How to chat with girls

How to chat with girls? The most important thing in every relationship is communication, but the most important thing is communication. How to communicate? Many friends say that chatting with girls should be casual, so that the other party can see their hearts. So, let me share with you how to chat with girls.

How to chat with girls 1 1 Make good use of expressions or literal expressions.

Many straight men always like to talk to girls by phone or voice for the first time. In their minds, this way of communication can make girls feel that you are close. But in fact, this is a wrong method. Use expressions or literal expressions when you are unfamiliar. A fraternity that starts with words makes girls think you are stiff or strange. She will have resistance, and it will be difficult for you to get along with each other over time. And expressions can not only make girls think you are interesting, but also get to know you conveniently and quickly.

Second, cut into the voice when appropriate.

After you spend some time with your sister, you should learn to use voice or telephone appropriately. At this time, you have a certain foundation. In her mind, you must be a reliable or trustworthy person. With this premise, we can attack women with voice. But before that, you must be prepared. First of all, you should have a good tone or speed of speech to make her think that you sound reliable. Secondly, be prepared before making a phone call and think about what to say. Never stammer on the phone.

Third, learn to express yourself.

Many brothers and sisters always like to ask their sisters questions when chatting. But those girls, especially beautiful girls, always face many men who pursue her every day. If you like asking a girl questions as much as those men, you are a very ordinary person in her mind. Therefore, we should reduce the problem to girls. You should take the initiative to say your own advantages. Then my sister thinks you are a very nice person. In her opinion, you are different from others. She will naturally want to chat with you.

Fourth, the message should not be returned within a few seconds.

Some brothers are online 24 hours a day when chasing girls. Taobao customer service didn't come back as fast as her. No matter what my sister says, she can always reply quickly in the next second. In this way, girls will think you are very strange. You are a very idle person, as if you are playing with your mobile phone every day. In her mind, she will think you are a diaosi, so the correct way is to wait for 5 to 10 minutes before replying, no matter what. In this way, girls will subconsciously think that you are always busy with something. When she doubts, tell her that you are really busy, that you are busy with business, but no matter how busy you are, you will take the time to reply to her. This way, my sister looks like you are a very kind person and would like to be with you.

How to chat with girls 2 1, don't cross the line.

First of all, understand that although you put the girl in the position of "love" in your heart, this position is very important and intimate. But what needs to be clarified is where the girls put you.

Although not necessarily deliberately positioning, but everyone's subconscious will have a vague positioning of the people around them, and draw a vague boundary between themselves and them.

For example, some people are brothers, some people are good friends, and some people are nodding acquaintances. You will have a deep communication with your brother to express your deep feelings, but you will not have a deeper dialogue with a nodding acquaintance, who may not be very interested in your heart.

The same is true of the relationship between men and women. Your relationship with girls is different, so the content and way of chatting should be different. This relationship does not depend on your positioning of her, but on her positioning of you. Although you may regard her as true love in your heart, she only regards you as an ordinary friend. At this time, if you talk to her about deeper topics, she may not be willing to listen, and may even be counterproductive.

Under normal circumstances, boys chasing girls will generally go through four stages: acquaintance, acquaintance, ambiguity and love. Grasping the scale of each stage can make the chat go on happily.

For example, if you want to chase a girl you just met through friends, you can start talking with friends. This topic belongs to your comfort zone, but if you talk about some personal topics from the beginning, girls may be embarrassed.

Every stage of ascension needs communication and time catalysis. Correctly grasping the communication scale of each stage is the "good medicine" for the sustainable development of feelings.

2. Don't just talk but don't listen

If you open the chat records of many boys, you will find the same problem, that is, when chatting with girls he likes, boys are chatting, and few girls reply a few words. "En", "Good" and "Right" became the words with the highest response rate among girls.

Why is this happening? Girls are too cold? Probably in the hearts of many boys. But one question to understand is, if girls really don't want to chat with you, why don't they find an excuse to prevaricate? In fact, most of the "mistakes" in this case are still boys. A very important question is whether you have given girls a chance to speak.

Many people talk endlessly about their interests, as if a person can talk for three days and nights, but they ignore a question: are the people you are talking to interested in your interests? In fact, many times, girls are not cold, but are not interested in what you are saying and don't understand.

It is better to do more questions when chatting. For example, when talking about interested boys, you can say, "I prefer to ride a bike alone on weekends." What do you like to do on weekends? " Leave the right to speak to girls and continue along the topic of girls, so that we can communicate better when we come back.

3. Don't deny the girl's point of view just to express yourself.

Once, my colleague Xiao Zhang fell in love with a new girl in the company. Because Xiao Zhang's appearance and conditions are also very good, the relationship between the two people is also heating up rapidly. Before, everyone had too much communication with new colleagues. Xiao Zhang seemed to talk about everything with girls, but in a few days, girls always avoided Xiao Zhang and were no longer willing to chat with him.

Why did this happen? The initial contact was smooth, but when it was about to go further, it suddenly became indifferent. It turns out that when chatting with the new girl, Xiao Zhang has been denying the girl's point of view in order to express himself.

For example, girls say that the newly opened food stall is good, and Xiao Zhang says that the food stall environment is not as good as the western restaurant in the east of the city. Girls say they like barbecue, and Xiao Zhang says barbecue is not good for people's health, so it is better to eat steak. In this way, in the process of chatting, Xiao Zhang killed the girl's affection for him from the beginning.

In fact, when you deny others, it always gives people a sense of humiliation, especially when new colleagues face the new environment. If you want to chat more happily and get closer, it is actually more useful to agree than to deny. Say yes more in the process of chatting. In the long run, she will like chatting with you more and more, because when chatting with you, she will gain more sense of identity than others, so that your relationship will be further improved.

In fact, in a long-term relationship, girls prefer to associate with men they can talk to, rather than good-looking girls. Knowing the positioning of each communication stage, giving girls more opportunities to speak, agreeing more and denying less will definitely make your relationship further.