sky, you really need help. They are beyond their power and can only rely on their neighbors for help.

Sometimes, a person's teeth will bump together. Moreover, there will inevitably be some bumps between neighbors, so it is also an important aspect to deal with neighborhood relations to tolerate and understand each other.

Neighborhood relationship is the foundation of social life and social stability. Harmonious neighborhood relationship is not only the need of building an economical community, but also the need of building a harmonious well-off society. Without a harmonious, friendly and stable community environment, a harmonious socialist society is out of the question.

There is an old saying in China: A distant relative is better than a close neighbor. Yes, getting along well with neighbors can really bring a lot of convenience to yourself and others.

People who live in buildings often have a feeling that neighbors often meet strangers after living for four or five years. At first, like other people who live in buildings, we lived for a long time and didn't know our neighbors. The change is that after I gave birth to a child, most of the residents in our building are about the same age, and it gets warmer every day in summer. We mothers all take our children out to play and bask in the sun.

Children are a bond. Through the interaction of children, gradually, our parents began to have some communication and understanding, and we even established a very close neighborhood relationship with two neighbors. At that time, we lived in a one-bedroom apartment and the house was very crowded. Because our neighborhood relationship is very good, after the child went to kindergarten at the age of two, our family no longer asked parents or nannies to take care of it. When I am free, I will be happy to help my neighbors take care of the children they can't take care of. Similarly, when we have no time, my children will get help from their neighbors. During that time, I went to night school for three years, thanks to the help of my neighbors. Therefore, although they are only children, our children grow up happily, because there is almost no shortage of partners for them.

Now, all our children are starting to go to primary school. We spent the most difficult time together in helping each other. After moving to the new house, although the distance is far, we still don't forget to walk around each other. Before the Spring Festival, I invited my former neighbors to my home, and the children piled up happily, while we adults chatted while eating and drinking. It's really great.

Now we have a new neighbor, because it happens that my son and the child across the hall are classmates and have been deskmates for some time. Therefore, in the new environment, we have also established good neighborhood relations. At this point, I feel really lucky.

Have you ever heard of such a thing? Probably 1 old man ~ when all her relatives abandoned her ~ don't want her.

It was the neighbors who helped her spend the last days of her life ~

What is the explanation?

Is it close to your heart, neither far nor near? Are you neutral?

In fact, relatives and neighbors should help each other. Which is closer? Specific people have their specific factors and uniqueness.

In this era, innocent feelings between people have been trampled repeatedly, and there are few family ties ~ ~ It is a kind of luck to meet one of them who is closer to you. Besides ~ ~

Don't let anyone hear you, or you may make people angry and no one will love you.

What do you mean by saying that relatives and neighbors have their own specific factors and uniqueness? Then what are you arguing about? That makes no difference. Isn't this topic just to distinguish two concepts for debate?

Excuse me, how did you argue? Brother ha really can't read it ...............

Oh, my principle is to make trouble for meaningless debates ~ ~ ~

Since it is not a truth that can be argued more and more clearly, why waste time on it ~ ~

I just want to tell the truth. I only like friends who tell the truth ~

Well, close relatives and distant friends, of course, are the nearest neighbors. If relatives can't care about you, only neighbors help each other. From the point of blood and affection, unless a closer relationship is established on the basis of neighbors, neighbors will stop at the boundaries of neighbors and never compare with affection. A mother can give the last food to her children without eating, but if the neighbors have the same behavior, it seems that it is not easy to understand.

In fact, it does no harm to the concept of neighbors when they are distinguished by their close neighbors and distant relatives respectively. Neighbors are close, relatives are far away. Maybe people get cold after tea, and family ties have long since become a thing of the past. This distant word limits the degree of closeness, so in the practical application of life, the practicality of close neighbors is far greater than that of distant relatives.

Unless that distant relative suddenly appears near you, then the conditions change and he becomes a close relative. The question to be discussed at this time is whether close neighbors are closer than close relatives. The result can be imagined.

So unless the opponent changes the definition of distance, it should be that distant relatives are not as close as neighbors, right?

If someone thinks that family ties transcend time and space. No matter far or near, you can tell him that all human beings have the same ancestor, and we are all relatives. Why can't you kiss me? Should people who live near me be closer?

As for whether it makes sense? Alas, there is no emotion in this era. The premise of the discussion is that everyone is willing to compare which one is closer after paying, but is it useful to talk about distance when no one cares about you at all?

The increasingly fierce conflict of interests is the root cause of emotional fragility. If you are useless to others, what do others care about you?

Against:

The "neighbors" of "near neighbors" are limited to neighbors with close geographical scope. Is it too narrow-minded? Confucius once said that neighbors refer to people around you, including not only neighbors, but also friends and classmates around you. Simply put, neighbors represent people in social circles, not just two separate individuals next to your home. Second, the other party said that because of the modern high-speed pace of life and indifference, people who live across the hall may not even know what they look like. But let's see how many so-called relatives live too far away, one in Heilongjiang and the other in Hainan, separated by the turn of eight generations. Isn't this also a manifestation of human indifference? Why does the other person only look at one and not talk about the other? Third, the other party's suggestion that "a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor" is an old saying, which is caused by inconvenient transportation and is not applicable to a modern society with developed transportation. If so, can it be said that long-distance passenger transportation by plane and train can turn 800 miles into several steps in an instant? The barrier of distance cannot be eliminated with development. If there is no problem of distance, there is no difference between distance and distance. Then what are we talking about, distant relatives and close neighbors? Fourth, far from hydrolysis, near thirst cannot be achieved. The other party has always emphasized that blood is thicker than water, but neglected the timeliness and practicality of solving problems. You said that blood relationship is impossible to change, but it is precisely because of this blood relationship that so many people are afraid to tell the truth of their hardships and embarrassment because they are afraid of each other's worries and sorrows. This is good news, but not bad news. On the other hand, people around you can really give necessary, effective and timely help because they know the actual situation. Doesn't this mean that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors?

