I once enrolled my children in 14 interest classes. ...

In the past two months, war at home broke out three times in our family and held two family meetings.

The fuse is Xiao Zhang's piano lesson.

For a long time, at 7: 30 in the evening, children at home cried and adults shouted, because that was the time for Xiao Zhang to practice the piano.

He began to learn piano at the age of six, and it has been a year and a half now. My teacher and I tried everything, but his dislike of piano has never been diluted by time!

So his father Lao Zhang also joined me in the battle with Xiao Zhang. This time, he stood on the side of Xiao Zhang.

He said the problem was me. I am too blind and irrational to know the advantages and interests of children in choosing interest classes. For some projects where children have no talent and don't work hard, what I call persistence is simply a waste of time.

I said, what do you say? How to choose interest classes for children, what to stick to and what to give up?

He said: since the child was three years old, he has participated in more than a dozen various classes. Don't you know what the effect is?

Men are not good at giving advice to children's education, but they are very good at finding faults!

This United front between Lao Zhang and Xiao Zhang made me panic. Am I wrong?

I also want to sum up some questions about Xiao Zhang's choice of interest classes before. After all, whether the piano will stop is a decision that needs to be made. After all, I have Xiao Zhang.

Besides, I want to share with you the money I spent, the pits I jumped over, the stupid things I did and the troubles I had in the past four years, which should also be helpful to other old mothers.

Today's sharing is conservatively estimated to be worth 200 thousand.

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When children are young, we all have a stage, or a moment, when we feel that we have given birth to a brilliant child.

Of course, now I realize that I may be the best in the future. Smart or not, it's really hard to say.

At that time, I felt that such a smart child could not do without good excavation and training. Besides, other people's children are in interest classes, so how can I not send them? Besides, it is a waste of time for him to fool around at home. Why don't you learn something ...

I've thought a lot.

Interest classes are nothing more than these categories: sports, literature and art, fine arts, and subject enlightenment.

In the past four years, I have sent my children to interest classes, all of which are involved, about a dozen of them.

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Three and a half years old: art-painting

Reason for choice: the threshold is low, not boring, everyone learns, and children are not disgusted.

Duration: 2 years

Cost: 20,000 yuan (200 yuan/section, one week 1 section)

Reason for giving up: the threshold for painting is low, but it really depends on talent. Some interests only need to be raised freely, and they really don't need to spend money, at least not early.

Four and a half years old: subject enlightenment-offline children's English

Reason for choosing: After a period of English enlightenment at home, I feel that I should study systematically, such as using regular textbooks and learning spelling naturally. A friend recommended it.

Duration: 1 year

Cost: 20,000 yuan (100 yuan/day, 4 days per week)

Reasons for giving up: the school is too far away, pregnant with a second child, and it is not convenient to pick up and drop off. It's so important that the interest class is close.

Four and a half years old: Sports-Taekwondo

Reason for choosing: Grandma's downstairs, Taoist temple is very formal, and friends recommend fitness.

Duration: 1.5 years

Cost: 1 ten thousand yuan (1 ten thousand/section, 1/2 section a week)

Reasons for giving up: children have never been very interested. After a long period of fever and cold, he will never go again. I was pregnant with a second child, so I gave up because I was too lazy to send it. Sorry in the green belt, children have no regrets. Having a second child will delay the boss to a certain extent.

Five years old: sports-football

Reasons for choosing: English teaching in the club, playing football in an international school near home, and team sports.

Persistence time: half a year

Cost: 4,000 yuan (150/ section, 1 week, 1 section)

Reason for giving up: There are too many foggy days, so I can't stick to it. Children are basically around site run, totally ignorant of the rules. In some projects, it is better to start late than early. And the goal should be clear, not too greedy. Do you want to learn football or English?

Five and a half years old: subject enlightenment-online English

Reason for choosing: English learning can't be interrupted, and online is relatively flexible and convenient.

