How to treat parenting anxiety?

In 20 16, as a mother, I began to think about children's education, and realized that our whole educational environment was full of anxiety, so I tried. On the surface, we have many reasons to be anxious about education, and these reasons are natural-for example, exams are very important. If you don't pass the exam, you won't get 985,211,you won't get a good job if you don't get 985,21/. My friends and neighbors are working hard, so I can't work hard? Everyone is familiar with these, and then they will feel "justified". But trapped in this "nature", my life is very bad and I am exhausted every day. I want to do what others have done, and I want to do what others have not done. Why is this happening? Because our underlying assumption is that this society is a knockout society. This situation is necessary in the social environment where education is eliminated. In the case of scarce resources and few university positions, this kind of anxiety will arise only after high screening and high elimination. In the final analysis, it is a "law of the jungle." There is no winner in this system because most of them are eliminated. If eliminated, it is the "loser" in this definition. But will the winner be happy? No, because there will be another round of elimination at any time Everyone is doing these seemingly "natural" things, which is unconscious and collective unconscious. If I ask myself a few questions: If I play this thing, what will be the final result? Finally 100% will lose! When you finish this account, you will feel that there is something wrong. In my new book, Where Does Power Come from, I talk to myself. Even if we have to play this game, I can use my so-called ability to make my child a winner temporarily. Even if you win, the child's life is such a process, is it worth it? I started running at the age of three until I don't know when, and then my next generation will keep running. What do you think is the meaning of this life? Why do we have to go through this life? At this time, you will feel that this "nature" is problematic, and you will question this unconscious state. So as a mother, I will think: What kind of world do I want my children to live in? How does my child spend his life? Everyone wants their children to be happy, satisfied and valuable. What is the strength of this sense of happiness and value? Is it a house and a car? Is it a degree? That's not true. If a child lives in anxiety and pain every day in pursuit of these things, is his life still meaningful? To some extent, these questions make us think about the most important question in life-what kind of life experience do I want? What kind of life experience do I want my children to have? What different choices can I make for this life experience? In the final analysis, it is the awakening process of parents themselves.