What should you pay attention to when you speak?

Usually we treat people with sincerity, and lying is the most unacceptable. But if you are good at telling lies as truth and pay attention to the size and art of lying, lies will also bring you benefits, because this is a very important weakness in human nature. Is that everyone is willing to be comforted by false facts.

Japanese western pharmacies. The owner of this drugstore is very popular. Whether it's true or not, as long as it comes out of his mouth, it's always so beautiful, so business is booming. Whenever a customer comes to the door, he immediately gets up to meet him and says "welcome" with a polite bow and scrape on his face, which makes the customers feel happy and satisfied. Next, the drugstore owner began to tell lies from his heart. For example, for older people, he said, "You look so young!" " "For a lady who loves beauty and likes to dress up, say something comfortable and warm like" this suit you are wearing is beautiful ".

Because the pharmacy owner's lies are sincere and customers are willing to associate with him, the pharmacy business will naturally flourish.

The most important thing to tell a good lie is to make a joke, be sincere, and don't make the other person's taboo. If you inadvertently say something that makes the other person sound comfortable and happy, even if it is a polite compliment, sometimes the other person will not accept your intention, but will have a false bad impression on you; Therefore, sincere and serious expression is an important strategy to change the other person's psychology. Even if what you say is completely different from the facts and is a true lie, it goes without saying that as long as it is a sincere expression, the other party will still believe that it is your heartfelt words and will naturally have a good impression on you.

Xiao Zhang went to the store to buy a bike. Knowing that my long legs are disproportionately short, I chose the car, paid the money and asked the boss to lower my seat. Who knows that after a closer look, the owner of the car shop said with an extremely sincere expression, "Sir, your legs must be long!" " Suddenly, Xiao Zhang looked at the cheerful boss and raised the seat of the bicycle. Then, in lightning speed, ride a bike to a warm home. On the way, I was ecstatic when I thought of the boss's confident and decisive sentence "Your legs are absolutely long".

The boss's praise is obviously untrue and the motivation is not clear. Even so, Xiao Zhang thanked him very much.

There is no doubt that the best strategy when you lie is to "look serious". When complimenting each other with lies, it is best to use crisp and decisive sentences and tone, and look serious. For example, after greeting others with "You look radiant, radiant", immediately add "You look much younger than your actual age!" I believe that the other person will be full of satisfaction and will have a good impression on you, because it is human nature to like being praised as young.

Generally speaking, most people attach great importance to their first impression. Therefore, in order to make others have a good first impression on themselves, when they meet for the first time, they might as well discount each other's age by 30% according to their actual age. This is the best strategy, because the discount of 10% has little effect, and the discount of 50% is hypocritical, so compromise is the best degree.

For example, if the other person is 60 years old, you should say, "You look like you are in your forties!" " Of course the other party will be shocked. In order to avoid making the other person feel unhappy because of being fooled, you must first lay a good "psychological preparation" for the other person who is over forty years old, and then praise the other person with a serious expression. If you implement it step by step, the other party will easily accept your "lies" and will be deeply pleased by your sincerity.

One night, several people were drinking and chatting in a bar. When they were drunk, a waitress said to one of them who was a little bald in a decisive voice, "Sir, your age is about twenty-seven!" " Suddenly, he froze and all his friends around him laughed. It's too outrageous to go straight, and everyone can't help but wonder about the rise of this waitress.

It's ridiculous to say that you are in your forties and you are in your twenties. What's more, baldness can never be a feature of youth. So, I couldn't help asking the waitress, but the waitress responded with a very cultured attitude: "Although I don't know your actual age, if someone asks me your age, I will definitely tell him that you are twenty-seven or eight years old, and you really look like twenty-seven or eight years old!" In this way, the two sides argued until her original serious expression appeared in tears, and everyone stopped refuting.

In fact, this gentleman was really moved by the waitress's sincere mind and attitude, and his heart was full of joy. Therefore, when telling lies, you should have a serious expression, and a serious mood is also indispensable. Of course, if you talk to the other person with a modest attitude, don't violate the taboo of the other person, because … once you make a taboo, even if you are serious and sincere, you won't achieve good results. For example, you say to someone who cares about his broken nose, "What a beautiful nose you have!" " "Will certainly make each other extremely unhappy. The more sincere your attitude is, the more angry the other person may be.

Similarly, you must always be careful when dealing with your boss. When the boss asks you any question, you should flash the idea in your mind: what is the real "purpose" of his asking this question? Then according to his "purpose", answer specifically, instead of answering everything truthfully. Speak out when you should lie, don't be embarrassed; Of course, electricity here does not mean telling lies to the boss, but saying what should be said.

In short, telling lies should be just right, otherwise it will be self-defeating and give people the impression of hypocrisy and affectation.