Will you copy your parents' love?

Time plucks the strings, and the melody flowing out is a meat cleaver, which changes your temperament and carves your face. Only after persistence did I find that plain love is unbearable and happiness is as simple as that. Time has taken away parents' youth, but the children are facing a new round of tests-the love mode of parents is a deep memory of children's life: parents have a happy marriage, and children can experience the true meaning of love and companionship in a stable family; If parents are at odds, children may feel relatively insecure. Have you ever wondered whether your parents' love has a subtle influence on you ... Your parents' love makes me envy ● Narrator: Xiao Dan, female, 3 1 year old, heard a lyric to the effect that simplicity is the most true, after repeated searching. Mother's view of love can be described in one word: plain! My parents were introduced. My father was handsome when he was young, and my mother fell in love with him at first sight. After that, my mother often went to see my father and secretly washed his clothes. Dad will also go to the team to find mom, and mom will take out her only money to buy his favorite pears for dad. It was probably these little details that captured my father's heart, and then they naturally got married. When I was young, my excellent father was very popular with girls, so my parents quarreled constantly. However, the father has his own discretion in doing things, and the mother knows how to handle the scale, because the mother knows to tolerate and understand her lover, and can't condone it. Therefore, although the marriage road was a bit bumpy a few years ago, their feelings were still very stable. And over the years, I can see that mom is very important in my father's heart. Maybe love is like sand in your hand. The tighter you hold on, the more you lose. Because of love, you can't push too hard. Take a good measure and give each other some understanding and tolerance at an appropriate time, and you can gain more. Years have smoothed the edges and corners of marriage, making it more rounded and smooth. I don't know when the tenderness and care between parents have increased a lot. They are used to walking side by side in the bustling town after dinner, talking and laughing; When I come home from school, I can still see my parents preparing lunch for us in the kitchen. Even my father occasionally "encourages" my mother to leave us children and enjoy their own world. My mother is a bit nagging. Most men are afraid of nagging women. My father never shows it. When I was in junior high school, my mother would stay in bed in the winter morning and let my father get up first to make breakfast for me. Dad always gets up neatly, cooks breakfast for me and sends me to school. Of course, my mother also respects my father. Dad takes the initiative in all important family affairs. Mom will sew pants and pick ears for dad. When I was a child, I saw my father lying on my mother's lap, and my ears were moved by my mother's crochet. I secretly admire: how much trust this has. My mother is a generous person. She is willing to give up for all of us, but she is too stingy with herself. So my father sometimes secretly buys her some nice clothes and jewels. At this time, my mother will nag my father that he shouldn't be so extravagant and wasteful, but only I know how happy my mother will be behind her back. "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" is my motto for my mother. My parents' endless love style infected me. After marriage, I quarreled with my husband because of trivial matters, and sometimes I talked about "divorce." My mother heard it twice, and every time she was furious: "I have been married to your father for more than 20 years, and I have never said these two words." Seeing that my mother was really angry, I quickly begged her for mercy. Once, I said to my mother, "You are not rich in your life, but you have found a good husband." My mother replied "dead girl" at that time. Unexpectedly, my mother turned to chat with her neighbors and sighed, "I have found a good husband in my life." Happiness from Chaos of War ● Narrator: Akai, male, 27 years old. Compared with the mutual respect and love of some couples, the fireworks between parents have already formed a prairie fire in my heart without the war of gunpowder smoke. My parents' marriage began in a "trembling" stumbling. Parents' marriage is the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers. The most profound thing in my memory is the frequent quarrel between my parents. Growing up, their feelings worried me, scared me and made me feel insecure. Countless fantasies, suddenly one day they appeared in front of me and said they were divorced. Trembling with such dreams for countless times. But as I grew older, I began to understand the different ways and expressions of love between my parents. Maybe they are tired of quarreling, or maybe they have really experienced a lot of things, only to find that this one around them is hard to give up. In short, the smoke is reduced, and there are more delicate things to care about and think about each other. Last year, I went home during the Dragon Boat Festival holiday and went shopping. Mom said, "Buy more celery and kelp. Your father has high blood pressure, which is good for lowering blood pressure. " It suddenly dawned on me why these dishes have always been at