How to recognize yourself?

It is the cleverest and most valuable for a person to know and treat himself soberly. "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. The winner is strong and the loser is strong. " It means that being able to understand and know others is called wisdom, and being able to know and know yourself is called intelligence. Knowing is being able to know yourself. "People are expensive and have self-knowledge", Lao Tzu thinks that a person can know people and be good at their duties, which is a manifestation of wisdom; It's really smart to know yourself.

2. Know yourself.

The saddest thing in life is not to be devastated after loss, nor to choose the wrong life path; It's that you, who are white-haired, haven't recognized yourself and what you have done. To be a man, we must recognize ourselves, be strict with ourselves, and be good at examining ourselves by comparing others and learning from others. Only when a person knows himself clearly and finds his goal can he have the right to choose what he wants and reject what he doesn't want. If you can't know yourself correctly and have no goal, just because you think everything is not good at present, you will put down what you have, which is indecisive and change your mind. If you hesitate like this, you will accomplish nothing in the end. The ancients said: "See the sage Si Qi Yan, see the sage and introspect." It means: when you see advanced model figures, you must learn from them and keep up with them; When we see other people's shortcomings, we should ask ourselves whether there are similar problems and shortcomings, so as to avoid repeating the same mistakes and learn from others' advantages and make up for our own shortcomings. Only when you know yourself clearly and know whether you are tall or short will others recognize your achievements, and you can enjoy yourself and truly turn over a new leaf.

The owner of the skyscraper worries about the expensive elevator repair fee every month. Because the building is very high, the elevator doesn't come at once. Passengers are often impatient and keep pressing the button, so the elevator button soon breaks down. Although people see that the elevator button is on, they still have to press it again to feel at ease. It seems that others don't count, and they have to press their own "magic finger" elevator to come. The boss posted many notices beside the elevator, but none of them worked. Finally, he posted a reward, and if someone can make passengers change their habits, he will give a thick reward. So, a psychologist installed a big mirror on the elevator door and solved the problem easily. Because the mirror lets passengers see their impatience, they become polite as soon as they stand in front of the mirror. The originally bustling crowd has become a gentleman and lady in front of the mirror, waiting patiently for the elevator. This is the wonderful use of mirrors. Many times, people don't do evil things on purpose, just don't know what they are doing, and they don't know it. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, "A man's character is his destiny." In other words, a person should recognize his own nature and live the life that suits him best, which is the life that suits him best. To put it bluntly, he needs to recognize himself. If you are a dragon, you can't crawl under the ground like a snake. You always have to think about how to walk on the clouds. It's a duck. Don't try to compete with the peacock. People have different abilities. When you are ready to do something, you might as well know yourself before you do it, so as not to be pecked by wild geese instead of hitting you in the eye. People living in the world, it is important to understand their purpose of living, recognize their value of living, and then strive to realize their value, glow, rather than using their ignorance and self-confidence to destroy their youth. On the wooden bridge of life, there is an abyss of conceit on one side and a gap of inferiority on the other. Don't forget to do it when you are proud. You don't need to exaggerate your important role. The earth will turn without people. When you are frustrated, don't feel too inferior. "People are not sages, to err is human?" "The gentleman said to save himself in three days". Only by truly recognizing yourself and knowing yourself without pretentiousness can we not deviate from our own course on the way forward and be "invincible" in the arena of life. The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, "A man's character is his patron saint." Indeed, once a person knows his own nature and who he really is, he will know what he really wants, just like being guarded by God, and will not get lost in the noisy world. Zou Ji, the prime minister