The secret of shyness, what is the secret of the author's childhood?

After reading The Secret of Childhood by maria montessori, a famous Italian educator and reformer, I feel that this book is really profound and deserves our careful reading and research. Although I haven't fully understood it, one thing in the book left a deep impression on me. That is: adults lack understanding of children.

In his book, Montessori tells that adults are obstacles to children, and depression is the root cause of children's psychological deviation.

Adults always educate their children according to their own ideas, regardless of their feelings and ideas, which is often the reason for conflicts between adults and children. Although children can only accept these compulsions from their parents when they are young, they have a great influence on their personality development for a long time. The consequences of this conflict will spread almost indefinitely, just like the waves when a stone is thrown into a calm lake. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them. But for children, these explorations are gratifying and interesting, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to tie their shoelaces, and they will be completely addicted to these simple tasks for adults. They will try again and again to explore, discover, be excited and be happy, but adults can't stand it anymore, and finally their parents will do all the dressing.

Adults treat children as if they were their creators. Adults think that they are always right, children should follow their example, and all children's behaviors that are contrary to themselves are wrong. This attitude subconsciously obliterates children's personality, while adults still think they are enthusiastic. Adults can't understand children's love for things that interest them. They are used to everything and think they know this. Therefore, they feel bored and tired, they no longer love their work and start to act passively, and their children's concentration and inquiry power begin to disappear slowly.

As adults, we are accused. The reason is that we ignore the "children's spirit". Compared with children, adults are self-centered. They look at children from their own perspective, take care of them and guide them, so their misunderstanding of children is becoming more and more confusing. Therefore, the solution is for adults to know that they are wrong. As the book says, the key to solving the conflict between children and adults lies in adults' psychological preparation and awareness of those mistakes that prevent them from really "understanding" their children without realizing it.

In addition, the book mentioned that the basic purpose of new education is to discover and liberate children. Imagine today, we are interpreting children's "one hundred languages", developing children's multiple intelligences in creative early childhood education, and striving to create an ecological education environment for children to return to people-oriented while paying attention to their living world ... Everything we do is precisely because we want to find children.

As teachers, we undoubtedly love our students deeply. However, many times, we always complain that we are so hard, so tired, so willing to be poor, so indifferent to fame and fortune, while our classmates always seem indifferent to our good intentions. In fact, all this is embarrassing only because our love for students is too arbitrary, too arranged and too authoritarian. For students, love is the position, and the wisdom of love is the realm.

Therefore, as a kindergarten teacher, of course, as an adult first. After you have the consciousness that people don't really understand children, you should start to solve the conflict between children and adults. Learn to analyze children's psychology, know their thoughts, understand their needs and attach importance to their spiritual world. In my opinion, teachers' behaviors, educational methods and concepts will undoubtedly be subtly passed on to parents, thus affecting a generation's life. The true picture of the child's heart is different from our usual subjective view of the child, which may be the "secret of childhood"

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