The charm of praise

Especially if you get praise and recognition from others, everyone will be more positive.

By using the method of praise, I changed my husband's attitude of not loving housework and improved the happiness index of our family.

Last year, when my new house was completed, I invited several good friends to have dinner at home.

My husband uses his cooking skills to make every dish very delicious.

Steaming, boiling, frying and marinating are all available, and a large table of dishes is full of color, flavor and taste, which makes people drool.

A few minutes after 5 pm, several good friends arrived as scheduled, and everyone got together for the first time after the New Year, which was very happy.

During the dinner, friends praised her husband's delicious food. Her husband was praised by several beautiful women, so he was naturally elated.

You know, my husband didn't like cooking and housework before. Because of this, we had a lot of arguments, the cold war.

It's not that he won't do it, but that he won't do it. I used to be a cook before I got married. When we were in love, we went to my house for a long time. It is precisely because of this advantage that my mother thinks that a man who can cook has a smell of fireworks at home and is reliable. I can rest assured that I will marry him.

But after marriage, everything changed. Because he switched to building materials business, he was busy at first, and we had children, so I took care of them at home. I do all the cooking and housework, which is a support for his career.

Later, when the children grew up, I also went to the store to help run the business. When I get home, I have to cook and do housework to accompany my children to study. Being a dog is really tiring. Often after dinner, I clean up the housework, he sleeps with the children, and I drag my tired body to bed.

I also complained to him and asked him to help me share it. He agreed, but every time he came home, my nephew lit a lantern and looked after my uncle (as usual).

Lying on the sofa, either watching TV or playing games, wait for me to cook dinner. Sometimes he doesn't want to rest at home and let him do it. I'd rather order takeout or eat out than cook. Considering the children, it is not appropriate to order takeout, so I have to do it with grievances and feel wronged.

At first, my husband suggested eating in a restaurant. I don't agree. Eating in a restaurant is different from eating at home.

Because of the differences on this matter, the two men made an unpleasant noise again. In the end, things were shelved.

Because of the warm atmosphere at home, guests feel at home when they arrive. Besides, most husbands can cook the food in the restaurant, and it's a waste to have a ready-made chef at home.

So, I decided to call my husband. But how can I persuade him to listen to me?

Didn't you just read the book "The so-called high emotional intelligence is talking" two days ago? There are many communication methods and skills.

Among them, what impressed me deeply was how to praise others and use human nature to enjoy the satisfaction of being valued and affirmed by others, so as to make the other side stand on the same front with themselves and mobilize the enthusiasm of the other side.

When I find my husband, I'll make him a cup of Longjing tea that he likes to drink first. Then he sat down beside him and said softly, "honey, I have a small request and I want to ask you for help." Will you? "

The husband asked, "What help? Sure, what can I do? Did something happen? " In the face of my changed imperative tone and loud voice, my husband was a little curious and thought I had encountered something difficult.

I went on to say, "Well, I feel very sorry. We have a treasure that we don't use every day."

The husband was more curious and asked, "What baby, I don't know?"

I made a face. "You baby."

My husband smiled. He thinks I treasure him, and he is very happy.

Then, he smiled and said, "What is it? As long as this baby works, you can use it. "

"Well, you said oh. You're welcome. Well, I once praised my husband's cooking in front of my friends, which tasted like a star chef. They want to try your cooking. Are you willing to show your talents? I also want to invite them to dinner at home. "

Then, I told him that I wanted to invite my friends over for dinner. Tell him I'm happy to help him.

This time it was because of an appointment, and I switched to the tone of the previous order and communicated with him in a consulting tone.

He readily agreed. And including the selection of ingredients, shopping, and even picking vegetables, he is alone.

He told me that just let me stay with the children in the living room and call me if you need help.

I instantly saw my husband's skillful cooking posture through the kitchen door, and I felt that I had returned to the happy time when I was in love. I think the man who often complains after marriage is cute again.

My friends praised me while eating, and my husband also took the initiative to share the practice of each dish, introducing it to you from the aspects of material selection, collocation and cooking.

This gathering of friends is like a seminar on cooking appraisal. Everyone ate happily and discussed.

After eating this meal for more than two hours, my friends not only enjoyed it, but also learned some cooking knowledge. My husband's cooking has also been praised by others. In fact, I have benefited more. Haha, you know. ...

After eating and drinking enough, all my friends left. Facing a pile of uncleaned battlefields, my husband and I cleaned up together for the first time. With an extra pair of hands to help, it was quickly cleaned up and placed neatly.

I made another cup of Longjing tea for my husband and said to him playfully, "Thank you, big baby, for entertaining my friends. Hard work! "

The husband replied modestly and shyly, "What are you thankful for? All I should do. "

From then on, I tried my best to discover the advantages of my husband, and immediately praised him, encouraged him and affirmed him. He is more and more willing to help me with housework, and often even won't let me do it.

After he finishes, I will thank him, make him a cup of tea, peel a fruit or something.

If you don't want to do anything, let him do it, change your previous woman image, instantly become a weak little woman, and stimulate his desire for protection.

Sure enough, the husband is getting more and more diligent and the marriage is getting happier.

Female compatriots, if your husband is lazy, try my method.

Praise is really the lubricant of interpersonal relationship.

Praise your husband more, your husband will love you more and more, praise your children more and more, and your children will become more and more confident and excellent. Praise more leaders, get a chance for promotion and salary increase, and praise more colleagues, and the workplace relationship will be very harmonious!

Don't be stingy with praise, it will make your life better!