Some students are addicted to online games, which gives parents a headache. Any good suggestions?

A child who is addicted to the internet mainly lacks more interesting things to do than online games in real life. And finding or doing something more interesting than the internet requires parents' efforts. Because this requires the patient companionship of parents, and parents also need a pair of eyes for discovery and exploration. To discover the little beauty in life. For example, in spring, I will lead my children to dig small root vegetables, shepherd's purse, climb mountains and pick mountain vegetables. In summer, we go swimming and picking mushrooms. In autumn, we pick walnuts, mangroves and enjoy maple leaves. In winter, I will take my children to make a snowman and play in the snow. Because there are many particularly interesting activities, children don't want to stay at home at all, and always want to explore more exotic things outdoors. If parents can do these interesting things with their children. Children will leave the internet bit by bit. There are flowers in spring, the moon in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter. Children are all blank sheets of paper. I hope parents can lead their children to draw beautiful pictures on this pure white paper.

1, emotional companionship makes children feel warm;

2, the results are not so harsh, so that children have a sense of accomplishment;

3, management is not rigid, so that children have a sense of freedom.

First, the consequences of not correcting in time. It's really a headache for students to indulge in online games. If not corrected in time, their grades may plummet and their eyesight may decline. In serious cases, they may be addicted to the internet, which will lead to social and life obstacles. Meeting him may be a frustrated future.

Second, the cause of the problem. (1) Are only students addicted? Modern society is a network society. No matter primary school students, junior high school students and senior high school students, even if you go to college and work after graduation, many people are still addicted to online games. Compared with real life, what are the fatal attractions of online games that people can indulge in?

(2) What are the characteristics of online games that lead to addiction? The characteristics of online games: players are all over the country, fighting and killing are very exciting, and you have a sense of accomplishment, unrestrained and free, which are not available in the real world.

(3) Why are students more addicted? Knowing these characteristics of online games, you will know why students are addicted. "Addicted to the Internet" can be expressed by another word: escape from reality. So the reason for indulging in the internet must be that there are things in it that can't be obtained in reality. There may be the following aspects:

1. Feel lonely in reality and look for "like-minded" people in the game. A big reason for indulging in the internet is loneliness, and there are no friends around to communicate and play. In the online world, people all over the country can communicate, and everyone has the same hobbies. This is the world of a group of friends, who are free and will naturally indulge in it.

2. Poor performance in reality, looking for a sense of accomplishment in the game. Many students are depressed because of their hard work and poor grades. Every time their grades are criticized, they will feel tired of learning and afraid of learning. In online games, you can experience the pleasure of teammates brushing off monsters together, defeating the enemy and realizing self-worth in disguise. Only in the game can you feel like a man.

3. Resistance to the family environment, rebellion after being severely constrained. The most common thing in the family is behavior control. Parents make life schedules for their children or make some rules for their children to follow, such as not watching TV or playing mobile games. Under strict control, children will be very upset after a long time, feel that life is not free and want to resist. Once they have a mobile phone, they will seize every opportunity to play games.

Third, suggestions to solve the problem. Suggestion 1: spend more time with your children emotionally to make them feel warm.

People are emotional animals, and children need special attention and care. But in fact, modern society is under great pressure and parents are not easy to manage. They just want to lie down and play with their mobile phones when they go to work during the day and come back at night. In this case, the time spent with children is limited. When he feels that his parents don't care about him and can't get their warmth, he will inevitably feel lonely and need to find comfort in other ways. Friends who play games together make up the gap.

To change this situation, parents should carefully examine whether they care enough about their children, put down their mobile phones after work at ordinary times, take their children out to play on weekends, and participate in social activities to fill the gaps in their hearts.

Recommendation 2: Be less picky about grades and give children a sense of accomplishment.

Good students are boasted, and everyone needs to be recognized. Children are also eager to be recognized by their parents, but some children have poor academic performance and strict requirements from their parents. In reality, they are simply losers and have no sense of accomplishment.

To change this situation, parents should set reasonable goals with their children according to their own situation, encourage him to make a little progress, and praise him in time even if there is a little change.

Recommendation 3: management is not rigid, so that children have a sense of freedom.

