How to identify hypocritical people

In reality, you will encounter many hypocritical villains!

We are often deceived by hypocritical villains and end up harmed by them.

Actually, it’s not that hypocritical villains are so powerful, but because the vast majority of people are magnanimous and sincere to others and will not deliberately think bad things about others. People take advantage of opportunities.

If you can notice some abnormal situations around you in time, and pay attention and observe carefully, many people will find out who are the hypocritical villains around you.

To identify hypocritical villains, pay special attention to the following "abnormalities". If you find any of the following "inconsistencies", be careful to find the reason. If there is no reasonable reason to explain, then most of them mean that the person is a hypocritical person.

Inconsistency between words and deeds

Inconsistency between words and deeds means "saying one thing and doing another". When you find someone who talks beautifully but does things that are far from what he says, be careful that this person is a hypocrite.

Inconsistency between words and deeds is somewhat similar to lack of credibility. However, breach of trust is often passive, often due to changes in objective conditions and personal interests that lead to the subject's behavior violating previous promises or agreements. Although the words and deeds are inconsistent, in fact, from the beginning to the end, I never thought about fulfilling the promises and agreements.

For example, A and B are doing business and agree that A will exchange 100 units of commodity A for B's 1,000 units of commodity B. As a result, because the market price of commodity A has increased or the market price of commodity B has fallen, A breaks the contract. This situation is not creditable. Because A did prepare 100 units of commodity A, but because he felt that he could get more benefits, he was unwilling to trade as originally agreed. However, if A has not prepared 100 units of product A at all, or even a single product, then it means that A has been deceiving and entrapping B from the beginning.

Inconsistency

This before and after refers to the time before and after. As the saying goes: sometimes you say this, sometimes you say that. Some people also call this "winding around" or "grass on the wall". In fact, this kind of "twisting and twisting" often means taking the initiative to provoke and create discord. This is different from the "weeds in the wall", because the "weeds in the wall" often change their stance due to external pressure or the temptation of interests.

Inconsistency between light and darkness

The so-called inconsistency between light and darkness actually means "one thing in front of you and another thing behind your back. One thing in public and another in private."

My former boss was just such a person. While the other supervisor was away, he often criticized that supervisor in front of me. But I found that in front of the supervisor, he showed great appreciation and trust in the supervisor. So, I felt acutely that if I were not here, would he also criticize me in front of the supervisor? So, several times when I left, I deliberately "forgot" my cell phone with the recorder on in the office. As expected!

Causation is inconsistent

If a hypocritical villain can be easily discovered from the above three points, his rank will not be high. A true villain can hide his true purpose so that it is difficult to discover. However, no matter how the hypocritical villain tries to hide it, the result he needs exists objectively! If there is a contradiction between this "effect" and its claimed "cause", it often means that the person is a hypocritical villain and has a high ranking.

I have met such a high-level hypocritical villain. When he is trapping and scheming others, he often makes a lot of preparations before harvesting. I helped him summarize it, and there are roughly three types: First, taking advantage of the situation. By instigating and exploiting the desires and needs of others, one achieves their goals. The second is to build momentum. If there are no suitable conditions, he will create momentum. Usually there are two types: one is to find some high-sounding words and make yourself appear to be very positive in a high-profile manner. Thereby gaining the trust, affirmation or sympathy of others from the very beginning. The second is to slander others behind their backs and create rumors about others. Moreover, his behind-the-scenes accusations are not simple and direct, but always done in a way that makes people feel that he just "accidentally" "leaked the truth". Or, he uses some specious appearances to his advantage.

However, no matter how they cover up and hide it, if you are serious, it is not difficult to find that the "cause" that such people say before doing things and the final "result" are not the same thing at all. , and often run counter to that. When this happens, the only explanation is that his original "cause" is just an excuse.

Logical inconsistency

If there is a logical deviation between a person's words and deeds and the facts, it means that the person may be hypocritical.

I once encountered such a thing: a pair of best friends had a falling out and broke off the relationship! The reason is that one party discovered that his best friend and her boyfriend actually deliberately concealed their frequent dating in private, and he stupidly helped his best friend chase the boy he said he liked. Faced with the condemnation of others, this best friend explained that she had been misunderstood. She and her best friend's boyfriend were just ordinary friends of the opposite sex. In fact, she had another love. To prove this, she also found an elder sister to help her be a matchmaker.

I immediately understood that her so-called "other love" was completely false. At best, it could only be regarded as "riding a donkey to find a horse." The so-called "true love" was, at most, an "ideal" marriage partner" rather than "love partner". And the final result is unfortunately just right! In fact, the reason is very simple. According to normal logic, she asked her best friend to help her chase the boy. The normal logic is:

First, maintain the relationship with her best friend.

Second, maintain your own image.

These are two obvious logical deductions for her wanting to "get what she wants", and they are also normal thinking.

Normal people know the consequences of having a secret relationship with a best friend's boyfriend.

When she pushed the boy out, she was actually using it as a fig leaf to put out the fire. If the boy believed him, she had options.

Inconsistent evaluations

Many hypocritical villains are deeply hidden and can only be discovered through long-term contact and observation, or even after being deceived. So, when we face an unfamiliar environment, how can we quickly filter out possible hypocritical villains around us?

Look at the comments and attitudes of acquaintances! This evaluation and attitude is not a formal survey, but an observation based on some details.

I moved to a new employer a few years ago. On the day of registration, Sister Fang, who works in the same office, was very enthusiastic. She helped me arrange and clean the table and introduced the situation to me, which moved me very much. Later, at work, my relationship with her remained relatively close. I also vaguely felt that some of Sister Fang's words and deeds towards me seemed a bit excessive, but I just thought that she was a little overzealous, which made me very grateful to her and not doubting him. Until one day, I noticed that another old employee, Sister Li, had a fleeting expression of contempt and disdain for her, which made me wary of Sister Fang.

Sister Li was chatting with Sister Fang that day. I happened to go over and send a document to Sister Fang. As a result, when handing over, my fingers accidentally passed through Sister Fang's palm, and it felt very warm and soft. Sister Fang immediately looked shy, which made me feel soft and crispy. But I immediately realized that Sister Li was next to me, so I glanced at her, thinking that I would not let Sister Li misunderstand that I, the newcomer, was a prostitute. As a result, I found that Sister Li, who had seen everything, had a look of contempt and disdain on her face. She was not looking at me, but towards Sister Fang. This made my heart skip a beat, and I immediately realized that Sister Li’s evaluation of Sister Fang was not as jovial as it seemed, and there must be reasons for it, and most of them involved the relationship between men and women.

Sure enough, after my observation, I discovered that Sister Fang was having ambiguous relationships with several men at the same time. Although they call each other "friends of the opposite sex," there are certain words and deeds that should never be expected between a married man and a woman. Sister Li's own marriage was ruined by the intervention of a third party, and she especially hated the kind of women who hooked up with men and had ambiguous relationships.

So, I immediately kept a distance from Sister Fang. Soon after, I felt that others were talking about the rumors about Sister Fang and me behind my back. This is not my imagination! I'm not a fool either! I still understand all the nonsense and insinuations my immediate boss says to me.

After working together for a while and seeing more situations, I understood that Sister Fang was having affairs with different men just to take advantage of these men, and I was just one of the targets! She later took the initiative towards me and vaguely expressed that she had nothing to do with other men and was willing to cut ties with those men. However, I have long noticed that she has been deliberately approaching and pleasing her new boss, and the methods she uses are exactly the same!