Is it a good thing that children are too obedient?

Many parents like obedient children and think that such children will make people worry.

Put down the remote control without watching TV;

Put down the phone if you don't want to play games;

Let homework sit quietly and do homework;

Let's do housework and pick up brooms and rags;

It's really easy for parents to take care of such children. But for children, is "obedient" really a good thing?

Tetsuo Kato, a Japanese psychologist, said: The so-called cheerful and docile boy actually started his life with a mental death. The more clever and sensible children are, the more psychological problems they have when they grow up.

First of all, there is no clear view.

Obedient children, when they grow up, have an obvious feature, that is, "no opinion." They are used to listening to their parents' arrangements and lack their own ideas, so when they get along with classmates or colleagues, they are always used to listening to other people's opinions.

A good boy who is obedient in the eyes of his parents and teachers is a little transparent in the eyes of his classmates or colleagues. Every time someone asks their advice, they will habitually say "whatever you say".

They are worried that their opinions will not be recognized after they are expressed, and they will gradually follow the crowd and even please others.

Wang Ruilong said in "Opinions on Life": Without opinions, people will follow suit, have it both ways, regardless of the route. Such people are a bit like "giant babies". They are afraid of thinking and choosing, and like to rely on others to shift their responsibilities.

Second, there is no self.

Obedient children will habitually erase their thoughts and opinions, and in the process of getting along with their parents, in order to cater to their parents, they will make their actions obey their parents. Finally, it becomes a flattering character and inferiority complex.

When I grow up, when I get along with my classmates and colleagues, I will become resigned and afraid to fight for my own interests.

Third, weak personality.

Obedient children are used to resignation, and in the process of getting along with others, they are easily bullied and unable to fight against powerful forces.

As long as others ask him, he will accept it and never refuse it. As long as others question it, they will think it is their own problem.

On campus or in the workplace, they are most vulnerable to bullying.

Behind the obedience of children is the strength of parents, but parents have no boundaries in education and always think they are right. Children should do according to their own requirements, ignoring that children also have ideas and their own lives.

Li Meijin said: What a child becomes depends on his "concept" and education. The factors that determine what kind of person a child will become in the future permeate the words and deeds of parents.

If children want to become confident and excellent, parents should first improve their literacy, behave correctly and become excellent parents.