of Qi Weiwang, is handsome, eight feet tall, burly and very strong. Xu Gong, who is in the same city as Zou Ji, is also a handsome man, a famous handsome man in Qi. One morning, Zou Ji got up, put on his clothes and hat, strode to the mirror and studied his costume and appearance carefully. He felt that he was really different and superior, so he casually asked his wife, "Look, who is more beautiful than Xu Gong in the north of the city?" His wife came forward to help him sort out his skirt and replied, "How beautiful you are! How can Mr. Xu compare with you?" Zou Ji was a little unbelievable, because Xu Gong, who lives in the north of the city, is recognized as a handsome man, so he asked his concubine, "Who is more beautiful than Xu Gong in the north of the city?" His concubine quickly said, "Your Excellency is much more beautiful than Mr. Xu. How can he compare with adults? " The next day, a guest came to visit, and Zou Ji chatted with him. Recalling yesterday's incident, he asked the guest by the way, "Who do you think is more beautiful in Xu Gong in the north of the city?" The guest said without hesitation, "Mr. Xu Can can't compare with you, but you are much more beautiful than him." Zou Ji made three surveys, and everyone agreed that he was more beautiful than Xu Gong. However, Zou Ji is a man with brains, and he is not complacent about it, thinking that he is really more beautiful than Xu Gong. One day later, Xu Gong in the north of the city visited Zou Ji's house. Zou Ji was stunned by Xu Gong's imposing manner and radiant image at the first sight. Zou Ji kept looking at Xu Gong while they were talking. He realized that he was not as good-looking as Xu Gong. In order to confirm this conclusion, he secretly looked at himself in the mirror, and then turned to look at Xugong, but he felt that he was longer than Xu. In the evening, Zou Ji lay in bed thinking over and over again. Since I am not as beautiful as Xu Gong, why do my wives and guests say that I am more beautiful than Xu Gong? Finally, he finally found the conclusion of the problem. Zou Ji said to himself, "So these people are complimenting me! My wife says I'm beautiful because she prefers me. I said I was beautiful because I was afraid of me; The guests said I was beautiful because they wanted something from me. It seems that I have been praised by people around me and I can't recognize my true self. " The biggest shortcoming of people is that they are always used to finding self-confidence in others' identification and recognition, and using others' coordinate systems to determine their position. In order to cater to others and achieve the unity of thought, although it violates one's own will, it is also happy, so innovation disappears, personality becomes * * *, and characteristics become popular colors. Lu Xun said it well, only by digging out the national inferiority can we prescribe the right medicine and save lives. However, it is not easy to recognize yourself. It may be a painful process for a person to dissect himself carefully from head to toe, but it will benefit you for life. Maybe you are a success, but don't forget that the wreath of success often covers up some crises that are not easy to find. That beautiful laurel may blind your eyes, weaken your ambition, consume your ambition, and make you go downhill unconsciously until you reach rolling in the deep. It's too late to regret it. Therefore, recognize yourself, open a beautiful wreath, avoid thunderous applause, and put down your lofty posture, so as to face up to your achievements and not forget your shortcomings and deficiencies. Maybe you are a loser, but don't forget that the shadow of failure often hangs over those shining pearls, and you lost yesterday's passion and ambition in endless darkness; Lost yesterday's complacency; Even lost the ideal; Lost the future; Lose self-confidence, but in fact you have the ability to make yourself successful. So, recognize yourself, clear away the foggy shadows, avoid endless darkness, walk out of the muddy swamp, and raise your once-lowered head, and you will find that there are actually enviable treasures in yourself. How to recognize yourself, only with the mirror in your heart, bravely examine your heart, know yourself, and know where your characteristics are? What is your personality? What are the disadvantages? Dig out your own bad roots, always push yourself and reflect on yourself three times a day, so that you can understand yourself, overcome yourself and conquer yourself. Only by facing all the problems in life in this way can we calm down and think about how to solve them. Therefore, know yourself correctly and evaluate yourself, so that your life will be meaningful and you can prove to the world that I have been to this world.

