Learn speaking skills to achieve high emotional intelligence, how to speak to be considered high in emotional intelligence

Being able to speak means having high emotional intelligence! But what does it mean to be good at speaking? It involves very high skills. Being able to speak eloquently does not necessarily mean being good at speaking, because it may offend too many people! Being impassioned does not necessarily mean you are good at talking, because others may think you are fake! Being eloquent does not necessarily mean you can speak well, because it may make people think that you are self-righteous. Being able to speak in the popular sense means two things. First, it is impressive. Second, it makes people feel comfortable! If you can do these two things, you will be able to speak and have high emotional intelligence! These skills can be used for reference!

1. Say the opposite!

To put it bluntly, it is to set up suspense first and attract attention, and then talk about the point of view! For example, a leader asked a front-line employee if he was doing a good job!

The employee replied: "No!" Then the whole atmosphere became cold, and the middle-level managers were nervous and sweating. The leader was also interested and asked: "Can you tell me what's wrong?"

The employee replied: "You led us to make a lot of money last year. Now I go out by car and go home and sit on the sofa. My efforts are still small, but I still make a lot of money. My daughter-in-law is also filial, and my old lady doesn’t bother me anymore. When life gets better, I gained more than ten kilograms in less than three months, and now I still have to lose weight. That’s why I I feel bad”

When the leaders and everyone heard this, they burst into laughter!

2. Be good at making metaphors and simplify complex things, that is, you can speak!

When a department is so outstanding, people in other departments begin to be jealous of this department and attack it with words. When the evaluation leader saw that everyone said this was bad, he was doubtful and scolded the department leader, "What did your department do? Why do everyone in the circle say you are bad?"

The leader of this department reacted very quickly and said: "China cannot be blamed when the Eight-Nation Alliance invaded China!"

In one sentence, the situation was reversed. And he created two images. First, he seemed to be China back then and was innocent. Second, the other party has many people and power, and they are unreasonable! ”

3. Treat others as they are treated!

According to the system, the money earned by the branch must first be handed over to the head office for summary, and then be collected by the head office. The company allocated money to the branch, but after the head office collected the money, it still refused to allocate funds to the branch. The branch staff could not pay their salaries.

So, the financial leader of the branch went to ask the head office. The financial leader asked for money.

The financial leader of the head office not only refused to give money, but also said arrogantly: "All your branches belong to the head office, let alone this money?" What's the rush? "This is obviously very unreasonable!

However, the financial leader of the branch quickly responded: "Yes, everything in the branch belongs to the head office, and we don't want any money. , but the people in the branch are also people from the head office. Their wages should be taken care of by the head office, and we can save money! "

A nonsense sentence choked the head of the head office to the point where he had nothing to say. He laughed dryly and was unable to speak.

4. Speak with humor and make people remember it deeply!

There is an advertisement for quitting smoking that says that smoking still has many "benefits". First, it can prevent thieves, because you will be afraid of thieves because you cough all night long. Second, you will stay young forever, because you may die young! Third, it can prevent mosquito bites, because the mosquitoes will be smoked away. Fourth, it can enhance personal desire for struggle, because smoking makes you feel a lot of discomfort, and you have to make more money to take care of your health.

Fifth, use your own practice to tell others that smoking is harmful to health and is conducive to the popularization of medical knowledge!

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