How to treat the elderly buying a house?

Because I have been very independent since I was a child, I think it is enough for my parents to give up on me, and the rest should be done by myself. I am also full of hope for the future.

It wasn't until later that I couldn't marry my beloved girl because of the RV that I realized that some things really can't be done without. It was at that time that I realized that ordinary people who didn't have parents to buy a house or a car around them were all parents who made a down payment. I don't blame them for not buying me a house or a car, but in this social environment, I blame them for not giving me a down payment.

I'm not bad, but I'm not good enough to buy a house and car by myself in my twenties. If I have children in the future, I won't buy him a house or a car, but I have the ability to give him a down payment. When he has the ability to get married, he won't miss his beloved because of these things.

Rationally speaking, your parents have fulfilled their obligations and responsibilities by raising you and providing you with schooling. Buying a house and a car is not included. I bought it for you for mutual affection. If you don't buy it, you have no reason to blame them.

However, in terms of sensibility and the influence of people around, most people still think that parents should buy their own cars and houses, and even the bride price is usually arranged by their parents. Especially when there is only one big family at home.

Let's talk about myself. My father has limited abilities. My working class, my mother's housewife, has never been to work since she got married and gave birth to us. Outsiders think she has a good life and doesn't have to go out to work. Only the three of us (I am the youngest, male, and I have two sisters) know that it is not easy to take care of children at home, especially because the economy is not affluent, the husband is male chauvinistic and does not understand the ups and downs of housework. Every month, we should save a small sum of living expenses in the field inspection plan, and we should not let our three children lack nutrition. Whenever there is a holiday, children are happiest, and their adults begin to worry about the tuition fee for starting school. (at that time, family planning, extra reading to pay thousands of dollars. ) This money often becomes the source of their quarrel. As far as I can remember, whenever the school started near, they would quarrel, which also became the shadow of my childhood.

In this family background, I understood from an early age that it is almost impossible to buy a house and a car for me by my parents when I grow up, unless they win the lottery, but unfortunately they don't buy any lottery tickets, so it is basically impossible. So I know that buying a house and a car depends on myself. I understand that it's not that they don't want to help, but that they are really incapable. Moreover, it is not easy for them to send the three of us to college. I know it clearly and I am grateful.

In college, I chose a major with more money and shorter life, software engineering. Later, it was proved that this choice was correct. At least for a short time, I worked overtime and outsourced. At one time, overtime pay exceeded several times the basic salary. By overdrawing my body, I earned enough money for down payment and decoration here in about four years after graduation. At that time, the house price was 8000 yuan. It is also one of the best properties in our local area. I was very happy when I handed over the house, and finally got my first property. Also began the life of a house slave.

When I proposed to buy a house, I saw my mother's guilt and even her love. When she asked me if I had enough money, I said enough. In fact, when the decoration was finished, I was basically penniless. But I don't want them to worry, because it's meaningless. I don't want them to borrow it either, because borrowing money to buy a house is a nonsense thing in itself, unless it is just needed, the home is dangerous or there is no room to live in. The back decoration was completed at the end of 19, and the decoration process really cost money. Although the first house has done a lot of homework, there are still many unsatisfactory places when it is completed later. Fortunately, the overall decoration quality is still ok.

Since the outbreak of the epidemic in 2020 and the overall economic downturn, the previous big goal has been achieved. I can also take this opportunity to recuperate, slow down the pace of work and start exercising. There were too many overdrafts before, and I saw a lot of news of sudden death. I am still afraid of death. Until this year, I didn't make any money, but I was happy physically and mentally, and I communicated and accompanied my parents a lot more. Sometimes relatives come to my house and praise my parents for their strong ability and beautiful decoration after buying a house. I also praise them. After all, they deserve to raise me like this.

In April 2022, I bought my first car. Although it is not my dream car, it is enough to shelter my family from the wind and rain. I still didn't ask my parents for money when I bought this car. First, I have the ability. Second, I hope they are rich, buy whatever they want, eat whatever they want, and don't have to worry about money as they did when they were children.

If you blame your parents, I don't blame them for buying a car and a house. After all, you have to fight for the life you want. You have experienced nine years of compulsory education. It's really weird. I blame them for not considering the feelings of our three children when they quarreled as children. In front of us, they quarreled as a bee, and the neighbors knew about it, which had an impact on our childhood and even now. Part of the reason why I desperately want to buy a house is to have a space of my own, away from my family. Of course, this does not mean that I will leave them, but I still love them. My parents are not perfect, and their love is not necessarily perfect, but I know they have tried their best, and I can't bear to blame them.