My husband's father said that we don't need to raise him when he is old, so we can leave him alone. This is really ugly and hurtful. Tell me, will you?

Your husband said that his father said that he was old and didn't need you to raise him. It doesn't matter if you deny him. Although this is ugly and hurtful, it may be that his father is telling the truth, which means that his father thinks he has the ability to support himself and provide for the elderly himself, or that she has been disappointed with some of your husband's practices and thinks that she doesn't want this son, but this is just angry words, so his father may think that counting on himself is better than counting on anyone. We might as well expect ourselves to be like people in their thirties and forties, and people in their forties and fifties all have this idea. We raise children not to let them support us, but to let them accompany us through this journey. If we support the elderly, we don't need too many children. What we want is a partner. If there is no companion, if not, we can live in a nursing home by ourselves.