The daughter who goes to primary school has a serious heart to compare with others. As a parent, should she develop a correct concept?

Vanity, like to compare is actually everyone's mentality. First of all, don't treat this mentality as "shame". Not only children, but also adults abound. At the same time, we are not sure how the child's personality became like this. From a positive point of view, first of all, they have a heart that is unwilling to lag behind and hope that they are better than others everywhere. Then adults can start from the following aspects when guiding:

First: tell the children that everyone should do what they can for food, clothing, housing and transportation, taking simplicity as the standard.

Second: the pursuit of beauty, the pursuit of a higher quality of life, must be within their own capabilities, is the most suitable and comfortable.

Third: What really makes people feel valuable is a clean appearance and a kind heart. The beauty brought by brand-name clothes and shoes at an inappropriate age can't stand the long-term cleanliness and comfort. As a child, the pursuit direction should be academic, and the focus of comparison should also be study hard and pay.

Fourth: There is nothing wrong with liking famous brands. Everyone loves beauty. If you want good things (including realizing your own ideals), you will get what you want later. It is impossible not to study hard now.

There are no wrong children, only wrong parents. There is always a reason why children love vanity and comparison. Parents set a bad example with their words and deeds, either because they put their children in an environment of vanity and comparison, or because they made bad friends. Find reasons to adapt to local conditions. Moral education for children from an early age is always higher than the cultivation of book knowledge, hobbies and beliefs, and the inheritance of family education is higher than all money and interests. At any time, the child's guidance is too late. Put your soul in one place and accompany your child to become better. Therefore, parents' attitudes, cognition, handling methods and educational guidance methods are more worthy of consideration.

To sum up, parents first put their children's vanity and comparison psychology in a positive direction to understand, and then take this as an opportunity to encourage their children to study hard.