It's hard for you to jump ship after 40, but you don't accept your fate. What should you do?

I will. First of all, based on their own work, go all out, be serious and responsible, dare to take responsibility, and do a good job with an innovative work attitude. In an ordinary post, with the spirit of work, make extraordinary achievements. Second, I will improve my technical ability. Third, I will improve my knowledge and quality. Fourthly, I will choose a university or institution related to my work to further study and practice the above viewpoints. As long as you work hard and pay, you will get something. It is a talent, and sooner or later it will be discovered and reused by the employer. So, for me at the age of 40, it's hard to change jobs, but I don't accept my fate, so I'll just do it.

Just over 40 years old, let's talk about my opinion-if you don't accept your fate, you will force yourself. Because the road is forced out, but we must be strategic and not reckless.

Pushing yourself means: whether you want to start a business or jump ship, don't think too much. Try your best before into the pit.

I understand the "sentimentality" of people in their forties, but I can't help thinking too much-I don't want to be like this in my life at this age, but I have to consider the problems of being old and young, and paying tuition fees for car loans and mortgages. So, sigh and comfort every day.

We all learned to swim. What is the most important thing to learn to swim? Not tossing and turning on the shore thinking about the principle of swimming, the rationality of action and the plan of study, but-getting into the water! Get in the water! Get in the water! You never know how far you can swim in the future, because you don't go into the water!

Especially at this age, after another five years-10 years, I must begin to regret why I didn't try my luck when I was 40.

Because we are not sages, it is impossible to "fully understand" most things, so, in any case, cut off the back road first and start talking!

Many times, the road is forced out.

I had dinner with some friends some time ago, and all six of them started their own businesses. Except that 1 is the natural boss of the family business, the other five, according to their own statements, are forced.

The situation is different: some people can't find any good jobs because they haven't been to college, but they don't want to be workers; Some people are laid off from state-owned enterprises and have no skills to start businesses; There is a friend who is more interesting. He spent a lot of money while working and bought a good car and a big house with a loan. Later, that company gradually failed, and found that there was great pressure to return to work and repay the loan, so I had to start a business!

Did you get a look at him? In fact, many entrepreneurs don't think that they all have "entrepreneurial ideals" at the beginning, and they are all "forced by life".

If Mr. Ma Yun, who is more handsome and has a better school, can find a job in KFC, maybe there will be no Alibaba in this world.

So many people's decisions are forced out. If they are in trouble, they should force themselves. If they have no difficulties, they should force themselves to create difficulties.

When we say we have to force ourselves, we don't mean we have to act rashly, but we have to have some methods. Everyone knows the story of "The Last Stop", but the last stop didn't get tired of living in Han Xin and went to die with his team. He must have horses, swords and hay to prepare for the war.

Therefore, the last fight is actually a strategy, not just a determination. So, we have to have some methods. There are mainly the following five points for attention:

Go back and explain to your wife and children why you did this, hoping to get their understanding and support. You know, any change must be tortuous. When encountering difficulties, you should at least have a "shelter harbor" where you can dock, instead of being scolded by your wife in a "crazy corner".

Many people are embarrassed to tell their friends when they jump ship or start a business, for fear that failure will be looked down upon by others. No! The more you start, the more you need the help of your friends. This "inexplicable self-esteem" is absolutely unacceptable, you know-a true friend will not laugh at you because you are in trouble, but will lend a helping hand.

After all, we are not really at war, or we will die if we succeed. Enough food and grass means that we can have more time and more opportunities to try. Therefore, we should make a plan to see how to increase income and reduce expenditure, and have more reserves to support us to fight a "protracted war"

Do things with determination, but not rashly. The road you choose to take today, someone must have taken it. So, go and see those people passing by. What are their successful experiences? What are the lessons of failure?

Learning to swim, it's not that nothing will jump directly into the lake, is it? There are still some preparatory work to be done.

How to keep your preparation from quenching your determination? There are two principles:

First, it is not more about whether this thing can be done, but how to do it.

Second, the preparation time should not be too long. People will get tired after a long time.

You know, the results and rewards of life are nothing more than a penny. If there is no line, no surface and no color, we will never draw our colorful life.

40 is an awkward age. It is true that it is difficult for men of this age to change jobs, but we often don't want to. What should we do?

In my opinion, the best way is to design your career path in advance, such as planning your career path at the age of 35 when you are 30, and planning your career path after 40 when you are 35.

Only in this way can we have enough time to make preparations, so that we will not find it difficult to change jobs and continue to work until we are 40 years old, and put ourselves in an embarrassing situation.

Now there is a hot word in the workplace called "midlife crisis", which means that 35 years old is a hurdle in the workplace. Many units do not recruit people over the age of 35, and some units optimize employees over the age of 35.

But don't be scared away by age. As long as we are prepared in advance, we can survive the midlife crisis safely and even live a better life than before. What are the specific development directions?

First, based on the existing work, tap the unique advantages. If you did a good job in your original position, you will take up management positions at the age of 35, such as supervisor, manager, director, etc. Then you should dig deep into your own advantages, such as having certain customer resources, some powerful contacts, excellent management skills, maintaining and constantly improving yourself and making yourself an irreplaceable talent.

