Enriching yourself and raising children freely is the best education.

Enriching yourself and raising children freely is the best education.

There are three relationships in the world: with yourself, with others, and with the world. Among these three relationships, what really determines our quality of life is our relationship with ourselves.

Only when a person handles his own relationship well can other relationships become "icing on the cake". For a mother, only by learning to love and accept herself first can she love her children and everything in the world.

1. Be kind to yourself and stop focusing on children.

Writer Su Qin said: "All the anxiety and rage in women are abused." I am convinced of this. Too many mothers in life often treat themselves badly in order to give their children a good life; Reluctant to eat and wear, even if you work hard, you should let your children enjoy the best material.

However, don't be kind to your mother, and you won't get the respect and gratitude of your child; On the contrary, the mother's demanding of her barren atmosphere often makes the whole family atmosphere room treat herself well, not encouraging her to pursue luxury, but not treating herself badly on the basis of existing materials.

When the mother is no longer child-centered, the child can turn his attention to the mother, understand and appreciate.

2. Enrich yourself and release your love for your children from the inside out.

Many women have parted ways with "exquisiteness" since they became mothers, and household clothes have become work clothes, and untidiness has become the norm for many mothers.

In this regard, the mothers' answer is very helpless: "We have to take care of both the family and the children. When we have time to clean up, we will first fill the cup in front of us and be satisfied and happy, so that we can spill our happiness to others.

In fact, love is also a release. Only when a mother loves herself from the heart can she release her love for her children from the inside out and subtly teach her children the ability of "how to love". Learning to love is the most important happiness in a child's life.

A good life is also the best education for children.

Many mothers think that educating their children means "teaching" them many things. In fact, a good mother is the best education for her children. Dong Qing said, "What kind of person do you want your children to be? It's simple. What kind of person do you want to be? "

Only when the mother has a good life can the children feel the power of love in her, follow her example, bravely face the world and be true to themselves. A mother who loves herself and lives well will naturally become the most powerful role model for her children.

4. Only by accepting yourself can we accept the ordinary children.

When mothers place too much trust in their children, they often try to change their children through cross-border control. The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment and the stronger the control. If the child can't resist, he can only fight back in a cold way.

Every child is a unique individual, but unfortunately, there are too many mothers in life who take "other people's children" as the perfect standard and can't let go of the obsession of cultivating a perfect child. Letting go of the obsession with perfection and passing on the open-mindedness to children become the most useful thing in children's lives. Maybe not only the children, but also the mother herself.

5. Optimistic mothers raise energetic children.

There is a saying that tells the true meaning of education: "Excellent children are not miracles created out of thin air, and there are traces behind them." And this trace is the parents behind the children. They are the roots of children and the soil for their growth.

Parents use their wise, positive and optimistic attitude towards life to infect and influence their children's outlook on life and values. No one will always be the darling of life, but those who love life can be their lucky JL in prosperity and adversity.