Extroverts and introverts.

There are extroverts and introverts. Some children can talk at home, but they are introverted outside. Noisy at home, shy outside; I am a bully at home, but I don't like to talk in kindergarten. What are the dual personalities of extroversion and introversion?

Extrovert-introversion dual personality 1 1 Generally speaking, this will happen when the family is overprotective, the children are overprotective and the children have little contact with the outside world.

Please imagine that a child is reckless and very active in front of his family. Once he left his parents who protected him, he felt helpless, stiff and slowly adapted. Moreover, the family let the children go, the friends outside refused to let him go, and the children in kindergarten did not listen to him. Such a small setback in interpersonal communication makes children claim to be the overlord at home, but they are silent outside.

2, there is no advantage at home.

Children with high self-esteem behave well. If you want to win games at home, you have to be praised by adults, you can eat yourself, and you have to be praised by your mother. But after entering the park, I suddenly found that there were many people who were better than myself. Every time I sing, I can't get applause from others, even the children laugh. Children are introverted when they lose their sense of superiority.

Adults destroy children's adaptation to rhythm.

Children should adapt to the environment at their own pace when communicating with the outside world for the first time. Adults don't rush! Some children are shrinking, quiet and unsociable because they are observing the safety of the environment and are slowly adapting. When they think they are safe and confident, they will naturally participate. Mom, don't worry, just wait a little longer, okay? When a mother always measures her children by the performance of other children, such as "You see how gregarious and lively XXX is", children who grow up in their own way will feel pressure. The more parents pay attention, the more they want their children to be lively and bold, and the more they avoid and resist.

Why are children happy at home? That's because children like to do things alone at home (especially children who are naturally introverted and like to do things alone). The outside environment is strange, and children have many people they don't know, so they will inevitably be anxious. In addition, parents always label their children as "our children are introverted" and "our children can't talk", which makes them even more reluctant to let go in the face of strange environment. Over time, it is not surprising that they are called bullies at home and cowards outside.

If the child has such a problem, first of all, don't leave the child alone at home. It is good for children to suffer some setbacks properly, and it is normal to cry and be unhappy. Don't keep them too expensive. Secondly, bring more children into contact with the outdoor world and great rivers and mountains. Dealing with all kinds of children makes them cheerful. A naturally introverted child, give him time to adapt. You don't have to force him to act like a lively child. Concentration and endurance are the advantages of introverted children. Just be yourself! Please invite two kindergarten children who live close to each other to play at home. Home is the home of children, and children will be more confident and will gradually get better.

Extroverts and introverts II. Being active at home is not representative or extroverted. It is also a kind of aphasia that you dare not speak when you are in contact with your family. The reason is that there is too little communication. As parents at home, we should not only love our children, but also communicate with them more, that is, chat and talk.

Parents need to let their children know what to say under what circumstances. At least you have to answer other people's questions. And know what to answer and how to answer. Encourage children and let them dare to speak their minds. And always ask your child, why? Let the child tell you the reason himself, and then you can guide the child to develop in a positive direction.

An introverted child in the eyes of parents

Last month was the opening season of kindergarten. On the first day of school, the parents of their daughter's class didn't go to class very much, and teachers such as WeChat kept brushing the latest photos.

A mother sent the photos taken by the teacher to the group, marked her children with red circles and asked the teacher to take care of them, because "a few photos felt that he was sitting alone, and he had been taking photos in his hometown before, and the children were less courageous." Immediately after that, several parents said that their children were also shy and asked the teacher to let their children play with other children.

Most parents are anxious about shy children, for fear that their children will not fit in. If you are a child, you may overhear that your parents have to apologize to others because of your shyness. If you are a parent, you may have inadvertently apologized to others for your child's unsociable communication style.

As early as 1956, in the best-selling book Organizer, William White described how parents and teachers worked together to completely reverse the character of those silent children. "Johnny's performance at school is not satisfactory." White repeated a story told by a mother. "The teacher said that he performed well in class, but his communication and coordination skills were poor. He only plays with one or two friends and often entertains himself. "

At that time, parents were willing to accept such interference: "Except for some stubborn parents, most parents are grateful to the school for tirelessly resisting introverted and other unsociable habits."

Everyone loves extroverted children. It seems that introverted children need special care to make them work hard. Parents and schools are trying to cultivate those silent students into talkative people. Slowly, when children grow up, they will form a subconscious mind. Introverts naturally feel that they should learn from extroverts. How nice it would be to be like them! The more they deny their own characteristics, the more they will bring entanglement and internal friction.

Are parents subtly bringing their stinking problems to their children? Parents silently formed a kind of * * * knowledge. The ideal state of children is gregarious, and silence and loneliness are not recognized.

Extroverted and introverted dual personality 3 dual personality

I am a very outgoing and cheerful person. Traveling alone, walking in the scenic spot, it is easy to chat with another stranger, and then talking and laughing along the way, like a good friend I haven't seen for years. So, it's easy for me to make new friends.

But I am also a very introverted person. I like reading quietly, and I don't like being disturbed by others, so I don't like chatting on WeChat very much, and I don't like posting things like "Have you eaten? Have you been in a good mood recently? " Friends who have a good relationship with me will say "forget it, go to read" when I make a series of expressions.

At one time, I felt a little dual personality, because two people I really didn't like, two completely different people. But later I learned that everyone has multiple personalities, because sometimes we hope to leave a good impression on others by changing our behavior, and we can't rise to the professional scope of "dual personality" at all. Moreover, if you think you are a "dual personality", you will virtually classify yourself as a patient. This morbid self-awareness is very bad.

The Psychology of Success (Dennis 6 1 whiteley Houlang Publishing House) said, "Each of us has a set of views on ourselves, that is, our self-image. Everything we will do or try to do is based on our belief in ourselves. Our self-image determines how we show ourselves to the world. "

My self-image is positive, and I also think I am a person who is worthy and capable of achieving my goals and achieving success. Although I am introverted, I am happy, which is right. I am a person who is qualified to enjoy happiness. Only I can define what happiness is for me. A firm and positive self-image is my greatest capital in pursuing life!

But a healthy self-image is positive, but it is also realistic. Because a person can't be perfect, he must have strengths and weaknesses. "People with realistic self-image don't worry about their weaknesses, because they know that their strengths outweigh these weaknesses. They don't worry about what they can't do, but let themselves do what they can do better. "

I know I'm more of an introvert, and I'm extroverted occasionally, but I can't stand it if I keep greeting people. Therefore, I may not be suitable for the current sales job. However, I can't limit myself after one year. My interest, ability and knowledge are developing every day. As long as I keep learning, I will keep changing.

I am influenced by the world around me, and I am also influencing the world around me. The world around me will make me have many social roles: roommate, daughter, student, citizen, employee and so on. "Social role is a set of norms (standards of behavior) that stipulate how we should behave in a given social situation or environment." I am cheerful and lively when playing outside. I love reading and sleeping in the dormitory. I am serious and responsible at work. I am sometimes very active and quiet in class. I am lazy and spoiled at home. On different occasions, I behave differently. I don't mean to do one thing in person and one thing behind my back, but I have the ability to handle my social life well and know how I should behave on such occasions.