How to treat "don't talk about your sufferings in social life everywhere, no one wants to hear negative energy"?

There are always some unpleasant things in life. It is a normal psychological reaction to want to talk to others and vent their emotions when they are suffering.

When you are in pain, choose the right time. You can tell your relatives and people who know you to seek spiritual comfort and help. They will not ignore your pain. Suitable opportunities include:

1, the right place. Everyone doesn't want to tear his wounds open for others to see, so when you want to talk to others, it's best to talk one-on-one in private space, which not only protects your face and privacy, but also allows the other party to listen to you attentively, and also facilitates friends to give you some comfort and propose solutions to problems.

2. The right time. When you want to talk to someone, you must choose the time when the other person is free, so that the other person can listen to you. If the other person is busy or resting, even the best friend may bother you if you disturb him.

3. Correct mentality. When you want to talk to your friends, pay attention to your words and see their mood. If the other person is in a good mood, then there is no problem. If the other person is in a bad mood, complaining to her again will add fuel to the fire for her. If you can't get emotional relief, maybe the other person will pass on her bad mood to you, which will make you more upset. There is a kind of person in reality who is willing to compare with others.

As a normal person, I definitely prefer sunny days to dark clouds. People generally like to listen to happy things, but they don't want to listen to others' sad things, because sad emotions will infect themselves. Who wants his mood to become very low for no reason?

Unless your parents and lover can accept your garbage mood and are willing to be your trash can, people in general relationships don't like you to send him negative energy.

No one can guarantee that his life will be smooth sailing. When you are in trouble, you will habitually talk about it everywhere. Someone may comfort you at first. After a long time, others will lose patience. Even the closest people in the world find it hard to empathize, let alone have a general relationship. Maybe I won't understand you, comfort you and make fun of you.

There is a term in psychology called "talk syndrome", which refers to this kind of person who talks about hunger. Sister Xianglin is a typical example. After her son was eaten by a wolf, everyone complained. At first, someone sympathized with her and comforted her. Later, people became numb and lost their sympathy. On the contrary, she became a laughing stock.

1. Cultivate your hobbies and learn to divert your attention.

Even if you are in pain, you still have to go on, so you should divert your attention and slowly resolve your inner pain. For example, you can go shopping, read books, go to the gym, eat delicious food, keep a pet, raise flowers, follow the drama and practice calligraphy ... You see so many things to do, and if you focus on these things, you will think less and even gradually forget your inner pain.

2. Learn to make your heart stronger.

Seeing a child wrestling for the first time will definitely make him cry. If he often wrestles, he will learn to get up by himself. Adults, too, will become stronger and stronger after more storms.

3. Sometimes inner bitterness is not necessarily a bad thing. These pains may make you think more deeply about your life and plan your future. Today's inner pain may be a stepping stone to your success tomorrow.

Recently, some students who took the postgraduate entrance examination saw that their grades were a little worse than their favorite schools, and the inner suffering was difficult for ordinary people to understand. However, they will learn from the bitter experience and plan their future, and will not defeat themselves because of this setback. In the long run, this may not be a bad thing.

In short, when you are unhappy, you should try to divert your attention and slowly digest your bad emotions. In the process of interacting with others, try not to pour your bitter water on others and treat others as garbage cans to contain your bad emotions. Except for people who are very close, most people will refuse to get along with a person full of negative energy. I hope you will be a person full of positive sunshine and energy, and be happy with yourself and others.

The above is my opinion on this issue, I hope the subject likes it.

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Seeing this topic, I immediately thought of Mr. Lu Xun's "Sister Xianglin" nagging about his misfortune everywhere!

We say that showing off your superiority everywhere will disgust everyone. In fact, if you talk about your sufferings everywhere, everyone will resent it.

Let's talk about it from near to far.

1, complaining to parents, brothers and sisters. Because of family, at first, they will listen to you carefully, and then put on a bitter tear and help you as much as they can. But sometimes, the bitterness in your mouth may be sweeter than his. For example, if you earn 6000 yuan a month in the city, you feel that you can't make ends meet, but in the eyes of relatives in the countryside, you earn a high salary. If you complain to them, they think you are showing off in an ostentatious manner. Not only are there no complaints, but they may also be ridiculed by the other party.

