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# What if the old man doesn't agree to invite his aunt #

A father: mother doesn't agree to let aunt take care of the children. What should I do if I have to take care of my children in my 70 s? Children cry when they are young, but mothers are uncomfortable when they are old. It's really hard for her to bring her own!

Mom C: Before I had children, my parents lived at home and let a cleaning aunt not let me, for fear of wasting money. When the baby is born, Yue Yue won't be invited, saying that she can bring it, but can I knock on their door at three o'clock in the middle of the night to wake up and take care of the baby?

The above problems are often encountered when inviting aunts. After giving birth to a baby, most young people prefer to let their parents take care of the baby, but the old people are not happy.

At present, the monthly salary of full-time parenting eldest sister-in-law has generally reached the level of junior white-collar workers. Even if these expenses are paid by children, they can save the elderly a lifetime, and it is inevitable that there will be a feeling of "heartache".

The old man is unwilling to ask his aunt for money.

The previous generation's calculation of happiness was measured by their experiences and gains when they were young. Actor Ma Yili's parents, that's it.

In September 2008, Ma Yili's eldest daughter Emma was born. Her parents cheered up and shouted to help the children. I wanted to invite an aunt, but I couldn't beat my 56-year-old mother and gave up for the time being.

With Ding in the room, the family was as excited as chicken blood. Dad is responsible for mopping the floor, buying food, and mom takes care of the children and cooks. Mother said, "We are male and female nannies. With so much money saved, we can eat a lot of fried buns and steamed buns. " .

When Emma was 4 months old, her mother got Meniere's disease. Because she was so tired, her blood pressure soared to 200 in the middle of the night. Ma Yili said, "After feeding, I quickly sent my mother to the hospital. My father stayed at home to look after the children and tossed for a night, which made me get mastitis the next day. "

Finally, with the help of my grandmother, I persuaded my mother to ask my aunt to help.

Because my parents are people who can make a living and are unwilling to spend money, I asked my aunt for money. She told her parents a conservative figure and colluded with her aunt to give me some extra money.

But after Auntie went to work, the problem came again, and parents and Auntie had conflicts.

It is often Maliyi who goes home while filming. Aunt is gone. It turned out that her mother took her away.

Later, Ma Yili advised his mother, "You can't dump your aunt without my consent. First of all, I want to go out to work to make money. The value of my work far exceeds the cost of inviting my aunt.

Secondly, please ask my aunt to share our worries. If you insist on doing it yourself and are too tired to be hospitalized, we will pay more. "

It will save a lot of money to hire an aunt.

When parents think it is a waste of money to invite aunts, we might as well calculate an account from the aspects of time cost, communication cost and health cost:

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The first is the time cost. Take Beijing as an example, please ask a 6,000-yuan/month childcare wife to work 26 days a month and go to 230 yuan every day; Suppose my mother chooses to go out to work. According to Beijing's per capita salary1187 yuan (refer to 202 1 salary survey report for the first quarter), she works 22 days a month, and a day is about 508 yuan.

In this way, it is much more cost-effective for mothers to choose to go out to work than to ask their aunts to take care of their babies. Mothers can redistribute their time and take back their focus from their children and put it on themselves.

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Then there is the communication cost. When the elderly take care of the baby, they will always consider whether the sentence is too heavy and whether the elderly can't accept it. Or it is difficult to solve contradictions in educating children, which will also affect family harmony.

It's better for aunt to take care of the baby in her own way. After all, when she is doing a lot of things, she will ask her advice. Communication saves time and effort, and it doesn't hurt feelings. Do whatever you want and let your aunt carry it out.

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Let's talk about health costs. If the mother wants to be healthy, mentally healthy and have a better career, it is suggested to ask an aunt for help, which is not only good for her health, but also saves the hard work of the elderly at home day and night.

The old man will look after the baby easily, and his body will be fine. After all, children in Wan Yi are tired, so they will spend a lot of money to see a doctor.

And professional aunts are really at ease with their babies. Ma Yili once said that she had seen it in menstruation. They really love their children as their own, and sometimes children are more affectionate to their aunts than to themselves.

She also thanked all domestic workers. "Every actor wants to play a glamorous role, but I hope more people will pay attention to caring for such a group. Thousands of urban families in Qian Qian can live with the help of domestic workers. I am grateful to working mothers. "