Nature is like a spring, it will rebound as much as it presses. Playing is not only the nature of children, but also the nature of human beings. But some parents don't let their children play games and watch TV at all, which is actually suppressing their children's nature. In this case, once children seize the opportunity, such as going to a classmate's house, such as living in school, they will play games crazily.

To change this situation, parents should let their children release their nature appropriately, and make an agreement with him on how long they can play games every day, when they can play more, and even play with him, so that he can know that moderate games can make him happier.

Conclusion: Online game addiction is a big topic, which many families will encounter, and even some correction institutions adopt unscientific methods to correct it, leading to various tragedies. Parents must be cautious. After all, human beings are emotional animals. Only by putting yourself in the other's shoes can we know why children are addicted to online games and then prescribe the right medicine. Through psychological counseling, understand and analyze the deep-seated reasons behind children's addiction to the internet.

Most children, especially boys, have no sense of accomplishment and psychological satisfaction in the process of real life learning, so they look for it in online games. The current game design is very clever, which can gradually meet the psychological needs of children and make them unable to extricate themselves step by step.

Our parents should reflect on whether to play mahjong and brush their mobile phones before their children's birthdays. Whether to give the child enough high-quality companionship; Have you ever praised your children in your life and study? If not, then act quickly, do what you should do first, and don't change your child in a hurry! You have changed, your children may not be able to change, but you have not changed, and your children will certainly not change.

Online games are like spiritual opium. As a parent, I can only say that I will never let my children play online games! What should be correctly guided and properly controlled ... that's all grandiose words. Once a child is addicted to online games, he can't control it! If you have enough time and energy, why not guide him to learn traditional culture and professional skills? Work and life depend on science and culture, professional skills and hard-working hands, which are all necessary survival skills for everyone. How can you succeed in your career and maintain family happiness by playing games?

No matter who it is, no matter how beautiful online games are, it turns out that they are not worth the candle. Playing games is a boring overdraft of youth, just looking for spiritual sustenance. How many teenagers are ruined by indulging in Internet cafes and playing games? I want to ask those experts who play games, what cultural qualities can games improve netizens? What practical skills can you learn from it?

During the epidemic, online classes were needed, so many parents provided their children with mobile phones.

But many children play games with their mobile phones under the banner of "learning".

Confiscation of mobile phones, children make a scene, use mobile phones to learn; Hide the phone, the child will secretly find it, and then play the game hard. ...

How can we stop children from indulging in games?

1. Monitoring children's mobile phone usage through intelligent tools (such as Maimiao Guardian APP) is much more efficient than manual work! You can operate even if your parents are not around ~

2. Sit down and talk to your children instead of a total ban. The three chapters of the Covenant are more effective and children are more willing to implement them.

Everyone has his own hobbies when he was a child, even if it seems to be doing nothing, as long as it is not too much, it should be allowed.

At any time, parents should set an example and play less mobile phones and games, which is the best way to guide their children out of addiction.

Use the Maimiao Guardian App-don't fight or scold, solve the problem easily!

This problem is a sexual problem, and many children are like this. The solution to this problem is:

First, parents should spend more time with their children and take them out to do outdoor activities in their spare time, such as running, playing basketball, table tennis and badminton, so as to improve their hobbies.

Second, parents should set an example and don't indulge in mobile phones in front of their children. Especially when helping children with their homework. This will have a negative impact on children. Children should also read books when they do their homework.

Third, don't buy a mobile phone for your child too early. Mobile phones have two sides. If used well, it will be a good helper in learning. If it doesn't work well, it will ruin a child. Therefore, it is not recommended that children be equipped with mobile phones before going to college. This will also prevent children from indulging in games.

I don't think it should be completely banned. After all, children are rebellious. You should discuss with him, such as when and how long you can play every day, or to what extent you have learned, and you can play during the break.

If it is really forbidden to play, his mind is full of thinking about how to play and how to steal it, which is not good. Children are adults, too. As a parent, let's discuss it. Being a friend is much easier to communicate than being an elder.