1, distant relatives are also related by blood. Blood is thicker than water. If something really happens, relatives can come forward to help.

2. Some laws require that relatives must come forward, and neighbors can't help.

Neighborhood relations are very cold now, and some people don't know what their neighbors are like for more than ten years.

For relatives, most of them can rest assured that they can entrust some private things. For neighbors, even if you trust each other, they don't necessarily believe you.

For example, if your house is on fire, your neighbors can help you put out the fire, and your "distant relatives" can only pray.

When you encounter three difficulties and eight difficulties, your neighbors can lend you a helping hand in time, which is beyond the reach of your distant relatives.

There is an old saying in China: A distant relative is better than a close neighbor. Yes, getting along well with neighbors can really bring a lot of convenience to yourself and others.

Relatives are always relatives.

Neighbors have nothing to do with you.

Have you ever heard of such a thing? Probably 1 old man ~ when all her relatives abandoned her ~ don't want her.

It was the neighbors who helped her spend the last days of her life ~

6. If there is something important, it is difficult for neighbors to intervene and only relatives can help. So when necessary, affection is above everything else, regardless of the distance between time and space, but this kind of affection can only be used by fixed people, so once there is affection, there is nothing else to replace it ~

Ordinary people like you and I can't even know each other, how can we talk about emotions, let alone family ties. Who knows who is good and who is bad?

Feelings have always been accumulated gradually, so nothing has deep feelings before family, no matter how far apart.

What matters is the accumulation of emotions, not the distance!

Today, Gentle Water talks about the saying "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor"

Then let's analyze the shortcomings of this sentence first.

The first is the social roots. In the agricultural society, people's living areas are narrow because of the underdeveloped level of science and technology, and social relations are mainly neighborhood relations, but people who are related cannot help each other because of distance, so this sentence came into being. We should look at things from a developmental perspective. In contemporary society, although we don't advocate the relative isolation between neighbors, it turns out that we don't have close contacts with our neighbors, and the range of contacts with people is basically relatives and colleagues. Therefore, from the perspective of the times, it is not in line with the development needs of the times that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. Therefore, in the following discussion, please don't talk about how precious the friendship between neighbors is. This is beyond the scope of this debate. Thank you.

The definition of next nearest neighbor is only the concept of space, but living near does not mean living near, and living near does not mean living near. Everyone knows the story of Meng Mu's Three Steps. It can be seen that the relationship is good or bad, not because of how close you live, but because of how close you are.

The pace of life in modern society is accelerating, and the frequency of moving is accelerating. We admit that some neighbors get along well and keep in touch even after moving. Please don't go astray here. They become good friends because they are close to each other, not because they are far away. Just like rabbits and wolves live across the hall, rabbits should be closest, not wolves.

Shuo Wen Jie Zi says: "Pro, stop", "Neighbor, five neighbors"; There are more definitions in Chinese dictionaries: "pro" means "deep affection and close relationship", which is an irresistible approach in the mind, while "neighbor" is "an organizational address of residents", which focuses on geographical proximity.

China is a society that pays attention to ethical traditions, and its inherent social and national cultural structure determines our deep psychological model of attaching importance to family ties. Killing Dogs, the four southern operas of Yuan Zaju, is about a man who hangs out with his neighbor's drinking buddies all day and alienates his own brother. Later, his wife cleverly killed a dog in front of his house and pretended to kill her husband after drinking. On weekdays, the so-called "friends" are strangers, and only their own brothers are willing to tide over the difficulties with their brothers.

Blood is thicker than water, and there is common sense at home and abroad. The consanguinity between father and son, brother and sister reflected by the life-and-death choice of foreign explorers in the film Vertical Limit just proves the universality of the argument that consanguinity is supreme in time and space.

"A person is a stranger in a foreign land and misses his relatives on holidays." Neighbors may be able to relieve your loneliness when you are bored and help you when you need it, but that's all. No matter how good a neighbor is, he can't sacrifice himself to fulfill you like a relative. Only if you are harmless to him, even beneficial, can your intimate relationship be maintained.

To sum up, we believe that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors.

In fact, this is a strange phenomenon in the "Iron Age" [mainly architectural structure]. It's not that strange, but it's actually a manifestation of social emotions.

In fact, the social rhythm is getting faster and faster now. How much time do we have to care about our neighbors? In fact, why is there a Children's Day? Because children don't care about the world. Why is there Women's Day? In fact, we should pay attention to our great mother But why do TV sometimes break in some helpful clips for neighbors? The performance is that this phenomenon is too few, all security doors, all self-sweeping. . .