Self-taught advanced individuals: Happiness has nothing to do with disability

?I used to be lonely, and I couldn't get rid of the infinite sadness in my heart. I always wanted to have the brightness of spring, and prayed to open my heart sincerely. Give me warmth in that harsh winter, give me brilliance in that dark night, selfless friendship is the most precious. In an dilapidated staff dormitory building in Chang'an Town, Haining, blind female artist Xie Xiaoman affectionately sang for us a song written by her husband. "Long Live Friendship" was written and composed by Zhu Shengxiang. Zhu Shengxiang, who was leaning on crutches, looked at his beloved wife intently and said a little shyly: "This song is the betrothal gift I gave to Xiaoman when I proposed." ?

Xie Xiaoman and Zhu Shengxiang became friends because of music. Since 2001, with their 4-year-old son who has congenital eye disease, the family of three has started to perform songs, cross talk, sketches and other programs on stage. So far, they have participated in the opening ceremony of the National Sitting Volleyball Championship, the opening ceremony of the Chrysanthemum Festival in Tongxiang, China and other large-scale events. Concert performance. In October 2005, the musical sketch "Love" written and performed by a family of three won the only gold medal in the "Jiangnan Culture and Art Festival" Family Talent Grand Prix, and was hailed as the "Three Lucky Treasures" of disabled families.

With the coming of the New Year, Xie Xiaoman's family has "three joys": they have moved into a new home of 126 square meters with three bedrooms, two living rooms and two bathrooms; Zhu Shengxiang was named "Active Correspondent" by "Jiaxing Daily"; and his son Zhu Zijian finished his term. With excellent grades, he was rated as a "learning activist".

On the eve of the Spring Festival, Xie Xiaoman told reporters on the phone that on New Year’s Eve, his family of three would return to Xiaoman’s hometown in Huzhou to celebrate the New Year. Last year, everyone spent the New Year in Ningbo, Zhu Shengxiang’s hometown. The two agreed that the couple would take turns going to each other's hometown to celebrate the New Year. She said that looking back on 2006, the family had gained a lot; but what about 2007? After the Spring Festival, her massage parlor will be moved to the store facing the street of her unit, and the business will definitely be booming. My husband's career and son's studies will get better and better.

Leaving home and leaving home: troubled souls find a habitat

On a winter day in 1967, Xie Xiaoman was born in an ordinary family in Huzhou. When Xiaoman was just over a year old, just when she was learning to walk, a neighbor noticed that Xiaoman kept falling and reminded her parents to see a doctor. Unfortunately, the result was that her daughter inherited her father's cataracts.

Amidst the ridicule of the ignorant children? Blind man, blind man?, Xiaoman slowly grew up. Because of her eye disease, she was rejected by all kindergartens. When she reached school age, she still suffered the same fate. When Xiaoman learned that one of her neighbors was the principal of a primary school, she went there every day: "Uncle, I want to study. Can you let me study?" ?The kind-hearted principal was moved and made an exception to accept her.

Others use their eyes, ears, and hands in class, but Xiaoman can only listen with his ears, and every time he turns in a blank paper for the exam. ?I have been reading for three and a half years, but I haven’t written a word. ? Xiaoman said. Three years later, the teacher tactfully advised her: Xiaoman, don’t come to school anymore. Your family conditions are not good, so you should learn some art from your dad. ?Although Xiaoman's father is blind, he is a pianist at the Huzhou Hu Opera Troupe and is good at playing, playing, and singing. While his father brought misfortune to Xiaoman, he also passed on his artistic talent to his daughter. Xiaoman showed his artistic talent very early at a young age. When she was in school, music was her favorite. When there were any school activities, the music teacher asked her to sing on stage.

Having no choice but to leave school, Xiaoman, in addition to helping her mother with housework, would go to the intersection to listen to the high-pitched radio whenever she had free time, no matter it was windy or rainy, and she would soon be able to listen to various things on the radio. This kind of Yue opera singing is imitated vividly. She participated in the Huzhou Yue Opera Singing Competition and won the first prize. Later, she studied Suzhou Pingtan under a teacher and sang it all over Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai in five years.

In April 1989, in order to pursue her music dream, Xiaoman left her hometown and came to Haining, where she had no friends, and joined the "Self-Strengthening Art Troupe" for the disabled, established by the Snow Leopard Group. Here she met Zhu Shengxiang, who came two months earlier than her.

Zhu Shengxiang comes from a farm in Zhenhai with four brothers and sisters. When he was just over a year old, Zhu Shengxiang contracted polio because he had a high fever and was not treated in time. From then on, he could never stand upright with his legs.