home these days, and high-fat foods such as chicken, duck, meat and eggs have been gone. My mother has always been a bold person, but looking back, especially in recent years, she has done so many subtle and imperceptible things. She will always stay with her father when he is ill, and bring tea to talk with him to ease his bad mood. My mother always said that my father was not a man with enough atmosphere. I don't know how to let her go when quarreling. I always mince with her and don't listen to her. But I clearly remember my mother saying that she still likes my father. Although she can be stingy sometimes, she is decisive in important matters and has due masculinity. In fact, my mother's view of love is not one-sided, and she will ask a lot of dad. When she is sick, she will rely on her father. When my brother and I are not at home, she will restrict her father's travel because she is afraid of loneliness. Mom is like this, no matter how old she is, she still needs each other's care and care. These should be the occupations that every woman loves! Dad is a very filial child. Although he has been married for many years, he still listens to his parents, which always causes his mother's jealousy from time to time. In fact, many times, mom is more filial than dad materially, but mom is not a person who always wants the other party to know when she has done good things, so many filial things are attributed to dad, at least grandma thinks so. Mom always said that working with dad was very frustrating, but when I advised her to work alone, she would hesitate, hesitate, and swing from side to side, saying that your dad didn't want to prevaricate or directly reveal my feelings that I was not comfortable driving alone. Someone reminded him that it would be much better to talk to him. Although every time I encourage her to speak her mind in a similar way, and every time she will cooperate, I can't help but feel sour and warm after listening to such words. My mother sometimes makes a little confused, but she is very sensitive to my father's affairs and can take good care of my brother and me. This is the mother's view of love. She will lose her temper, cheat, be confused, and be unreasonable, but she will always try her best to love someone. Maybe my mother never thought about love in her life, but she told me something about the true meaning of love with practice. When love was opposed by my mother ● Narrator: Chen Chen, female, at the age of 25, when my parents were quarreling again, I was as dumb as a log and cried my exercise book wet. Why do they always quarrel? In my heart, I am on my mother's side. Father and friends drink and play cards. When I don't come back at night, I always hear a low and trembling sigh when I sleep with my mother. I thought, why don't I have a gentle and considerate father? My parents were introduced to each other, and they felt ok when they met. Both parents agreed to get married. After years of quarreling, they finally broke up and I lived with my mother. From then on, I no longer believe in love in my mother's heart, and it is the same for me. I always look at my feelings with utilitarian eyes. Now I am very contradictory, standing at the crossroads, I don't know what to do. I have been in love with my boyfriend for almost three years. We have a good relationship and are very happy together. But now, my mother strongly opposes our continuing contact. I went home on May 1 this year, and I showed my boyfriend to my mother. Unexpectedly, my mother is not satisfied at all. She thinks my boyfriend is the same type as my dad, and he will definitely be unhappy and dissatisfied in the future. Keep me away from him. I didn't answer my mother directly because I didn't want to be angry with her. She is in poor health, and I don't want to stimulate her. My mother called me the other day and talked about it again. I told my mother that I didn't want to be apart because I liked him very much. Even after separation, it is natural, not for this reason. Mom said that she understood my reluctance and my heart, but she said that liking someone and getting married are two different things. Marriage is a lifetime thing. My mother said that she was my only child, and she wanted me to be well, but she firmly opposed it. If I have to be with my boyfriend, that's good. She just ignored us and treated me like a mother. One is the mother who gave birth to me and raised me, and the other is the boy I love deeply. How should I choose? According to statistics, only one in ten people whose parents are not optimistic will obey their parents and break up with their partners. Love makes people lose their minds and recognize their parents' views, which is the main reason why young and energetic children refuse to obey. Only a few people who absolutely believe in their parents think that their parents are experienced people, will not harm themselves, and will reluctantly give up what they want. I know that parents have their own considerations when they say no to their children's own choices. I also know that they refused to listen to their parents' opinions and came together in desperation. Many people regret it because of the triviality of their married life. On the other hand, due to disagreement with parents, family ties have been estranged, which will definitely make married couples feel sorry. Can't feel the love memories our parents gave us. Knowing that they have a good relationship, I