"Honey, let's get a divorce" "Just leave, you foolish and filial man, I've had enough of you"

01.

I saw a very funny joke on the Internet and would like to share it with you:

A farmer fed pigs swill and ended up being criticized by the "Animal Protection Committee" Association" was fined 10,000 yuan - for treating animals badly. The farmer fed the pigs snow lotus instead, and was fined another NT$10,000 for wasting food. One day, the leader came to inspect and asked the farmers what they were feeding the pigs. The farmer said clearly: "I don't know what to feed it. Now I give it a hundred yuan a day and let it go out to eat on its own."

After laughing, do you feel, This farmer is quite pitiful. Nothing he does is right and he cannot be recognized no matter what he does.

In fact, this is also true for being a human being, and even more so for being someone else’s wife.

Tong Yan encountered such troubles. She was an upright person who said one thing and another and did not like to beat around the bush. Therefore, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, they often cause trouble. However, these conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be Tong Yan's problem, but upon closer inspection, it is not entirely her problem. The key lies in the fact that her mother-in-law is too difficult to get along with, and her husband is too stupid and filial to deal with it clearly.

02.

When Tong Yan’s mother-in-law is free, she likes to complain about those seven aunts and eight aunts. Their relatives in the previous life have lived a lifetime and have had all kinds of grievances and resentments.

The mother-in-law complained to Tong Yan that her biological sister was too snobbish and how she treated her badly when she was young and fought for her things. After getting married, she moved into her husband's family and was bullied by her sister-in-law. Her sister-in-law made her angry and made her have a hard time in her husband's family.

Tong Yan felt bored after listening too much, so she kindly advised her mother-in-law to let it go: "Mom, those are things in the past, you should let it go. Besides, haven't both aunts and uncles changed their minds? "Why do you keep saying something wrong about them?"

My mother-in-law didn't show any displeasure after hearing this, she just did what she was supposed to do. Unexpectedly, when Tong Yan was getting ready to go to bed at night, her husband came back from working overtime. He came out of her mother-in-law's room and angrily said to Tong Yan: "What's the matter with you? Why are you talking to my mother? Why are you making my mother angry?"

Tong Yan was confused and didn't know what she had done wrong. I asked my husband a few times, what was wrong with me and what did I say.

Her husband asked her: "Don't you know what you said? Stop pretending? I told you, whoever makes my mother angry will be the bad guy!"

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Tong Yan was so angry that she almost vomited blood and said, "Tell me, what did your mother tell you? What did I say that made her unhappy?"

03.

Her husband finally told the whole story. It turned out that Tong Yan had angered her mother-in-law when she advised her to put it down and stop arguing with her aunt and uncle. Her mother-in-law thought that Tong Yan's elbows were turned outward and she would rather speak for outsiders than for her own people.

Tong Yan felt it was simply unreasonable. What did I say wrong? Didn't I kindly advise my mother-in-law? Why did he become a sinner instead?

Her husband loudly scolded Tong Yan for having low emotional intelligence, not knowing how to behave, and not even understanding the basics of how to behave.

Tong Yan said: "I don't know how to behave, so tell me, what should I say?"

"You won't tell my mother, Mom, they are all I'm sorry for you bad guys, you're right. Let's not associate with them in the future." Her husband taught Tong Yan this way.

Tong Yan’s eyes widened in surprise. My personality is not that of a flatterer at all, and I cannot lie or be smooth at all.

Tong Yan said she couldn’t do it. The younger generation should still interact with each other about the grievances and resentments of the older generation, but why can't they interact with each other anymore?

Tong Yan’s husband scolded her loudly again: “You are stupid, you are said to have low emotional intelligence and you still don’t admit it, won’t you go with them behind my mother’s back? You have to do it in front of my mother. ?”

Tong Yan’s jaw dropped. This is what her husband calls high emotional intelligence.

"I'm sorry, it's not my character to be two-faced.

But I didn't realize how high your emotional intelligence was. Instead, I thought you were very foolish and filial. You followed your mother in everything and couldn't figure it out. "

Tong Yan was not polite, and she had something to say.

04.

At this time, the mother-in-law in the next room finally couldn't hold herself back and ran out. Helping his son: "Who are you calling stupid and filial? You say you are cheating but you still don't admit it. If your own family doesn't help, you have to help outsiders. ”

“Mother-in-law, with your personality, you are wrong, displeased with everyone, and feel sorry for you. That’s why I am willing to talk to you, so I am willing to tell you the truth. You think you are the Queen Mother, and everyone will coax you, give in to you, and follow you. "

Tong Yan was also angered and quarreled with her mother-in-law. Now her mother-in-law was even more angry. A quarrel broke out between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

"Son, divorce her. I don’t want such a daughter-in-law! "The mother-in-law gave an order to her son.

"Wife, let's get a divorce! My mother doesn't like you! "Tong Yan's husband spoke for her mother-in-law without even thinking.

"Just leave, you foolish and filial man, I've had enough of you for a long time! "Tong Yan didn't show weakness and fought back.

Indeed, Tong Yan had long been fed up with her meddlesome and complaining mother-in-law, and she couldn't feel the love for her from her foolish and filial husband. In his heart , His mother is always the most important, dearest and most loved person. If she makes her angry, she will be angry with him and deny her relatives.

People say that smart men hide things from both sides and stupid men.

Tong Yan’s husband is that stupid man who hears bad things about his daughter-in-law from her mother-in-law and accuses his wife with unfiltered words. No one else would be able to bear this. On the other hand, they are completely unclear about right and wrong, act emotionally, and distort facts.

To put it bluntly, men do not know how to coordinate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and do not know how to deal with conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Instead, they create conflicts. , if I change my wife, I still won’t be able to live a happy life.

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Today’s topic: Do you think Tong Yan did the right thing?