How can we make people with social fears come out?

Nowadays, social phobia is a very common psychological disease. Due to many factors, people are afraid to face others, but in fact, social phobia is harmful, which is not only harmful to health, but also unfavorable to work. So how to overcome social phobia? How to prevent social phobia?

How to overcome social phobia? In fact, it is very simple, because this fear idea is caused by a kind of "fear" psychology, such as fear of meeting strangers and expressing themselves, so patients will consciously contact people and things around them.

Just eight moves can keep you away from social phobia.

1, recognize yourself

Each of us is a student, learning the knowledge, technology and skills of survival every day. If we are mature or do things perfectly, then we will not call ourselves students.

So I don't care much about whether my class is good or not, and whether others can understand what I say; At the right time, a little spirit of Ah Q, such as "people who laugh at others are not as good as others" and "laughing naked and sticking their pants", can alleviate their tension and fear.

2. To overcome yourself.

We know that there are no perfect people in the world, that is to say, everyone has shortcomings, so we can neither exaggerate the advantages of others indefinitely nor expand our own shortcomings at will.

In fact, you are also very good in the eyes of others. As long as we actively make friends with others, then you are also a very good member.

Step 3 motivate yourself

Always have confidence in yourself, and encourage yourself with inner language from time to time: "I am great", "I performed well" and "everyone likes me very much".

We should firmly establish such a belief.

I am a unique creation of the creator, and there is no other person exactly like me in this world. I was born useful, my existence will be valuable, and I will certainly find the value of my existence, because I am unique!

Believe in your own ability and learn to remind yourself in various activities: I am not weak, I am no worse than others, and I can do what others can do through hard work. If you look for something, you must stick to it and strive for success; Constant success can let you see your own strength and turn inferiority into self-confidence.

In this way, no matter what, you will say to yourself: I can do it well. In work and life, you will have a good attitude of self-esteem, happiness and competitiveness, so as to make achievements in work and life.

You should stick out your head when the curtain falls.

Generally speaking, it means doing everything. As long as we put it into action, we will gain something. Make a plan for those who dare not look into the eyes of adults, teachers and classmates. Talk to your parents first and look at their heads and faces. When you feel no fear, talk to your teacher step by step, and finally reach the level of talking to strangers.

6. Admit and allow your own shortcomings.

"No one is perfect, and there is no shortage of gold." It is precisely because of the different shortcomings of human individuals that human society is colorful. So allow yourself to have shortcomings and don't pursue perfection too much.

Learn to say "I was wrong" and "I am not as good as you" frankly. Only in this way can we have and enjoy life at will, freely and easily.

7. Don't be afraid to let others down.

We can't satisfy everyone's wishes at any time and under any circumstances. Therefore, as long as we do our best, we don't have to mind what others think and see.

As long as we don't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, put down excessive demands on ourselves and don't care much about success, then success will gradually come to you and hug you.

8. Take an active part in group activities

On the one hand, I can make my boring daily life colorful, and more importantly, I can relieve my anxiety and tension of being concerned by others through natural contact with my classmates, so as to achieve the purpose of naturally contacting others.

The harm of social phobia

Hazard 1: It is difficult to find a job.

At present, the employment pressure of college students is enormous, and interview is the first hurdle to face. Under the influence of social anxiety, it is difficult for patients to effectively show themselves to the interviewer in a limited time. Even if they are excellent, they can only helplessly give the opportunity to others.

Hazard 2: it is difficult to communicate and retreat.

The present work is no longer an era of going it alone. The disadvantages of reasonable communication, teamwork and real communication of patients with social anxiety greatly affect their performance in the team. Over time, they will make themselves withdrawn. Eventually eliminated by the team.

Hazard 3: Emotional deficiency, health crisis.

No matter how short the communication between reality and language is, it is also an emotional sustenance and a direct connection between relatives and friends. Too much IM communication will stop this link, make you too indifferent and violent, and greatly affect your physical and mental health. At the same time, long-term IM communication is also a great pressure on your eyes and cervical vertebrae.

What to eat for social phobia?

1, lotus seed gorgon porridge

Raw materials: lotus seeds, gordon euryales and rice.