When he was 8 years old, he pestered his parents to go to school, so his parents had to ask his brother from the same school to carry him to school every day. Soon, he became a studious student.

In the blink of an eye, my brother is about to graduate from elementary school, but Zhu Shengxiang still has two years left. What should I do? My father bought a pair of crutches and said to Zhu Shengxiang: "Here, they will be your legs from now on!" Zhu Shengxiang fell down as soon as he took crutches, but his cruel father still forced him to learn on his own. He fell and stood up again and again, and his head was bruised. Finally, he can walk with crutches!

In order to reduce the burden on his family as soon as possible, Zhu Shengxiang, who had excellent results in the high school entrance examination, applied for a technical secondary school. When he learned that he had ranked first in the school, Zhu Shengxiang was ecstatic. However, fate played a joke on him again, because the physical examination? Unqualified? And turned away. But he was unwilling to accept it and instead studied at a local high school. But teachers often advised him: Sheng Xiang, no matter how good you are at studying, which university will want you in the future? ?

A year later, Zhu Shengxiang dropped out of school. Looking for a job, hitting a wall everywhere. He had no choice but to buy electrical appliance repair books and teach himself, and began repairing radios and televisions for others to earn a little money to make ends meet. In his spare time, he began to study music and literature.

Zhu Shengxiang’s diligent and studious figure and spirit of self-improvement moved a healthy and kind-hearted girl. However, the girl’s parents soon discovered her, and the spark of love that had just been ignited was extinguished.

?God, why are you so cruel? ?He wrote a song "The Call of Love" with a weeping heart: ?In my innocent childhood, I had the beauty of many dreams? In my youthful yearning age, my heart was full of beautiful hopes? But I didn't want to be there. When I was young, the love I longed for and needed left me? Oh, love, love, I call you affectionately! ?

In September 1987, Ningbo City held a cultural performance. Zhu Shengxiang's soulful singing became famous in one fell swoop. "Call of Love" won the first prize for performance and creation!

He was assigned to work in a local welfare company.

Music connection: ***Build a complete home

In February 1989, Zhu Shengxiang gave up the "iron rice bowl" and walked into Haining with his artistic dream. Ziqiangyuan?. Soon, he became one of the leaders of the art troupe. At that time, the art troupe had many talents, but it lacked female soloists.

The arrival of Xiaoman made Zhu Shengxiang's eyes light up: "Isn't this the best candidate?" ?

So, every time he rehearsed folk songs, Zhu Shengxiang always handed the microphone to Xiaoman, and asked Xiaoman to sing the songs he wrote and composed. When she first arrived, Zhu Shengxiang cared about her like a big brother. The art troupe organized an outing, and a colleague said: Xiaoman, you can’t see, why are you going? ?Xiaoman said: ?I want to feel the breath of nature and listen to the chirping of birds. ?So, Zhu Shengxiang became Xiaoman's "eyes". Everyone joked: "Hey, you two are really a match made in heaven!" ?Xiaoman blushed with embarrassment, but felt sweet in her heart. In daily contact, Zhu Shengxiang also developed a secret affection for Xiaoman.

In the spring of 1990, the art troupe performed in Wenzhou. Wang Hongquan, chairman of the Wenzhou Disabled Persons' Federation, took Xiaoman to the First Affiliated Hospital of Wenzhou Medical College and underwent a detailed examination by the doctor. The test result is that surgery is possible. Xiaoman went to seek Zhu Shengxiang's opinion, and Zhu Shengxiang immediately said: "You can't give up even if there is only a glimmer of hope!" ?

After learning that Zhu Shengxiang asked Xiaoman to go to the hospital for eye treatment, kind-hearted people came to persuade him: "Now that Xiaoman's eyes are healed, will he still marry you?" Zhu Shengxiang just smiled honestly after hearing this. But Xiaoman couldn't help it anymore. She asked: "What will happen to you if my eyes heal?" Zhu Shengxiang knew what Xiaoman meant and answered without hesitation: "If you think it's still worth choosing me, then please choose me; if you don't choose me, you are right." I will never stop you! ?

In this way, accompanied by Zhu Shengxiang, Xiaoman came to the First Affiliated Hospital of Wenzhou Medical College to undergo free surgery.

After the operation, Xiaoman's vision once reached 0.03, but unfortunately, as time went by, Xiaoman's eyes returned to their original shape due to optic nerve atrophy.

