Such people are most likely to be isolated in universities.

I chatted with a cousin who is a sophomore the other day. She said she was depressed recently, and she was isolated by her roommate.

There are six people in their dormitory, one of whom is from this city. After writing the application, I basically don't live in the dormitory. The other four roommates have classes, study and eat together, and never call me cousin.

In the dormitory, too, they talked and laughed, talked about everything and almost ignored my cousin.

Cousin said that she was embarrassed and wronged, and she felt very entangled and helpless. After a few words of comfort, I tried to persuade her to look down. Looking back after graduation. This is nothing at all.

Later, I thought it was easy to say so. After all, I didn't understand this until after graduation. In college, I was most afraid of being isolated. I looked up and didn't see what I saw. It's really embarrassing. It's embarrassing.

I asked my cousin why she was isolated. She replied that she did well in school, but her roommate usually likes to dress up and skip class. Before every exam, they consult my cousin and ask her to help them cheat, such as putting the paper aside for them to copy.

My cousin despises this behavior of getting something for nothing, and she is ambiguous when her roommate discusses it with her. During the exam, she went her own way and blocked up the test paper.

Over time, she was isolated.

After listening to her statement, I don't think she has many roommates. I will be very angry.

I told my cousin that her roommate didn't work hard at ordinary times and wanted to bend down and drag her into the water during the exam. It was really wrong.

But she was quarantined for a reason. She can tell her roommate directly, I don't want to take the risk, and I don't agree with this behavior. Find another way. Or tell them they can do this, but only if they don't have anything to do with themselves.

Her ambiguous attitude will make people misunderstand that she agreed, which will make them feel dependent and don't have to study hard.

Cousin's sudden defection during the exam will catch them off guard. If you fail, you will think that your cousin set you up.

My cousin listened to my words and said that she would apologize to her roommate. She said that the feeling of being isolated was too uncomfortable and she didn't want to try again.

If you don't get along well with someone, it's not necessarily your fault; If you don't get along well with a certain kind of people, it can only show that you don't like people with this personality; But if you have been isolated and can't get along with everyone, then you have to find the reason from yourself.

02 ?

If you are the kind of person who is strong and independent at heart, you think that a person is very good and even likes the freedom of being alone, then it is good to keep this state.

If you don't have such a strong heart, care about these relationships and are easily influenced by these things, then avoid the following points and avoid being isolated.

In every circle, there will be relatively excellent people, who may be beautiful, may have excellent grades, or may be extremely rich.

Everyone is more or less jealous, especially girls, who sometimes like to compare with others.

For such excellent people, we are a little exclusive. The first reaction is that we are not in a circle with them and can't play together.

If these people are arrogant again, they may really be arrogant. Didn't you also say that excellent people don't fit in?

What I want to say is that you can be cold, you can be wonderful alone, and you can play by yourself. But please don't look down on others or even laugh at and insult others. This is a very annoying behavior, very low-level and impolite.

If you hate loneliness, long for integration, and don't want to be isolated, then be modest, learn to praise and learn to be sincere, and it is still easy to be accepted.

My college roommate Xiaoping, because there are many brothers and sisters at home, may be really poor.

When she first entered the university, she hardly spoke in the dormitory. Everything is done carefully, and you look scared.

At first, we would inform her of any group activities in the dormitory, but she always found reasons to refuse. Slowly, we won't call her.

One night in the dormitory, she suddenly asked if we all didn't like her. She said that when she was growing up, she was often isolated because of poverty. She said she really hated this feeling.

We explained that no, we didn't mean it at all. They are all ordinary people. Who can be much richer than who? Besides, poverty is neither her fault nor her shortcoming.

So, let's get this straight. Maybe it's just a misunderstanding. Don't lock yourself up for granted.

03

The above two points are biased towards personality, and some practices and behaviors are really offensive and easy to be isolated.

I have hated people who like to snitch since I was a child, but sadly, such people have been with me from primary school to university.

Their existence makes my life as uncomfortable as being constantly monitored. Tell me what I did wrong. If you don't like it, I'll say so. Tell the teacher what? People who get attention by selling others are really annoying.

Since elementary school, one or two people especially like to raise their hands, and there are countless questions that teachers need to answer every day. Of course, if you don't understand, you should ask. There is nothing wrong with studying hard. But there are always some people who just want to show off and show off.

It is even more terrible for people who are duplicitous and resourceful. Once people see their true colors clearly, they really have no friends. After all, we don't want to live so tired every day.

There is a very good classmate in my brother's class. He especially doesn't like taking a bath. The most terrible thing is that he still has sweaty feet.

Winter is better. In summer, their dormitory becomes a biological weapon. When my unbearable roommate opens the door and opens the window for air, my brother's dormitory will be affected, and the whole corridor will be filled with unpleasant smells.

No matter what kind of group activities, he can always be isolated successfully. After all, no one has a tendency to be abused.

There is also a class of students who are always self-centered, have a serious princess disease and never think of others.

The sanitation of the dormitory is always cleaned by others, but her ability to make garbage is one enemy and two.

When commenting on the excellent dormitory, her bed is always a sub-item, but she has no apologies afterwards.

When she wants to rest, she asks everyone to be quiet; Besides, she always answers the phone in the middle of the night and often wakes others up.

When you are in college, the most likely conflicts are scholarships and poor grants.

Scholarships are not controversial and can be selected according to their grades. But there is another item called "development score" in the assessment conditions of our school. After selecting the finalists according to their grades, the final spelling is development points.

There are many ways to get development points, such as winning prizes in school-level competitions, such as becoming a member of the student union. Moreover, the development scores are generally counted by themselves and evaluated by academic committees.

Most students are simple and honest, but some people are too utilitarian and have exhausted their means.

Poverty subsidies are more controversial. I've met people who are brazen and tearful in making up stories, people whose acting skills are so good that we all want to donate money to him, and people who get poverty subsidies to buy Iphone for their girlfriends.

It's shameless, not only trying to isolate him, but also trying to beat him.

04

In universities, most of them are small groups with dormitories as the unit. Therefore, if a person is isolated in the dormitory and has a bad popularity, it will be very embarrassing in the class.

I don't want to be exquisite, I don't want to cater to it, and I can't lose myself at any time.

But in fact, no one likes to be isolated all the time, and no one likes to be treated as an alien.

Over time, the feeling of rejection will make people have a lot of negative emotions, devour your self-confidence and affect your mood.

When you care about something, you will become more and more sensitive and depressed, and it is difficult to relax and be happy.

Since you can't be indifferent, try to be a person you like.

If there is anything, change it and then encourage it. When encountering problems, don't shy away. Don't be grumpy, communicate effectively and solve it reasonably.

I hope everyone can easily integrate into the group, feel happy, and write a beautiful movement in the university together.