think I still have a lot of time to try and experience, so that my love can gradually approach the result of love. On the road of love, I feel that I have always been brave and hurt, but I can only go on like this. My parents have a bad relationship and seldom exchange things in this field. But I think love is my own business, and I can decide my own love. -when we grow up and fall in love, we will always encounter one thing or another. It is a good thing to copy the secret recipe of our parents' love, and we can avoid many detours. However, since love took root in our hearts, it has injected our character, and there are always some things that cannot be changed. I always tell my mother and myself to relax. Memories are always painful, so eat, drink and be merry. -I'm 2 1 year old, and I'm long past the age when my parents' divorce will cause mental damage. However, it is a pity to think that the couple have supported each other for so many years and finally ended up like this. -Mom and Dad's marriage basically covers all marital problems, which can be used as a typical marriage sample in China. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and marital infidelity can be found in their marriage. Mother is unhappy because she can't get even a little love from her father. When I first learned that my father didn't love my mother, I was 5 years old and was in kindergarten. Hot comment on love without declaration "I have no car, no money, no house and no diamond ring, but I have a heart to accompany you to your old age." When you are old, I will still carry you on my back. I will be your crutch. When you have no teeth, I will chew them up and feed them to you. I must wait until you die, otherwise I will leave you alone in this world, and no one will take care of you ... "This passage was shouted from Liu Yiyang in Naked Marriage, and I believe that not only the heroine in TV, but also many girls in front of TV have a snot and a pile of tissues, which was deeply touched. No matter how heartfelt his declaration of love is, no matter whether it can really be fulfilled in the future, let's get down on one knee and roar loudly in this big shopping mall. I wonder if the mothers of these two people will be ashamed or annoyed when they see it. Indeed, in my parents' time, love was rarely expressed through words. They didn't ask, "Whether in prosperity or adversity, whether rich or poor, whether in health or disease, whether in happiness or sadness, will you love him unreservedly and be loyal to him forever?" I didn't answer the romantic "yes, I do" either. At that time, it was mostly the matchmaking words of parents' life matchmakers or friends. After a while, the marriage was settled and the small business was done. And after that, it is a lifetime. Tolstoy said that all happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. This sentence always applies, because we always stubbornly believe that parents' love is not happiness. However, after so many ups and downs that can't be called misfortune, their love is finally calm and perfect, and the territory of love can also accommodate the beauty and tranquility of running water. Their love is the natural beauty of the fields, soil and countryside. Some are plain and real, some are flustered but firm, and some are playful but unswerving ... Among them, there are fewer expectations and fantasies such as princes and princesses, and more down-to-earth farmers and women's ideas. The troubles and worries of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea did not destroy them, but made them more tolerant. In fact, love has truth, goodness and beauty, tolerance and understanding, simplicity and dullness, and love is destined to be happy and complete. If modern fast-food love is like a cup of coffee, a strong fragrance will come to my face; The love of the previous generation is a cup of tea with good concentration, mellow but full of charm. Mom is water and dad is tea. The meeting of water and tea is destined to be a happy story. In fact, if love is simple and simple, you and TA can also be a delicious cup of tea. If you are a glass of water, I hope you can see your tea as soon as possible ... and contact your parents about the possible impact of marriage on your children. Sociologists found through investigation that a son who witnessed his father working all day and his mother obeying his father is likely to ask his spouse to revolve around him in the future, because this is the marriage concept he accepted since childhood. If the woman he happened to meet came from a family where his father took care of his mother, it would be difficult for them to coordinate their lives. Because in this wife's mind, it will be taken for granted that her husband takes care of her emotional needs. This is the inheritance of children's marriage mode to parents' marriage mode. Sociologists also point out that if a son is dissatisfied with his father's behavior and sees his mother nagging or Lacrimosa all day, he probably won't like his wife crying when he grows up. If a daughter sees that her father has no strong ability to handle affairs and is bullied everywhere in life, she may expect her husband to be a strong man when she grows up. In her mind, her father's cowardice is the root of her painful life, so in her own marriage, this situation will be avoided anyway. This is the exclusion of parents' marriage mode from children's marriage mode.