The 45-year-old nanny confided: The employer is very satisfied with the nanny-style paid companionship, but where is my happiness?

I believe many of us understand what the "nanny-style paid companionship" method is all about, and once this method appeared and was launched, it has been favored by more and more middle-aged and elderly employers. After all, the employer only needs to pay a certain amount of money to enjoy "high-quality" care services. And with the general improvement of people's living standards, most employers are willing to spend this money. .

We cannot deny that this "nanny-style paid companionship" method can indeed bring different enjoyment and services to our employers, and our employers will also feel satisfied and comfortable, but In this process, our nanny provided the employer with "nanny-style paid companionship" because of herself, which ultimately led to the breakdown of her own family, the failure of her marriage, and a series of other things.

45-year-old Ms. Liang:

I am 45 years old. I originally ran a small business and my husband worked on a construction site. Although our life was not particularly prosperous, But I was still stable and happy, but later on my small business was getting worse day by day, and my husband’s health was getting worse and worse because he had to do manual labor all year round, so that later on, he just picked up some heavy objects, and his I can't straighten my waist.

At this time, my eldest son is in college and my youngest daughter has just entered high school. Not counting that we still have four elderly people to take care of. Now all the burdens and pressures of life are gone. It all fell on me alone. At this time, I had no other way to make money. When I later heard that being a nanny was easy and easy to get started, and it also made a lot of money, I went to participate in the relevant program. After training, she officially became a nanny.

My employer is 65-year-old Uncle Sun. Uncle Sun’s family is well off, but unfortunately his children are not with him all year round, and his wife has passed away for several years. At the earliest, I was I cook for him, mop the floor and clean for him. In the evening, I go back to my home to live with my husband. If I have something to do, I can tell Uncle Sun, Then go about your own business.

In the blink of an eye, I have been serving Uncle Sun for more than three months. Uncle Sun only gives me a salary of 3,000 yuan every month. Although I don’t make a lot of money, I am still quite content. Yes, one day at noon, while I was mopping the floor, Uncle Sun asked me if I would like to take care of him in the form of "nanny-style paid companionship". If I was willing, he could pay me a monthly salary of 7,500. I didn't rush to agree to him at the time, but said I wanted to think about it.

After I got home in the evening, I told my husband about this matter. My husband disagreed at the time. He then said: "You are a woman with a family, how can you be with an old man 24 hours a day?" Together, and living in his home, if outsiders find out, no matter where I put my face, you can't do it no matter how much money he gives me, you can just be your ordinary nanny."

But I said to him at that time: "Do you think I am willing to do this job? But if I don't do it, where will the tuition fees for my two children come from and the money to take care of four parents?" I will do it wherever I go, but you can rest assured that I will be careful when taking care of him, and I will never do anything extraordinary." Later, when my husband saw how determined I was, He had no choice but to agree.

Later, I formally agreed to Uncle Sun’s request, and I also moved some of my simple luggage and some changes of clothes to Uncle Sun’s house, although I agreed to it. The uncle's "nanny-style paid companionship" method, but in daily life, I always maintain a certain distance and sense of propriety between myself and Uncle Sun, because I know that I have a family.

Uncle Sun is also a very principled and decent person. He treats me as a nanny from the beginning to the end, and he does not feel that he After spending 7,500 yuan, he would ask me to do something excessive or outrageous. He has never done this before. I also have special respect for him. I have always regarded him as my elder. In treatment.

But even so, the job I was engaged in still attracted a lot of criticism from my neighbors and my husband. Once I had to go home for something, and as soon as I walked into the gate of the community, I saw a group of People were sitting around, and I vaguely heard someone saying something like, "She is being taken care of by an old man, and she pays a lot of money every month," etc. Later, when they saw me, they all said They fell silent, and from their eyes, I knew who the person they were talking about was.

That’s not all. As soon as I got home, before I could take a rest, my husband got angry with me inexplicably and provoked me to quarrel and quarrel. I’m not a fool, I know for sure. It was because outsiders' rumors reached his ears that he became like this, but no matter how I explained to him later, he wouldn't listen. I was so angry that I just slammed the door and left.

One day, Uncle Sun said that he wanted me to accompany him to the supermarket, so I agreed to his request. When we walked through the seafood area, the ground was extremely slippery. As soon as I fell down, he subconsciously hugged me and kept me from falling. This was a normal thing, but that night, I received a call from my husband

It turns out that I don’t know who discovered it in the supermarket. Uncle Sun hugged me unintentionally, so he told my husband about it, and my husband just listened to one side. At this time, no matter how I tried to explain, he just He didn't even listen, and insisted on divorcing me. Later, I couldn't bear my husband's intrusion, so I divorced him. To this day, I don't understand what I did wrong?

Small conclusion:

We cannot deny that the "nanny-style paid companionship" job that Ms. Liang is engaged in is actually a very normal job. Otherwise, it will not continue to exist and develop like this, and it can indeed allow many of our middle-aged and elderly employers to enjoy particularly satisfactory and comfortable services. This is beyond doubt.

But because this work is so special, it can easily lead to misunderstandings by some of us outsiders. The unfortunate experience of Ms. Liang is just the best proof and example. Maybe some of us feel that , what Ms. Liang’s husband did was completely wrong, and he should not divorce Ms. Liang. However, there is no absolute right or wrong in many things in the world. The so-called right or wrong all depends on us. How do the two parties understand and choose?

So, if some of us women want to do "nanny-style paid companionship" work, it will be particularly important to first obtain the consent, understanding, and tolerance of their family and husband. If our women do this job in order to make more money, but in the end their families are broken up, then it is really not worth the gain.