Practice: Wash lotus seeds, gordon euryales and rice with clear water. Put the raw materials into the pot at the same time, add appropriate amount of water and simmer together. The pot will turn smaller when it is cooked, and cook for a while. Put more water when cooking porridge, and don't boil the porridge too thick.

Efficacy: soothe the nerves, nourish the heart and soothe the nerves, which is conducive to accelerating physical recovery and overcoming social phobia.

2. Lotus and lily porridge

Preparation: Lotus seeds, dried lily, japonica rice, rock sugar and red dates.

Practice: Wash lotus seeds, soak hair, wash dried lily and japonica rice separately, put them in the pot with lotus seeds and red dates, add appropriate amount of water, first boil them with strong fire, then cook them with low fire, and then add rock sugar when they are 80% mature, and cook them slightly.

3, tremella lotus seed porridge

Raw materials: lotus seeds, tremella, rock sugar, fragrant rice and red dates.

Practice: cook fragrant rice into porridge. You can put crystal sugar in the water (diabetics (diabetic food) can also not put it). Tremella is soaked in warm water.

Lotus seeds are cooked to remove the heart. Then put tremella, lotus seeds, red dates and melted rock sugar into a porridge pot and cook with slow fire.

Efficacy: It is nutritious and nourishing (health food), and can be used as tonic food for patients with social phobia due to yin deficiency.

Causes of social phobia

1, lack of exercise

In our daily life, some people think that they lack some social skills and don't know how to communicate with others because they don't get systematic exercise. Indeed, the lack of social skills will leave a bad impression on others, which will lead to bad reactions and embarrassing situations.

Step 2 belittle yourself

Some patients' behavior in the social process is actually appropriate, but patients think their performance is wrong, so patients' evaluation of themselves is inappropriate. In the social process, patients' self-deprecation plays an important role.

Many patients demand too much of themselves. They hate that they can't be praised and liked by everyone because of their outstanding eloquence and grace, which will inevitably lead to repeated self-frustration, and eventually lead to tension and fear when meeting people.

3, the social motivation is not pure

In some patients, they always think that the purpose of people communicating with him is not pure, and sometimes their purpose is not as simple as making friends.

So I always want to make a special impression on others, so I may feel nervous or even afraid. If I don't care what others think of me, I won't be nervous and afraid.

4. Personality characteristics

If a person tends to control others' impressions of him, or is particularly embarrassed, it seems that everyone likes him to save face, or has a strong perfectionist tendency. And eager to be perfect in front of others, such people are prone to social phobia.

5. Family reasons

Personality is suppressed since childhood, and parents are imprisoned children, leaving children out of contact with the outside world for a long time, forced for a long time, and gradually psychologically distorted, or parents have not taught them social skills, or family members move too often.

How to prevent social phobia

Get rid of inferiority complex and enhance self-confidence

Get rid of inferiority complex psychologically. If you have negative psychology, you will often make yourself unwilling to talk more. In addition, we should enhance our self-confidence. From a psychological point of view, self-confidence is the degree of self-acceptance. A person who can fully accept himself is very confident, and vice versa.

Overcome fear

Social phobia is mainly caused by a kind of "fear" psychology, such as fear of meeting strangers, fear of embarrassment and fear of expressing oneself. This disease is formed in many years of daily life, work and study.

Therefore, prevention and control needs to gradually cultivate the ability to adapt to the outside world and consciously contact people and things around you in long-term daily life, work and study.

Try to be as easygoing as possible.

Don't pay too much attention to your manners. Normal social activities, without any mystery, are just interpersonal communication and socialization.

Therefore, in social activities, you don't have to pay too much attention to your manners. You are easy-going, generous and natural, and you do what you say and do at ordinary times, even in social activities. After a long time, you will get used to social activities. Social activities will weaken the social skills of direct communication with people in real society.

Conclusion: The above is what Bian Xiao introduced about the harm and treatment of social phobia. There are many reasons for social phobia, so we should learn to adjust ourselves in our daily life and face the society in the best state. I hope today's introduction will be helpful to you and I wish you good health.