Stick to time: I'm still sticking to it now, and I heard that the effect is more obvious. The only deficiency is writing.

Cost: 40,000 yuan (180/ day, 2/3 days a week)

Reasons for persistence: English is a subject that I see a slight hope of becoming an advantage at present. Longboard principle. Projects that spend money and time should be interesting to children, with good foundation and great potential.

Six years old: piano

Reason for choosing: You have to learn a musical instrument, and you have a piano at home.

Persistence time: 1.5 years.

Cost: 30,000 yuan (400 yuan/day, weekly 1 day).

Reasons for giving up: children really don't like it, and practicing every day is hurting and suffering each other. At first, the purpose was not clear. Moreover, there is no choice to go to the institution and learn piano at home. The environment is not formal enough, and the child has never resigned. Decided to give up.

Six years old: solfeggio in French.

Reason for choosing: cooperating with piano learning, reading music, intonation, sense of music and knowledge of music theory.

Duration: 1 year

Cost: 1700 (Children's Palace)

Reasons for giving up: the child is really not interested and has a poor sense of music. Art, interest and talent are too important.

Six years old: Reciting/Presiding

Reason for choice: I think the child's appearance is ok, his tongue is clever and he moves gracefully.

Duration: 1 year

Cost: 1700 (Children's Palace)

Reason for giving up: because the child doesn't want to take French solfeggio, his father doesn't even bother to send a recitation class. Teammate, you can't count on it. I feel particularly sorry.

Six years old: skiing

Reason for choosing: After the exam, I feel like flying and I feel very free, so I like it very much.

Stick to time: still stick to it now.

Cost: 50,000 yuan (350/ snow carpet class, weekly 1 time; Ski resorts in Harbin in summer; Winter worship (coach fee, bus fare, hotel, tickets)

The reason for persistence: true love, nothing else.

Six and a half years old: calligraphy

Reason for choice: The child wants to go.

Stick to time: still stick to it now.

Cost: 20,000 yuan (200/session, per week 1 time)

Reason for persistence: I have to go to class when I have a fever. I think I really like it.

Seven years old: Lego

Reason for choice: interest classes kill time after class, and children like them.

Persistence time: half a year

Cost: 0

Reasons for giving up: I don't like it that much. Parents need to carefully compare and investigate various Legos. I didn't do this homework, so I didn't insist.

Seven years old: mathematical thinking

Reason for choosing: the child likes math, but he himself says that sometimes things that are slightly more difficult have no idea.

Stick to time: still stick to it now.

Cost: 7,000 yuan (80/ day, one week 1 time)

Reason for persistence: I think it's very interesting, and my ability to solve math problems has really improved.

Seven years old: table tennis

Reason for choice: exercise eyesight and reaction ability.

Persistence time: half a year

Cost: 800 (Children's Palace)

Reasons for giving up: If you are in a large class, the children are basically chatting with the little girls in the same class. Don't start any project just because it's cheap.

Seven and a half years old: golf

Reason for choice: interest classes kill time after class, and children like them.

Insist on time: just beginning

Cost: 0

After I have given my children extra-curricular classes for more than four years, I feel crazy.

The child is indeed a shredder, but the mother who is in shock is definitely a fighter in the shredder.

What do you think of my 200,000 flowers? Consumption, it brings me happiness is not as good as buying a bag. I haven't bought a bag for two years. For this 200,000 yuan, I can buy a Chanel 2.55 with my left hand, a stray bag with my right hand, a Dior princess bag with my left arm, a saddle bag with my right arm, and a little monster of Fendi. There is more left!

Is it an investment? Investment failed!

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The money has been spilled, the time has been spent, and I also understand what Lao Zhang means by biting off more than one can chew!

For a long time, I felt that I gave him more contact when he was young and gave him the right to choose. But I neglected that when there are many choices, I choose obstacles. When everything starts too easy, it is not cherished.

