If the child is angry, hit him! Parents must learn four solutions.

Author Zhou Jinyi, director of functional therapy department of Tainan Rehabilitation Department.

Children at home interact with other children, and they come at once. If adults don't follow their will, they will do it. How to solve the situation that children get angry and start work? Continue to provide parents with four responses:

1. Children's thinking is different from that of adults, so we must first make clear the reasons.

Solution: If the child is still young and does not fully understand the meaning behind the behavior, it may just be a way to say hello to him, then it is necessary to establish a tacit understanding with the child and replace it with other more appropriate physical actions such as high-five, shaking hands and waving.

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When an adult loses his temper, the child will lose his temper.

Solution strategy: learn to solve conflicts properly when they occur, and tone guidance tends to be gentle when you lose your temper. Sometimes, if parents really find it difficult, they will suggest avoiding swearing in front of their children as much as possible.

In addition, punishing or banning children at present has no effect. For example, after an ordinary child hits someone, the parents say "Don't hit someone, don't do this", and there is no further action. Parents will be advised to express their current expressions and attitudes clearly enough, take their children to find ways to compensate, and help them understand that what they have just done is not allowed, so as to avoid making them feel that they are just talking about it every time.

If you make a mistake, you should deal with it immediately, and both parents must have the same attitude.

Solution: When the mistake is mentioned later, the child doesn't know where he is wrong. After the incident, you should take your child to apologize to the other party (brother or others) as soon as possible. Apologize can't just stay in the verbal "sorry", but also guide the children to say specific contents, such as: "Brother, I just robbed the toy and pinched you. I was wrong. I won't do it next time. Sorry, you can forgive me. " 」

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4. How to face the conflict scene when the child is crying?

Solution: At present, in order to avoid direct emotional collision, it is recommended to take the child to a safe corner or room to help him calm down. Normal children don't cry all day. When the child is angry, it is ideal to set a transfer goal with the child. It can be drawing to vent or going to a corner to calm down. If the child's beating behavior can get what he wants, or is compromised by adults, it is easy for the child to adopt the same model next time.