The position of the company is a pyramid structure. The more people go up, the fiercer the competition. If you can't go up step by step, you can at least keep your current position. People lying on credit books are not welcome in the workplace, especially those over 35. No matter what position you are in, you should keep learning and improving. Only by having absolute advantages can we occupy a place in the workplace.

Second, there is no hope of promotion, seize the opportunity to quit. It is difficult for a 40-year-old man to change jobs, which does not mean that he can't change jobs, or it is difficult to jump to a good place. Some people have stayed in a company for a long time, probably because of the limitation of the company's promotion mechanism and salary mechanism, there is no hope of promotion and salary increase. At this time, do you want to do nothing or take the initiative to seek opportunities?

Many enterprises believe that "foreign monks can recite scriptures". There is no hope of your promotion in this unit, but you may get a promotion and a raise in another unit. For example, some units and start-ups that urgently need professional talents often need talents with real skills. The work experience and network resources you have accumulated in many years of work can continue to come in handy in the new unit. As long as you can continue to provide value to the new unit, you will be appreciated by the boss.

Third, do a good job of ability transfer and establish a personal brand. When a person is 40 years old, he has certain experience in all aspects and rich experience in the workplace. You can't do the same repetitive and nutritious work every day and hold a fixed and low job every month like a newcomer. That shouldn't be our state of life. What should I do at this time?

The first is to change direction. Summarize the methodology and underlying logic in the preliminary work, and then integrate the knowledge of resource transfer, sort out personal network resources, and establish a personal brand with its own influence. Once a personal brand is established, you will have the opportunity to go out for training, write and sell books, impart skills, make money through online and offline influence, and become a workplace mentor.

The second is to start your own business. Find the advantageous project that suits you, set up a team at the right time, and use the past connections to start your own business. The company may not like 40-year-olds, and the boss doesn't need me to continue, so I will switch to being my own boss, and one person can live as a team.

Finally, I once read a book called Lifelong Growth. I think everyone is the same. We can't give up learning because we are old, and we can't give up self-growth because of social prejudice. No matter when, we should have growth thinking, don't make excuses for failure, just find ways for success.

As the saying goes, "God never shuts one door but he opens another". If this road comes to an end, then we should know how to turn at the right time, don't be anxious because we are old, but look up at the road, the sky and find our own way. As long as we plan our career path in advance, we will certainly open up a new world.

I'm thinking about this problem.

As a 70-year-old, after graduating from college, he gave up his public office and entered the society to pursue his dreams. After joining the postgraduate entrance examination army, I dreamed of becoming a professional manager, mistaking platform ability for personal entrepreneurial ability and failing; Respond to the call to become bigger and stronger, join the state-owned enterprises for several years, and the result was tempted by entrepreneurship and failed again; Keep tossing, keep tossing, and fail. Family responsibilities are inescapable, and fathers must set a good example. So, completely empty yourself and think about where to go tomorrow. Anyway, the goal is firm-fight for another 20 years!

40 is not confused. Most people are around 40 years old, and their jobs and families are already very stable. Under such circumstances, they are not satisfied with the status quo and want to change, but they are willing but unable. That body and mind can't stand a lot of tossing. Suggestion: develop your hobbies based on the present and divert your attention.

There is no advantage in changing jobs after 1.40. The 40-year-old man has reached middle age. If he is a professional manager, there is no job-hopping problem at all. Naturally, the headhunter found it. If you are an ordinary office worker, in fact, there is not much advantage in changing jobs at the age of 40, and the space for changing jobs is very limited. First of all, your body really can't stand the toss. At the age of 40, your body and energy are different from those before 30, and your energy and body have declined. Therefore, even if your salary is higher than your current salary, you may not be able to eat it to a large extent.

Second, you need to think twice before you act. If you want to change jobs after the age of 40, certain economic conditions allow. If you are an ordinary family, you will choose to change jobs at the age of 40. On the one hand, your economy will have a short-term wealth shortage; On the other hand, you may choose fewer jobs on the issue of employment, so you need to comprehensively measure your current environment and expectations after job-hopping before job-hopping. Only in this way can we avoid the confusion after job-hopping.

Third, you can develop your hobbies and divert your attention. Not only after 40 years old, for example, I am now in my thirties, and sometimes I really don't want to accept my fate, I am not satisfied with my present life, but I can't change it. In this case, it actually shows that I still have certain limitations and can't change the status quo. I just want to divert my attention to develop a profitable sideline or something I am good at. I don't think there is anything unwilling to accept my fate.

In other words, the workplace is decades. If everyone pursues higher goals, it is of course correct, but if you don't have the heart that can't stand the toss, there is no need to compete with yourself.

Finally: contentment and being based on the present is actually the best way of life. Maybe this way is the most suitable for you at this stage. The so-called fans of the authorities just didn't find it themselves.

Learning and constantly improving yourself is the only magic weapon to get out of this anxiety.

I feel the need for careful consideration and safe handling! You don't have to give up your dreams when your family and personal life are stable and secure!

