Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Parents are the best role models for children's growth.

Often chat with people: What is the purpose of having children? To carry on the family line or to raise children for old age? What I want to say is: neither! But to give and be grateful! I don't want my children to be perfect, and I don't want my old age to be proud. I just want my children to exist healthily. I will walk in this beautiful world according to my own wishes, so that I have the opportunity to walk with her for a while and grow together.

In fact, during my nine years with my daughter, I gradually discovered that no matter how powerful a woman is in educating her children, she will be tempered by her children. Of course, this is not irony, but heartfelt praise. There is a good saying: people don't know how good they are unless they push themselves! And raising children is the best opportunity to give women a brand-new self-growth and self-cultivation. Of course, the premise of everything is that you want to be a better yourself and a better role model for your children.

I was 4 1 year old when I gave birth to my daughter. My life experience may make me know more about a mother's character and responsibility for a small life than a young mother. I always think that the best education parents can give their children is to teach people to fish. In other words, teaching children self-respect, self-respect and self-love is the foundation of parents' education and the best gift for their children.

example is better than precept

All along, I believe that parents' education for their children focuses on the process of companionship, and it is by no means a moral kidnapping and severe reprimand when they meet occasionally. Children's good habits are gradually formed in this companionship.

Gu Long once said that girls who love to laugh are not bad luck. It seems that it is. At least, girls who love to laugh are always liked. My mother is a kind and smiling person. Ever since I was a child, my mother's impression of smiling at the world has been deeply rooted in my memory. When I was a child, my mother often said that greeting people is the minimum respect for people. Respecting others is also respecting yourself. For people you are familiar with, you should have a title; People you don't know smile back, and you won't miss anything. To use a popular saying, you smile at the world and the world smiles back at you. Therefore, I grew up under the life education of my mother. Now, my daughter has gradually learned to be kind to others and face this colorful world peacefully and with a smile. Gradually, the daughter became an "elf" who spread love everywhere in teachers' mouths.

I am a person who has worked in the media for many years. Perhaps it is my professional characteristics that have prompted me to keep learning. Perhaps because of this, my daughter and I have many similarities since childhood, such as keen on reading and learning unknown knowledge from extracurricular reading materials. Because my hobbies are varied, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, astronomical history, political economy, entertainment, etc., my daughter fell in love unconsciously. My husband and I like to watch the news and comment on current events while eating, so my daughter also likes to follow the news and occasionally explain her views; I like to have a professional discussion with my husband about a movie or a literary work. Over time, my daughter began to express her unique views on it. In my spare time, I like painting and calligraphy. Out of curiosity, my daughter will also actively participate. In this way, the scholarly atmosphere at home gradually formed in my subtle influence. My daughter and I are both human beings and independent universes. Learn together and grow together.

Some parents and friends often complain to me that their children always cling to their mobile phones when they have nothing to do. Imagine, if parents don't play mobile phones first, will children be less obsessed? As the saying goes, children are the shadows of parents, and we always see some characteristics and habits of parents in children. Therefore, if parents want to change their children, the first thing they have to do is to correct themselves, and then they can repair their children.

I remember when my daughter was four or five years old, she would hold various fairy tales for me to read to her before going to bed every night, so I took out my own reading skills and kept switching between various roles. I spent an hour or two reading them. My daughter listens to those picture books carefully and often laughs her head off. If I have any questions, I will also answer them. Over time, my daughter learned a lot of words in reading day after day. Until later, our roles were reversed, she became a reader and I became a listener. Of course, my price is thirsty when I read to my daughter every night, but I am extremely happy inside. Anyway, with such company, I witnessed and participated in the whole process of my daughter's growth during her ignorance. The growth of this stage has played a decisive role in her extracurricular Chinese learning, especially writing. Since the first grade of primary school, my daughter has published nearly 20 exercises and photographs in local and national newspapers and periodicals in the past three years. There is no doubt that the accompanying reading time before school plays a vital role for her, and I have read a lot of books along the way, which has improved my cultural literacy.

Be the ever-burning lamp on the road of children's growth

In a sense, children's education can be said to be a one-way ticket. Once parents get on the bus, there is no turning back. If we must compare the time when father, daughter and mother meet each other to a life practice, then all the joys and sorrows will converge into a beautiful hymn of parents and children's affection in the alternation of time. What parents have to do is to grow up with their children and light a lamp for their children to go home when the road is long and Xiu Yuan is awkward.

Now more and more parents believe the so-called famous saying: "Don't let your child lose at the starting line!" As a result, all kinds of learning and training classes followed, regardless of the children's thoughts and feelings, they reported to the class first. As we all know, how high the score is is not the purpose of growth. The most important thing is that children are truly curious and learn from the heart. As parents, our ultimate goal is not to cultivate a child who is obedient or has high marks and low abilities, but to cultivate a child who knows how to act correctly, communicate rationally, is not selfish, conceited, arrogant, grateful and moral in life. The test paper is just a piece of paper, and the future is a picture.

I still remember my daughter wrote an essay "My Good Friend" when she was in the second grade, and the "good friend" in the essay was about me. Later, this article was published in newspapers and periodicals. As a mother, I am deeply honored. In this article, my daughter highly praised my rational and objective evaluation and treatment of her exam results, that is: full marks, I will encourage my daughter; Not ideal, I will analyze the wrong questions with my daughter and sum up the lessons so that she will never lose confidence in herself. Personally, it is much more important for me to educate my children into giants with excellent academic performance than to focus only on exam results.

Since my daughter regards me as a friend, there will always be honor and disgrace, sadness and joy between us when we grow up. Since we are friends, leave a little dignity for our friends. Everyone has dignity, especially children. Let children know that their existence is precious, and everything else is just a foil, which may give children the courage to believe in light and hope from the bottom of their hearts with self-esteem in adversity. In the past, the education of the older generation was mostly stick education. Perhaps it is acceptable for children in the last century to use this way of education, after all, the environment makes it so. But today's children are growing up in such an era of materialistic high-tech development, and their thoughts are also undergoing brand-new changes. If parents use the educational methods of the last century to educate the children of this century, it will inevitably be far-fetched and even counterproductive. As psychologists say, a family full of violence cannot raise a gentle and lovely child. Sticks will only hurt children's self-esteem, let them learn to fight violence with violence, and can't teach them how to be respected or respected by others.

Time is like water and things are like books. Over the past nine years, in this fleeting time, my daughter's growth has gradually taught me how to look at time. In my spare time, I will take my daughter to the library to be a librarian volunteer; When I am in a good mood, I will accompany my daughter to study and host the competition, and watch her as the host. Likable people like themselves and are very happy. In this way, my daughter and I grew up happily together in the company day after day and year after year.

One day, my daughter suddenly felt: "When my father met my mother's charity, when my parents met lively and lovely children, and when my family met a wonderful life, a wonderful life journey began." I always thought that I was tempered by my children, lost my fighting spirit and lost my temper, but I didn't know it. It is the experience of being a mother that finally softens the years, amazes the time and makes herself.