Let me talk about my experience first. I used to play games not only for my son but also for myself. I look forward to the weekend more than he does, so that father and son can team up to eat chicken all night. He often chooses the best equipment for me. Once, in order to help me pick up a 98K, he was sent to me by two 98ks, and he was killed on the way. I said that he has two 98ks with white backs (my id @ the origin of two 98ks with white backs) [Both father and son are addicted, of course, their grades will plummet, and I am not calm. I felt very, very painful when I decided to quit the game and quit this thing together. I also felt the pain of my son at that time. After he finished his homework, he had nothing to do. He sat still and felt crazy! Let him have something to do in this spare time, or he will really go crazy. Later I learned programming from him. After learning the basics of C++, he found that mathematics was not enough. I encouraged him to teach himself mathematics in advance to solve this bottleneck. He began to study the second volume of grade five when the first volume of grade five was about to have a holiday. Up to now, five months have passed, and he has finished learning the second book of grade one, and finished it in a few days (the monthly exam at the end of primary school is above 95 points, and occasionally he gets full marks. To sum up: don't play games for your child, find something to do for him. At first, it's best to do it with him. People who study well will not have friends. I used to play games with my son's best classmate, but now I teach myself math with him, because getting good grades in the exam is better than eating chicken!

So did my children during the epidemic. I want to surf the internet when I wake up every day. I have to stay close to my parents when listening to online classes. Once I limit the online time, I will get angry and even throw things to vent. I couldn't do anything, which eventually led me to drop all his mobile phones used to surf the Internet. It just stopped for a while.

After the school started, the local network where we rented a house in the school was broken, and there was no external network. After all, mobile phone traffic is limited, and I don't play mobile phones or watch mobile video. Before, I always tried to print test papers for him conveniently and quickly. While he was doing his homework, I watched the video with headphones on. Now when he is doing his homework, I copy his papers with him, and he is also very happy. In addition, I will take him and his classmates to play in squares and other places, buy them roller skates, and let the educational toys sink slowly.

In my opinion, the internet is inconvenient, and the way to divert attention is good, that is, adults should synchronize with their children.

Let's discuss this problem from three aspects together, and then we can find the answer.

The cause of inertial behavior usually has its early environmental influence mechanism, namely addiction. Compared with alcoholism and smoking addiction, when we understand the early behavior of the object, most of us will see that some events or experiences have a great influence on psychology, and such roles are also common in film and television dramas.

The stories and career ideals around me could not be realized, so the whole person began to become gloomy and gradually got into the habit of drinking and smoking.

Thinking from this direction, if students are addicted to online games, it may be related to some events they have experienced, such as more divorce of parents and the impact of drastic changes in students' families, which they can't bear and control. They will look for a sense of control from another thing that is easier to control, or take this thing as a space to gain a sense of security.

So in view of this situation, professional psychological counseling is needed to release their condensed emotional feelings. What elders can do is to let students feel the stable relationship connection, feel the stable love and wait for the healing time.

Everyone's behavior has their own motives or needs of indulging in online games. Usually, this problem easily occurs in the adolescence of 12- 18 years old. Perhaps we can find some answers from the psychological characteristics at this time.

Adolescent students have a strong sense of independence, but they are eager for relationships and want to know the outside world. At this time, many parents can't be friends and it is difficult to communicate with their children. On the one hand, children will want to leave their parents for independence, on the other hand, it is more difficult to communicate with their parents actively.

At this time, the network provides a good space. Of course it is not true. It has its own role in online games and can be freely imagined and constructed. At the same time, there are rich simulated real worlds such as making friends in the game, which gives them a lot of space to show themselves and explore freely. Because he is the center, his sense of value is greatly satisfied.

For such students, it is usually necessary to provide richer experience in the real world, so that they can really get in touch with the real world instead of getting satisfaction from the virtual world.

The world is so rich and beautiful, but I don't have the courage and perseverance to walk. This phenomenon is very common, not only for students, but also for adults, who just choose to indulge in different things.

Perhaps it is because of the family environment, perhaps because of the experience of failure, or even because I feel my weakness, so I will choose to escape.

Like many idlers, they can always find various reasons to explain themselves, but most of them are afraid to find that they really can't work hard and accept their weak reality. It is common for students to say that they are not bad, but they often use reasons such as laziness and boredom to explain their poor study.

Face the truth to be free.