It's not too late to start a business or jump ship, but you should choose to start a business stably and deal with it rationally! Dreams need passion and life needs stability!

If the conditions have not been met, please sleep and get ready! If so, please set sail! Dreams are to be realized! ! !

Age, I think as long as you are ready, you don't have to think too much! Because, as long as it's not seventy or eighty, as long as it can shake, it can run!

Put down the burden and choose to move forward!

I know a single mother named Zhao, and her experience in recent years may be the best answer. When Xiao Zhao was 40 years old, her husband left her and her two minor children forever because of illness. At that time, the eldest daughter was 15 years old and went to junior high school, while the youngest daughter was 10 years old and went to primary school. Although there is no foreign debt at home, all my savings are spent on treating my husband.

Xiao Zhao works in a company with a monthly salary of 1800 yuan. Although it is not high, it is relatively fixed. If he doesn't resign, he can work until he retires. But 1800 yuan's salary, to support a family of three, is obviously very tight. Do you want to quit your job and find a job with higher income? It has become a problem for her to consider.

After going to the talent market and being introduced and helped by friends, she also learned about several jobs. However, because of her relatively old age and low education, she only has a junior high school education, and even if her salary can be higher, she can't do it. It is unrealistic to change the status quo by learning cultural knowledge. After careful consideration, she decided to continue this low-paid but relatively stable job, first to support her family, and then to increase her income through part-time work.

In order to increase her income, she looked for part-time jobs everywhere. At that time, it happened that a cleaning staff in the residential property resigned and there was a vacant position, but people only recruited full-time. Because the cleaning staff not only cleans their own areas twice a day in the morning and evening, but also does routine cleaning, that is, they patrol their own areas every day and clean up the garbage discarded by residents at any time. In fact, only the morning and evening are the most tiring days, and the rest are very relaxed, because most residents' awareness and quality of environmental protection have improved, and littering rarely occurs.

She went to the property manager, hoping to be lenient and take care of the practical difficulties at home. The property manager, a lesbian, sympathized with her experience and reluctantly agreed to her. But the condition is that she can only get 50% of her salary and promise to clean it twice every morning and evening, and the other 50% will be given to two cleaning staff in her adjacent area to patrol and clean her during the day while patrolling her own area. Salary of cleaning staff 1800 yuan, 50% 900 yuan. She agreed.

From then on, she got up less than 4 o'clock every day, cleaned the area for 2 hours first, then went home to cook for the children and sent them to school. Pick up the children from work at night and prepare dinner. Sometimes they can't eat, and they will clean for another two hours. So she worked for three years.

Three years later, the eldest daughter went to college, and the younger daughter went to junior high school and lived on campus, but the economy was tighter because the tuition and living expenses of the eldest daughter were almost 20 thousand a year. Although her daughter is very sensible and found a part-time job soon after she went to college, Xiao Zhao decided to find another part-time job to increase her family income.

Xiao Zhao found a part-time job in a courier transfer station. His job is to distribute express goods every hour 15 yuan, because the transfer point works 24 hours. She cleans up after work every day, and then goes to the transfer point for 4 hours. She goes to 60 yuan every day and earns 1800 a month.

At this time, her full-time job salary rose to 2600 yuan. In this way, the monthly income of the main business plus part-time work can reach up to 5300 yuan. The family of three is self-sufficient, and the children all follow their mother's example. They are also self-disciplined and self-reliant and study well.

As can be seen from the above story, there are always ways to do things in the world that are much more difficult, and relying on others is better than relying on yourself. At that time, Xiao Zhao's situation also met some conditions for low-income assistance, but she refused, and persisted no matter how hard and tired she was. I think this is the best choice! And it is the most respectable choice!

If a person often wants to start his own business, no matter how old he is. Moreover, if you can't suppress it, then this person is the right person to start a business. As long as he is determined, he will succeed sooner or later. For most people, starting a business is a way to change their lives and upgrade their family class. Although there are great risks in starting a business, those who have been starting a business will eventually succeed as long as they are on the right track and operate with integrity.

First of all, I disagree with this assumption!

Why is it so difficult to change jobs at 40? Why do you think this will happen all your life after 40?

Since you think so, why don't you leave it to fate?

We will find that many people always like to define others with their own views and thinking, which is really ridiculous.

You may lose motivation at the age of 40, or most people will have a stable life after 40. But this does not mean that some people are still high-spirited when they are 40 years old, and they may not be able to make a difference in the future!

Do it first!

Whether you are 40 or 50 years old, as long as you want to change, don't hesitate to act immediately, because the time for trial and error is getting less and less, the cost is getting bigger and bigger, and there is not much time left for us to consider.

Not vertically, try horizontally!

Job hopping is actually more vertical. If there is no market for job-hopping, you can develop horizontally, find your own interests or find resources that suit you. If the development trend is good, it may not be worse than job hopping.

Strengthen your confidence and keep your mind!

Many people always use his thinking to influence you, for example, when you are 40 years old, the trend is gone, and the results are the same if you work hard or not. If we choose the right path, we must stick to it!