3, the length of the bosom friend, the short self-knowledge.

A correct understanding of oneself is manifested in two aspects: one is to know what one's strengths are; The second is to know what shortcomings you have. A large number of people only know their own advantages, even exaggerate their own advantages, do not know their own shortcomings, and even avoid their own shortcomings. Such people often claim to have self-knowledge. In fact, their "self-knowledge" is at best half of their self-knowledge, but judging from the consequences of dealing with people and things, they are not self-aware and self-evident. That's exactly what happened. The more you preach about how to know yourself, the more ignorant you are. I only know my own advantages, but I don't know my own shortcomings. People with this disease, when talking about work, only talk about achievements, not about shortcomings; Talking about individuals, only talking about customs clearance, not going to Maicheng; When we talk about family, we only talk about filial piety to parents, kindness to wives and daughters, and don't talk about those shady tricks. Suffering from this disease, most people have black wings shaking on their heads. First, because their words are just like "imperial edict", they all obey right and wrong, so they always think they are right and wise; Second, there are always a group of people around them carrying sedan chairs and blowing horns, boasting how wise, great and diligent they are for the people, and they are dizzy all day, thinking that they can really stand side by side with the Buddha. As a person, everyone should have self-knowledge, but as a leader, they should have the spirit of self-knowledge. Being a grass-roots leader is not necessarily a "good" official, but they are the leaders of a unit and a department after all. Therefore, they are not only easily surrounded by nepotism among the three relatives, but also easily surrounded by some small people who specialize in flattering. It is not easy for them to hear correct and true opinions and situations, let alone criticism of their shortcomings, but only flattery. Therefore, if there is no real self-knowledge, it is easy to fall into the fog of clouds and mountains. When you are a leader, you are neither a king nor an emperor, but there are still all kinds of people around you, and you can often hear compliments and compliments. People who say these things are selfish, afraid of me and want something from me. You should know well and don't confuse others, so you are an unqualified leader. Therefore, if you want to develop yourself and gain good results in your studies and career, "self-knowledge" is the prerequisite for your development and promotion. More than two thousand years ago, Lao Zi, a thinker in China, emphasized that people should be kind to themselves. He said: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear; The winner is strong and the loser is strong. " In today's words, people who can correctly understand "people" are smart, people who can correctly understand themselves are smart, people who can overcome others, and people who can clearly understand their own shortcomings and overcome their own shortcomings are considered real strongmen. Only when we really know ourselves, know ourselves, "know our own shortcomings", can we choose our own development direction and determine our own goals. A person who can't fully understand himself is a person who can't evaluate himself correctly. In study or interpersonal communication, his thinking has two extremes: one is to belittle himself and belittle himself; The other "end" is self-expansion and arrogance. And "the greatest pride and inferiority is the greatest ignorance of yourself." It's not easy to really know yourself. In order to remind people to pay attention to self-knowledge, an intriguing warning of "know yourself" carved a long time ago is still preserved in an ancient Greek temple. Things are constantly developing, and there is no end to knowing yourself. Han Feizi said: "It is difficult to know, not to see people, but to see yourself." This is indeed a truth. Some people can be sharp-eyed or overlook thousands of miles, but they turn a blind eye to themselves. When it comes to other people's shortcomings, they are ugly, but when it comes to themselves, they don't know. Look at others always wearing a magnifying glass; If you look at yourself, you can't look through wooden glasses. It's perfect, without any flaws. If you are a person with a certain reputation or official position, I am afraid it is more difficult to become a "confidant" and it is even more difficult to get out of the strange circle of narcissism. As Mr. Lu Xun said: "When celebrities are respected in society, celebrities are often tempted by worship. If you don't be vigilant, you will be stunned. " So know yourself and try to be a smart person. The hardest thing in life is to know yourself. The terrible thing is that narcissism is more dangerous than open challenge. There are not enough self-righteous people, and those who think clearly are unknown. Self-evident, and then we can understand people. Once a meteor shows off its light in the brilliant starry sky, it ends all of itself. Self-esteem is dangerous, and complacency is rampant. When you win, you think you are perfect. Those who achieve great things are proud and have a high reputation, that is, arrogance. In this regard, the ancients had a classic exposition. Confucius said, "A threesome must learn from me." Laozi said, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." Rousseau, a French thinker, pointed out sharply: "People make mistakes not because they don't understand, but because they think they know everything." However, this proletarian revolutionary rejected Comrade Zai, but modestly regarded himself as a "patch" of the revolution. Sages at all times and in all countries are still so, besides, I am not as wise as a grassroots person. If you really want to know yourself, you have to look at yourself from another angle. First, "check yourself". Look at yourself objectively, jump out of yourself and take care of yourself, just like looking in the mirror, we should look at both the positive and negative sides; We should not only see our own bright spots, but also realize our own shortcomings. Including self-evaluation of one's knowledge, ability, personality and quality. Avoid narcissism or conceit. Secondly, we should constantly improve ourselves and learn from Siqi. If the shoe fits, wear it. You know, one day behind the scenes, someone is outside. Only by truly understanding your strengths and weaknesses, making clear what needs to be carried forward and what needs to be avoided, avoiding its weaknesses and promoting its strengths, can you accurately locate your life coordinates. When you realize your own shortcomings, it is the beginning of progress.