2. Complain to your good friend. At first, a good friend listened well, expressed sympathy and understanding, and even thought about how to help you. But always say, like a black hole, it will never be filled, and good friends will be annoyed.

3. Complain to ordinary friends. The other party not only doesn't sympathize with you, but also exaggerates your affairs everywhere and laughs at you as a talk after dinner. Because of the shallow discussion, it is despised not only by gentlemen, but also by villains.

According to the paranormal theory, substances with negative energy are harmful to human health. Complaining about negative energy everywhere, and always listening to negative energy, is harmful to the health after a long time, and people are animals that seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Who would want to listen?

Tan Sitong thinks that among the five relationships of monarch, minister, father, son, husband, brother and friend, only one is beneficial to people. Because you can alienate your friends or get close to them, depending on your choice. In that case, who will find a negative energy person as a friend? Therefore, when you are in trouble, you should support yourself, knock out your front teeth and swallow blood. Work hard and get rid of suffering. When you succeed, it will be valuable to talk about past sufferings.

Indeed, no one likes to hear you say that you are bitter, because he cares more about himself. If you want others to like you, don't talk about yourself all the time, but listen to each other more. Everyone is self-centered.

Only by speaking out the questions of mutual interest, arousing each other's eager desire and giving each other a silent compliment from time to time can we win each other's sincerity.

Remember! Do as I say, you must have many friends and be respected.

"Don't talk about your sufferings everywhere in social life, no one wants to listen to your negative energy." I agree with this statement.

Sometimes I hear many people say that they are confused, complaining and wronged, as if the whole world has failed him, and some people say that their lives are miserable.

At first, I sympathized with them and sincerely comforted and encouraged them. But then I found out that they told you these things just to talk to someone. You are his trash can, and you are still worried, but you will find that when you are worried again, he will say, nothing, tell you that I am much better. In fact, all speakers are not interested in listening. Others bring you a lot of negative energy, so you will feel the same way about him and be troubled by negative energy.

No one in this world is willing to waste time listening to your complaints, even your parents, except the psychological counselor who is willing to accept your negative energy.

Life is hard enough, who can care about other people's brows? Although friends need to talk when they are in a bad mood, if you say too much negative energy to anyone who doesn't want to listen, everyone instinctively wants to hear exciting good news, and no one can stand listening to too much negative energy.

Where did you get so much pain? Nothing more than lovelorn, parents don't understand, work is not smooth, friends don't trust, but everyone is struggling to spend their youth step by step. You think you are unlucky enough, but in fact you are naive about the ups and downs of others. There is nothing in life but death.

Sometimes, seeing those people with positive energy, many people will think that there must be no confusion and troubles in their lives. But in fact, everyone is the same, except that other people's sufferings are not said in front of you.

So, don't let your youth be immersed in complaining and talking, don't be surrounded by so-called negative energy, and then try to talk about some exciting topics, so that others can feel that your positive energy is full while bringing happiness to yourself.

Try it, wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Maybe you will have a different self. You are a positive person, and you will attract positive people to your side.

Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. You cry to him, and he cries to you. Just as young, use positive energy to help shake the sky. Give yourself a smile and send a ray of light to others.

Hello, I'm Xiao Xia, and I'm glad to share my views on this issue with you. "In social life, don't talk about your sufferings everywhere, no one wants to hear negative energy", I quite agree with this sentence. I think anyone likes to be with people who are sunny and full of positive energy, because that will also make them sunny and full of positive energy and keep them happy. This is the so-called "near the ink is black, near the ink is black."

Nine times out of ten, everyone has a lot of pains in his heart. If you talk about it everywhere, don't you look like a dissatisfied wife? The point is that no one wants to really listen to your heart. As the saying goes, "It's none of your business, hang up high", who can feel the same way? Over time, people will gradually alienate you. After all, who wants to affect their good mood because of your negative energy?

When you complain, others will only think that you are a "loser in life". It's a big deal in your eyes, maybe it's a joke in others' eyes, and maybe it's the talk and gossip at others' dinner table the next day.

