When people praise me, I always say so-so. Am I too honest?

Proper modesty is a virtue, and it is also a way of life that people in China use most. But if you are carried away by flattery, it is not virtue, but hypocrisy and ugliness of human nature. Because of these compliments, you have begun to give up examining your own shortcomings.

Everyone has a different understanding of compliments. Personally, I think it is a good way to know yourself often. Reflect on what you have done and said, where you have done well and where you need to improve. Only by seeing these clearly can you know whether other people's praise is sloppy flattery or sincere praise.

With all due respect, if you think that saying so-so every time is the real performance, then you may already think that you have done something very well. Just because you think you are real doesn't mean you are real. The essence of this idea is that you have given up objectively evaluating yourself. To put it bluntly, this is pride.

Actually, I want to say, guard against arrogance and rashness! People are not saints, they always have their own shortcomings. I hope you can make a clear distinction and treat it correctly. Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. There is always praise and no criticism, which is a dangerous signal for a person.

I suggest you read Zou Ji's satire on the King of Qi. This is an ancient prose that children learned when they were in junior high school. It's easy to find it online, even if they just read the translation.

Different people have different opinions. If you are offended, please look at Han Hai!