In some fields, when there is no interest, it takes a long time, great effort, terrible struggle and strong psychology to cultivate a child's specialty. Even if you have all these, you still need talent.

Look at the pits I have jumped over, the tears I have shed, the quarrels I have had, and the blood I have shed in the past four and a half years. I have some heartfelt words that I must tell you.

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Interest or major

Different goals, different plans, different inputs.

Before choosing, ask yourself: Do you want to cultivate your child's interest or specialty?

Many projects, if it is to cultivate interest, can play with children without spending money.

This actually shows that you should be interested, but you don't have to go to an interest class to train.

I understood this question a little late.

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Don't think that talking about grading is utilitarian.

No study pressure, no motivation.

Some projects, if started, need to be graded, such as piano.

All piano lessons that don't take grading as a milestone are hard to stick to.

Of course, the process of grading examination is very destructive.

Our family can't persist, which has a lot to do with the unclear purpose.

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Don't start easily

Don't be afraid to end it.

Don't start easily, even if the child is very interested, it will take some time.

Don't be afraid of the ending, the ending doesn't mean failure, at least stop the loss in time. Whether it is the material or not can be seen after a period of practice, and it will not delay the children.

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Mom's role is not to say yes.

Used to say no, interest classes are expensive but not expensive.

Mom should have a choice.

I didn't let him practice what he was most talented, so the possibility is almost nonexistent. Be brave in subtraction, because children and adults have limited time and adults have limited money. The most important thing is to give children enough practice time. Learning without practicing is all meat buns hitting dogs.

The more parents are afraid of omission and cast a net, the more they can't catch anything.

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If the child shows nothing,

Special interests and talents, how to choose interest classes?

Choose one for art and one for sports. It's best if you can become a specialty. If not, it's good to have a hobby that can play better.

You don't need too much, because it's never too late to learn some interests that don't need children's skills. For boys, if they are really not interested in art, it is no harm to choose sports in all interest classes, and one of them is preferably antagonistic team sports.

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How to choose a subject category?

You can let your children try more free courses. If you got it all anyway, why not choose an interesting one?

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Children do not choose any interest classes in culture and sports.

Concentrate on your studies, okay?

Why not? Isn't it a specialty to learn especially long?

But exercise is still necessary. In fact, what I want to say is, if children's grades in school are average, why should they spend money on various interest classes? Students should still focus on their studies.

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Interest is important, but you have to produce results.

Interest is not everything.

Even if interest can make children's training start smoothly and persist for a long time, there will be bottlenecks and times when they want to give up. Because any achievement is obtained after one, two and countless trainings.

When a child encounters difficulties and wants to back down, if he is sure to persist, then he must have a tiger mother. Tiger mother is not afraid of suffering and spending money, and basically gives up on herself.

In fact, many people can't do their best for their children. If you can't, it's hard to make your child special!

This is the mother of 19-year-old Chinese American figure skating champion Nathan Chen. Look at the mother's hand, and you will know how much she has paid for this champion son.

Ask yourself, I'm shopping for a perm and makeup, remember my mother who bought a bag?

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When I started to let my children practice the piano, I gave up, and there were voices around me:

"Children must learn a musical instrument."

"Music can improve a person's comprehensive quality and is also a skill."

"It's a bit bitter now. He will be under great pressure at work in the future. How nice it is to sit there and say a song alone. "

"If you don't hurry him now, he will blame you when he grows up."

"If he doesn't like to play, you give up. There will be more and more things he doesn't like in the future. What would you do? "

But I decided to give up the piano.

Because in the final analysis, the interest class is strong, not complementary.

Choosing an interest class is just like falling in love, which is not suitable. It's hard to break up. Let's break up.

For the cultivation of children's interest, the perfect situation is to help children find what they love, and they can persevere and motivate themselves.

Piano lessons stopped for two weeks, and my life seems to be at its peak again.