4. Know yourself, know yourself, go deep into your heart, and don't be confused by appearances.

Today's society is a society with rapid economic and technological development. Competition pervades every corner of society. Although we have always had opponents and our opponents have been putting pressure on us, the real enemy is ourselves. We ourselves often become the biggest stumbling block to our success. Many times, we failed. Actually, it's not mainly for other reasons. The main reason often comes from ourselves, but we hold back. If you don't stand still, you must know yourself, know yourself, recognize your strengths and weaknesses, make full use of your strengths, avoid your weaknesses, and correct your weaknesses. Only by knowing yourself can we maintain a normal mentality when making achievements, and we will not be complacent, lose ourselves and overestimate our abilities; Only by knowing yourself, will you not be knocked down by setbacks and failures, will you continue to work hard for the established goals, and will you not underestimate yourself. No one can succeed smoothly, and nothing can be achieved without hard work. When we encounter setbacks and retreat for various reasons, we must re-recognize ourselves. Only on the basis of a correct understanding of ourselves can we find the navigation coordinates again and move forward in the direction of victory. Many times, we always think we are right, but only when things have a result do we find our mistakes. We often think that we have fully understood ourselves, but in fact we are blinded by ourselves, or we don't want to be unable to understand ourselves and know ourselves correctly. We are paralyzed by our appearance. How to know yourself? Knowing yourself means knowing your personality, characteristics, strengths, weaknesses, ideals, survival purpose, values, interests, hobbies, hatred, mental state, physical state, life rules, family background, social status, social circle and friends circle. Are you at the peak or trough of your life now, what are your long-term or short-term goals, what do you want to do most, what are your pains and what can you do?

Learn to control your thoughts instead of letting them dominate you.

Our specific activities are guided by thoughts, and every behavior is controlled by our thoughts, some of which are unintentional and some are intentional. However, thought is built on our limbs, and it must originate from our bodies. Before thinking controls activities, we must actively and correctly guide them, or control and correct their mistakes and issue correct action instructions. In this way, our behavior will reduce impulsive factors, make our emotions more stable, and we can look at problems more rationally. If you want to control your thoughts and let them be controlled by yourself, you must know what you want to do, what you can do and what you can't do. When all this is clear, we can set a rule for our behavior in our minds, and use this rule to force ourselves to do what we should and should not do, and so on. It's not easy to control your mind. In the process of activities, the principles we set for ourselves will be influenced by various factors from time to time, which will make the principles we adhere to begin to shake or even collapse. Therefore, in the process of activities, we should review our behavior from time to time, think about our own gains and losses, and reduce our impulsive and radical psychology, so as to regain the control of our thoughts and make our behavior more rational. For example, some people are studying, and when they see a classmate playing football, they can't control themselves immediately. Although they struggled internally, they were quickly defeated by various reasons they found. Some people know that spending too much time online is bad for their health, but they still can't overcome the temptation of the Internet. Some people have the bad habit of stealing knowledge, but they are defeated by their own material desires and finally become habitual thieves. When our thoughts begin to waver, we must pay attention to mastering our own thoughts, controlling our own thoughts and regaining control over our own thoughts, so as to persistently complete our tasks and achieve our goals. ?

6. Set lofty goals and find your idol.

The goal we are talking about is not necessarily to fight for the cause of * * * for life, although in a sense, each of us should set such a goal, but to be honest, this goal is really not easy to set up, and many people only stay in words. It is very good for us teenagers to set up the goal of serving the people wholeheartedly without harming the interests of others. In any case, we need to set a lofty goal. Only by setting lofty goals can we have a direction of hard work and not act blindly. Setting goals can be long-term or short-term. Long-term goals can be what you want to do in the future, what great things you want to achieve in this life, how old you are and how much money you want to earn. In a word, our goal should be what we want to do most. Of course, it's best not to want to play games all your life or become a thief gambler in the future. Our goal must be normal, and we can't harm the interests of others. If not, then you should first look at your outlook on life, your inner world and see if there is anything wrong with your personality.

Long-term goals may sometimes have little effect on our current actions, which requires us to set short-term goals, preferably short-term goals. For example, how far we have to run for physical exercise this morning; When the homework must be finished; When must we recite this article? You are not allowed to enter the game room today; How many points should I get in this unit exam, and so on. Use these short-term goals to correct your behavior at any time and spur yourself to work hard. If you persist in this way for a long time, your self-control will naturally increase. Setting goals is an important way for us to cultivate and enhance self-control. In addition, we can also look for our idols, take idols as an example, and always adjust our behavior and thoughts by taking idols as an example. Idols can be revolutionary martyrs, national heroes, scientists, writers, athletes, business elites, outstanding students and so on. Generally speaking, the idols we choose should be people with similar ideas and great contributions to society. Only in this way can we follow the example of idols, stimulate our own behavior and adjust our own thoughts, so as to play a better role. Of course, you can also imitate singers and movie stars. They have also contributed to society, at least they can play a positive role for us. If you regard local hooligans, legendary thieves, casino gamblers and other negative figures as idols, it will only have a negative effect and push you to the abyss of failure and even crime. Many teenagers' bad habits are caused by bad influences. ?