On the difficulty of choice

There is a word in English called FOBO (fear of better choice), which is better choice phobia and can be abbreviated as choice phobia. When people choose various commodities or make certain decisions, they need to think carefully. Shoppers want to buy good products, and decision makers also want to bring benefits to the company and their own lives, so once they choose a certain goal, they will not be easily shaken. People who have a phobia of choice are different. They are often trapped in the whirlpool of multiple choices and will be constantly affected.

From food, clothing, housing and transportation to the fate of life, people who have difficulties in choosing will always be stumped by various choices: what should I eat in a restaurant? Want to buy new clothes, which one suits you? Should I go out for dinner with my friends? ..... All seemingly simple choices in the eyes of many people have become an insurmountable gap for those who have difficulty in choosing. One day, it occurred to me that the idea of practicing Chinese characters sprouted in my mind, which was followed by a series of difficulties in choosing: what words should I practice? Regular script or running script, official script or seal script? Hard pen or brush? Whose copybook should I buy? Do you watch videos or practice by yourself? Want to lose weight, follow the video or go to the gym? Which video fitness blogger is better? Which of the bloggers' videos is more targeted?

Difficulties in choosing are inseparable from anxiety. When a person falls into a state of suffering from choice, it is easy to have negative emotions of anxiety and no motivation. Especially standing at the crossroads of life, if you hesitate between different choices, a person's mentality will also be affected. Some people say that "only children make choices, and adults want them." This sentence is a mixture of Han Han's film No Future and Stephen Chow's film Duke of Lushan, which actually reflects a realistic helplessness. When we were young, we had unlimited possibilities and imaginations for the future, thinking that when we grow up, we can do what we want and choose the way we want to go; I don't know how difficult it is to choose a path until I grow up. At the age of seventeen or eighteen, we went through the college entrance examination and chose the right university and major, which was the most important choice in our youth. 2 1 22 years old, choosing employment and continuing to study is a step towards maturity; Thirty years old is a demarcation point. People often say that we are thirty years old and we have come to the crossroads of life. Many times, a choice will affect our life. Standing at the age of 30, at an age when career, family and health have just entered the turning point, choice means not only personal preference or family responsibility. Some people say that the post-80s and post-90s are the lucky generation. They grew up in a relatively rich environment, received a good education and shaped their independent personalities. Because of this, at the age of 30+, every important choice they make is also the result of weighing individualism and realism. Choose a career direction for yourself; For children, choose to contribute; For the elderly, choose family; For the family, choose to shoulder the responsibility. The adult world needs to seize every visible opportunity, whether it has a definite prospect or not, and it needs a hard struggle to see the hope of success. The meaning of choice is for a better life. What we see is "what we got", not "what we lost". The entanglement in choice is actually a process of rational game.

So someone put forward a method to deal with the difficulty of choice: evaluating the risk of choice. The choice is divided into no risk, medium risk and high risk. If a choice is risk-free, we can "leave it to fate", such as flipping a coin to decide whether to eat noodles or eat; If you encounter a risky but not high choice, you can "give it to others" and ask your friends and family for their opinions and suggestions. In the face of high-risk choices, you can choose one first, then compare with each other, and try to consider your own ideas in the process. By measuring the risk to determine the way to choose, our choice process is more rational and the choice result is more idealistic.

In fact, the difficulty in choosing is largely due to the development of the times and technology. There are many manufacturers and sales companies of the same kind of products. Driven by interests, the quality of different products is mixed. In the era of knowledge economy, all kinds of endless products occupy our market, which increases the difficulty for consumers to choose. It used to be "no choice", but now it is "some choice" and "rare choice" The quality and price of products are uneven, and the marketing methods are more and more diversified. In the era of online shopping and live broadcast, everyone can only rely on public comments and screens to objectively judge the quality of goods. The most intuitive feeling is that you can always see comments with "question marks" under numerous recommendation or knowledge videos or notes-yes-is ——xx product effective? Which brand of skin care products do you choose to treat xx skin? ……

Finally, for those who have difficulty in choosing, I want to say: It is precisely because of the right to choose that we can grasp a better life. We must correctly realize that "wanting everything" is only an exaggerated expression of film and television works, and "choosing" is the normal state that everyone in modern society needs to face. Try to calm your mind, follow your own rhythm, fully consider all factors when choosing, and make a choice efficiently. There is no best choice, only what meets your expectations.