As the saying goes, "those who know me call it worry, and those who don't know me call it desire." Friends who really know you don't need to complain, they will come to you to encourage you.

I admire the poet Li Bai's optimism and positive romance. He wrote those heroic poems regardless of the ups and downs of life. Every time I read Li Bai, I am moved by his positive romance. This is so-called positive energy!

You really can't talk about your sufferings everywhere in your daily social life. Only then did I know how uncomfortable I was. I always told others everywhere, but it turned into a feeling like begging for sympathy from others!

In fact, many people are disgusted that others say some negative words in front of them, because when you say it, it will also affect others' mood, so others don't like to hear it. If that person has a good relationship with you, she can comfort you, but after a long time, if you say these negative energies every time, the other person will be very annoying!

For people who don't know you very well, if you tell each other your sufferings, the other party will not only understand you, but may even have a ridicule in their hearts!

There is a kind of person who always talks about how bitter he is. They may just want to get comfort or sympathy from others, but they don't know that the negative energy that may spread is just a joke to others.

Therefore, try not to spread negative energy. We should give back some positive energy to people around us and give back to society!

Well, there's no need to talk about your sufferings everywhere.

There is a saying called "grandstanding". Now people's tolerance is getting wider and wider, the pace of life is getting faster and faster, and the inclusive things are getting wider and wider. However, many people gradually become "grandstanding" because of the tolerance of others. Because it caters to the tastes of some people, the popularity is not necessarily good, and the popularity of some vulgar tastes will not last long. Telling pain may not bring negative energy to others, and it is incomparable with complaining in order to get sympathy or attention from others.

If we talk about our sufferings with a grandstanding attitude, then I think there is no comparability and it will only exhaust the tolerance of friends and people around us. If we really encounter difficulties and need a friend to talk about our sufferings, it is a good way to find a suitable friend to talk to, and it may not bring negative energy to everyone.

I'm Xiao Lu, I hope I can help you!

Feng Wu believes that it is wrong to complain everywhere, but it is ok to express your troubles appropriately. Who says complaining must be negative energy, sometimes it is an emotional catharsis and emotional expression, which is conducive to deepening feelings.

I am a straightforward person, and I will talk to my friends when I have troubles.

Whenever I am in trouble, I chat with my friends. My friends always listen patiently, analyze the reasons and help me find a solution to the problem.

I didn't agree with my friend's solution to the problem, so I went to talk to my second friend.

If the second friend's solution is the same as the first friend's, then I won't talk to the third person again. If her solution is different from the first one, I still can't make up my mind, so I'll tell my third friend.

After talking for three times, I'm tired, tired, and my troubles are almost solved. I just calm down and think about how to deal with it.

Are friends bored? I said no, because they also talked to me when they had troubles, and I also helped them propose solutions for their reference. I'm never bored. I am proud to help them. I am very happy that they confided in me.

Through constant conversation and help, our friendship has deepened and is indestructible.

On the contrary, some people are introverted. When they have troubles, they hide them in their hearts. Instead of telling anyone that they are imagining things there, they are prone to depression and mental illness.

Therefore, Feng Dance believes that you can complain to your friends, but don't complain everywhere, just master this "degree".

Glad to answer your question!

How to treat "don't talk about your sufferings in social life everywhere, no one wants to hear negative energy"? Suffering exists to varying degrees for everyone, but the degree and nature of suffering are different. In the old society, people's sufferings were mainly caused by exploitation and exploitation, and the three mountains on the poor suffered greatly. After liberation, the people became masters of their own affairs. In the past six years or so, they have encountered natural disasters. At that time, the main problem was food and clothing, as long as you can eat enough. The so-called bitterness now is essentially different from the above two kinds of bitterness.

In reality, some people are always used to talking about the past for whatever purpose, especially in the fifties and sixties, because they have experienced too many things and suffered too much. It is not easy to remember the past and let him or her forget it. It doesn't matter to chat occasionally, especially when the old people communicate with them, it is normal to often recall the past. If they often tell young people today, they will have no interest in listening. After all, it is history. So it's better to be realistic.