After this operation, the two people’s hearts became closer. In March 1992, the artistic duo became life partners. In January 1997, their belated love son Zijian was born. Sadly, what the couple had been worried about also happened. Unfortunately, their son's eyes inherited Xiaoman's eye disease.

Their misfortune quickly spread to the Provincial Disabled Persons’ Federation, and the then chairman Lin Qinghe immediately contacted Wang Jing, the then president of the First Hospital of Zhejiang Medical University and an ophthalmologist, to perform surgery. Unfortunately, because the child's optic nerve is underdeveloped in embryo, although the cataracts are removed, he still needs to wear 1800-degree glasses to correct his vision. Glasses need to be reviewed regularly every year. Now Zijian has changed to wear 1500-degree glasses, and his vision is 0.03.

The secret of happiness: life has nothing to do with disability

10-year-old Zhu Zijian is currently studying at Xinjiang Primary School in Chang'an Town. The literary and art committee member of the class.

Zhu Shengxiang said that his son has excellent academic performance. He is an active member of the school's literary and artistic activities, has won many awards in essay writing and math Olympiads, and is also a young reporter for the "Nanhu Evening News".

In Zhu Shengxiang’s view, although his son is visually disabled, he can still have a healthy mind and a healthy life. From the time his son became sensible, Zhu Shengxiang consciously bought books about disabled celebrities and read them to him. Later, the father and son read them together: Zhang Haidi's, Shi Tiesheng's, Ostrovsky's, and Hawking's. In 2005, Zhu Zijian He participated in the Haining Essay Contest for Primary and Secondary School Students and won the first prize for his essay "Learn Hawking and Overcome Difficulties".

Xie Xiaoman said: We are disabled people. In the eyes of many people, we are unfortunate, but we are happy every day. ?In Xiaoman's eyes, although her family is disabled, they still have a beautiful and happy life.

My son often said to her: Mom, I can hear your happy singing from a long distance when I come back from school every day. Xiaoman said: Song Zuying said, "Integrate singing into life." That's what I do. ?

Xie Xiaoman has been an artist for more than 20 years and has performed on stage for more than 700 times. He has been to Hong Kong, Taiwan, China and other places, and visited Japan. He was hailed by the Taiwanese media as "a blind musician in mainland China". . She has won the silver medal in the 3rd National Disabled Singer Competition, the only first prize in national singing in the first National Township Singer TV Grand Prix, and is among the top ten singers in Jiaxing City and the top ten singers in Haining City. In 1995, she performed at the Tokyo Concert Hall for the Asia-Pacific Welfare Conference. She played and sang by herself, and sang six Chinese and Japanese songs in succession, including "Jasmine" and "Song of the Four Seasons". The Asahi Shimbun and other newspapers distributed photos and reported it.

In recent years, Xiaoman has gradually reduced her performances in order to take care of her son. ?What if my voice fails one day? If I have a skill, I can still support myself. Driven by this idea, Xiaoman signed up for a blind massage technique class, passed the assessment, and obtained the qualification certificate of a blind "senior masseur".

In "Ziqiangyuan", she opened a massage room for the blind. Although business is relatively slow, she is confident about the future. Xie Xiaoman's optimistic spirit infected and inspired many disabled people. Everyone elected her to serve as the vice chairman of the Jiaxing Blind Association and the chairman of the Haining Blind Association.

In the simple massage room, we saw that the bookshelf against the wall was filled with various medical massage books. Zhu Shengxiang would read these books to her patiently when she had free time. Xiaoman said that as the chairman of the Blind Association, I can not only ask myself to be positive, but also encourage other blind friends to be positive. When I have time, I will communicate with blind friends on the phone. ?I feel that as a disabled person, social care is important, but financially you have to rely on your own efforts. ?

In 2003, Zhu Shengxiang obtained a self-study diploma in Chinese language and literature from Zhejiang University and was named "National Advanced Self-taught Individual".

Last year, Zhu Shengxiang passed the self-study examination for all subjects of the Chinese language and literature major at Zhejiang University.

In addition to work, Zhu Shengxiang often publishes works in various newspapers and periodicals in his spare time. Since March 2006, more than 50 comment articles have been published in the "Jiaxing Fans Forum" of the "Nanhu Evening News".

Zhu Shengxiang said that although our material life is not rich, we are definitely spiritually rich.

?What is the source of your happiness? ?The reporter asked.

Zhu Shengxiang answered without hesitation: Family harmony is the greatest pleasure in life. ?

Xiaoman said: ?Usually, the family talks, laughs and sings together, and we bear together when there are difficulties. The three of us think in one place and work hard in one place, no matter how strong the storm is. Can handle it. ?