What should I do if I quarrel with my mother-in-law? The daughter-in-law quarreled with her mother-in-law.

As the saying goes, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been difficult to get along with since ancient times. Two unrelated women can't get along, but they have to establish a mother-in-law relationship with each other because of the same man.

It's easy to establish a relationship, but it's not so easy to get along with. If the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law don't live under the same roof, there won't be much contradiction to a great extent, but there is no guarantee that there will be absolutely no such thing, because some mother-in-law like to secretly marry their daughter-in-law.

If the daughter-in-law lives with her mother-in-law, the two generations will have different concepts, living habits and so on, which will naturally lead to contradictions and quarrels.

No matter what causes the quarrel, the daughter-in-law will think of a question, how to get along with her mother-in-law in the future? After all, no woman wants to make trouble at home. See what these three daughters-in-law say.

0 1. We don't expect to treat each other as our own, but we can do non-interference. No more than the emotional mentor Tu Lei said: "Between mother-in-law, mother-in-law and son-in-law, we must do two things, treat them as our own and respect them."

Treating her as her own is to make her mother-in-law love her daughter-in-law more, treat her as her own daughter, and get along with her like a guest, so that there will be no problems in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Unfortunately, there are very few things that can be done.

Reader Ms. Dong has been married to her husband for 10 years and has been living alone. Although I don't live with my mother-in-law, the two families are very close, and my mother-in-law will go home almost every day.

Occasionally help with housework, but I am most interested in participating in the young couple's affairs. For example, the young couple had a quarrel over something. She directly said that the daughter-in-law and the man were tired of working outside, so can't you make way? It doesn't matter once or twice. After a long time, everyone is unhappy.

On one occasion, Ms. Dong came back late for a company dinner. Her husband and children are eating at her mother-in-law's house. Mother-in-law said to her, "You don't earn much. You might as well quit your job and treat them well."

Ms. Dong disagreed, and her mother-in-law said it was even worse. She can't stand it. She said to her mother-in-law, "Mom, everyone has their own way of life. Just because you like to serve your husband and children all your life doesn't mean that I am like you. "

The mother-in-law did not show weakness, and the two quarreled. Ms. Dong's husband picked up the child and took her daughter-in-law home. The mother-in-law was so angry that she scolded her son for marrying her daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother. However, from then on, the mother-in-law no longer participated in the affairs of her son and daughter-in-law.

Ms. Dong said: "The quarrel between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law is mostly due to different views arising from different concepts, so there will be quarrels.

Daughter-in-law, don't expect to reverse your mother-in-law's wrong thoughts through your own strength. You are not her own, she naturally has no strength to speak, but she will certainly listen to her son. If her husband is on your side, the problem of how to get along will be solved.

If the husband maintains a neutral attitude and the mother-in-law is biased, then the daughter-in-law should not expect to treat her as one of her own, and clearly tell her mother-in-law not to participate too much and not to interfere with each other.

I also want to tell my husband that whether mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well depends on her husband's attitude towards the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law "

02. Mother-in-law is her husband's mother, and she can get by on the surface. Her colleague Liu Jie and her mother-in-law are not far apart, neither too hot nor too cold. How did she do it? She said: "After being injured once, you will naturally learn."

When Liu Jie fell in love with her husband, she had a very good impression of her mother-in-law. She is quiet and diligent. Liu Jie also buys clothes for her from time to time, but after marrying her in-laws, her mother-in-law seems to be a different person, one in front and one behind.

On one occasion, the mother-in-law rolled up her arms and sleeves to show her son, which was all done by your daughter-in-law. My mother-in-law is really unlucky.

The son asked his daughter-in-law what was going on? Sister Liu looked puzzled. I didn't do anything. Why did my mother-in-law still wronged herself?

Her husband said angrily, "My father died young, and my mother never remarried for me. I don't expect you to be filial to her, but you can't abuse the elderly. " "

Sister Liu didn't do it. How can she accept the slander of her husband? So she quarreled, and they quarreled. Her mother-in-law hypocritically stopped the fight. "It's all my fault. It's no use getting old, son. Let's rent a house for mom outside. Let's live separately. Her husband doesn't agree.

Once, when Liu Jie came home early from work, her mother-in-law began to scold her for not taking care of her son, saying that she was an incompetent daughter-in-law. Taking this opportunity, Liu Jie asked her why she wanted to frame herself.

My mother-in-law said, "I only have one son and regard him as my lifeblood." I want to test whether you are sincere to my son at any time? "

It happened that her husband got off work early that day and heard these words outside. At night, they lie in bed. Her husband apologized to her and said that he would not wronged her in the future. He won't take what her mother-in-law said seriously. I hope she won't be angry.

Sister Liu said: "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really not easy to get along with. If something unpleasant happens, tell your husband calmly, don't say that your mother-in-law is bad, and let your husband analyze it himself.

For better or worse, you should know that there will never be a fire in the paper, and it will come out one day. As long as it is not too much, the mother-in-law will be fine as her husband's mother.

Anyway, I'm not spending my life with my mother-in-law. The most important thing is that the couple have a good relationship. "

03. It is human nature to make mistakes. Let's be polite. Xiao Ting is a teacher, and her mother-in-law is an old woman in the countryside. After the child was born, her mother-in-law came to the city to have a confinement and help take care of the child.

It is said that the best way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not to live together. It's true. Living under the same roof for a long time, it is inevitable to bite your tongue.

One weekend, Xiao Ting slept in and didn't get up until nine o'clock. Her mother-in-law said angrily, "let me help with the children, but I sleep late." Really a free nanny. "

Although Xiao Ting was very angry, she said quietly, "Mom, I am usually very busy and tired. I prepared lessons and checked my homework last night and didn't go to bed until three in the morning. It's not that I am lazy. " My mother-in-law didn't say anything.

Later, there were several conflicts because of other things. Xiao Ting will find her mother-in-law to express her dissatisfaction. If she did something wrong, she sincerely apologized. If the mother-in-law is wrong, she will give three points first. If her mother-in-law still refuses, she will directly address the problem and tell her mother-in-law what is wrong.

Xiao Ting said, "No matter whether there is a quarrel or not, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been there. Instead of making a fuss and treating each other as enemies, it is better to face the problem directly.

Let mother-in-law know that she has a bottom line and principles. I will always tolerate the wrong things, because you are the elder. Similarly, my daughter-in-law should also understand that as long as there is a marriage relationship, my husband does not want his wife and mother to get along unhappily.

Therefore, if there is a quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, don't take it to heart. When both of them calm down, the daughter-in-law will take the initiative to communicate with her mother-in-law, which will usually be solved smoothly.

If you meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, there is no need to care about how to get along after a quarrel. Just do what a daughter-in-law should do and have a clear conscience. "

Today's topic: Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law quarreled. What do you think is better?

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