Why are loners better?

Why do unsociable people get better? There are two main types of unsociable children: one is silent, withdrawn and afraid of strangers; The other is a child who loves to cry, make trouble, make trouble and make trouble. Do you know why loners are better?

Why is it better for loners to cross? 1 Why is it better for loners to cross? We live in the vat of society and are always influenced by others. At this time, it is a choice of gregarious or unsociable.

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I have seen such a sentence on the Internet: "When you try to get along with others, you are really lonely."

I know this sentence very well.

My first impression of the word gregarious was when I was at school. My family always said to me, "You should blend in with your classmates and learn to integrate into the class group. Do what others do. "

My family's worries about me stem from my personality. I am introverted. I like reading books whenever I have time at school instead of playing games with my classmates.

Every parent-teacher meeting, when the class teacher communicates with the parents, I am said to be unsociable at the beginning.

Because of my quiet personality, I gradually became a gregarious person under the "kind" advice of my family and teachers. I idolize with everyone, chat gossip, comment on which class of boys are good-looking, and deliberately alienate those unsociable students. I think such people are too different.

However, no matter how I integrate into other people's circles, there is a helpless and twisted heart behind the excitement.

It was not until I entered the society and met all kinds of people that I found that those who didn't fit in at school became elites in various industries, while those who got along with others were always mediocre.

Why do people who don't "fit in" have the best ending? The answer is nothing more than these three reasons, which is very realistic.

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First, unsociable people have their own circle of friends, but they don't fit in with you.

In life, we always think that only by integrating into the circle called gregarious can we not be flustered by interpersonal problems, but this comfort zone also makes us slowly become mediocre.

When we always make fun of unsociable people, maybe people have already surpassed us far away.

Han Jia is the least sociable person in people's eyes. In college, she spent the rest of her time in the library or worked part-time outside.

When we labeled her "unsociable", she was already the sales champion in the company and had her own circle of friends.

Others are talking about where to go shopping and what fashionable and beautiful clothes to buy. What she said in the circle of friends is performance. When we graduated from college, we were all busy looking for jobs, and Han Jia was already the sales director of this company.

In fact, those seemingly unsociable people in life have their own circle of friends, but you are not good enough to integrate into each other's high-level life.

Second, unsociable people will not waste their precious time to please others.

No matter what kind of occasion, we always see a group of gregarious people talking in Kan Kan, Kan Kan, as if they are the real protagonists, while those who are left out in the corner are quite different.

Have you ever felt this way? The experience of being left out by a bunch of people? Some people can't stand the exclusion and loneliness, and talk to others about topics that they are not interested in against their will, and they are exhausted after a meal.

But some unsociable people will not waste their precious time to please others. They are more willing to use this time to improve their abilities.

There is a popular saying that low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.

Life is short and time is more precious. You don't have to please everyone, but you get a "gregarious".

Third, being unsociable is a way of life, and there is no right or wrong.

At school, my family taught me to learn to get along with others and not be so maverick. Now, as parents, we have been educating our children with this idea.

The indoctrination of this idea is to convey an idea: gregarious is right, and unsociable is wrong.

Although gregarious can make us quickly integrate into every circle, it also loses the fun of choosing life.

"Songs of the South" said: "The ruler is short, and the inch is long."

Being unsociable is just a way of life, there is no right or wrong.

Some people are naturally familiar with each other. No matter who they are with, it seems that they have known each other for many years. But some people are naturally introverted and unsociable, but this does not mean that this kind of life is wrong.

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There is a phenomenon in psychology called "herding effect". Everyone, like everyone else, will lose due judgment and become a slave to the collective consciousness.

Those people who are unsociable have their own unique views and opinions on things in life and work, and will not follow others' advice. When a seemingly unsociable person stands firm by strength in obscurity, he enters another level.

Just like the star Zhao, when netizens criticized her for not being able to speak and not being sociable, she only replied: "If you can't speak, talk less." I only speak with my works. "

Today's' Zhao' has been at the forefront of the first-line stars, so that everyone can see their excellent self.

Living in those people who are not "gregarious" has the best ending, and the really outstanding people are mostly unsociable, so it is so realistic.

Why do unsociable people get better? As the baby grows up, he can play with his friends, and the young parents look relaxed. However, it seems that some babies in life don't like to play with children, don't want to go out, and don't even want to visit relatives and friends or visit the park. When I go out with my mother, I never say hello to others. Mothers are really upset. Why is this child unsociable?

In fact, this kind of withdrawn behavior, which is unwilling to associate with others, killing time alone and not expressing one's needs and opinions to others, is called children's social withdrawal behavior.

This is related to the following reasons:

1. The baby's natural temperament type.

Some babies like to laugh, while others cry more easily. Some babies are easily afraid and shy, while others are not. Comparatively speaking, a timid, cautious and introverted baby will consciously show control and restraint over his own behavior, and it is easy to shrink back when interacting with people.

In addition, those babies who often experience setbacks and failures, are not confident in themselves, often say "I can't" or "I can't" and think that they can't do anything well are also prone to social withdrawal.

2. Family factors deeply affect all aspects of the baby's growth.

Babies are best at learning through observation, and your personality and social behavior can easily become an example for your baby to imitate. If you are introverted, don't like to communicate with people, and don't communicate with people, your baby is prone to social withdrawal. In addition, the type of parent-child attachment and parenting style will also affect the baby's social interaction behavior.

If you don't form a safe attachment relationship with your baby, whether you are with him in a strange environment or with him after leaving for a short time, your baby will be nervous, and such a baby is prone to social withdrawal.

If you have high requirements for your baby, pursue perfection and have a rude attitude; Or basically no requirements, over-protection, everything is arranged instead, the baby will not know how to get along with others, and it is also prone to social withdrawal.

3. Environmental factors affect the development of baby's social communication ability.

For the baby who just went to kindergarten, the role of the teacher is particularly important. Babies who are valued, trusted, communicated and supported by teachers are more confident and less likely to retreat socially. Those babies who are neglected and indifferent by teachers are often depressed and lonely. Over time, they will lose confidence in themselves, find no place in the group, have no sense of belonging to the group, lose interest in teachers, peers and others, and their social behavior will shrink.

Let the lonely baby learn to blend in! A baby with good friends can learn to communicate with friends in communication, and his social skills are getting stronger and stronger. There will be more and more friends, and he is not afraid to go anywhere. And a baby who has no friends or is always bullied in peer communication will become more and more closed and withdrawn, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of the baby.