Those "father-son pairs" on the road of life

Only mothers are good in the world, and children without fathers are like grass. The father's model and the mother's mood frame the general outline of the child. However, this is not all one-way output, and two-way interaction is often the key. I call this father-son interaction "father-son pair", which is born out of the theory of "longzhong pair".

Liu Bei paid three visits to the cottage, and Zhuge Liang put forward the famous "Longzhong Dui", which made a strategic analysis and judgment on the general trend of the world, pointed out the direction for Liu Bei Group and described the road map. The most important thing in a person's life is only a few steps, and there should also be a strategic discussion like Longzhong Dui, and the most suitable people to undertake this strategic discussion are father and son.

The father is experienced and prudent, and the son is warm-blooded and youthful. The strategic discussion between father and son about the future is essentially the blending and germination of these two characteristics, and I think this "father and son pair" is essential.

Let's take a look at several classic cases of "father and son" in Daqin Empire.

The first is Su Qin and his son, who will win the "Best Strategy Award". Su Qin went back to his hometown and went to Qin to submit his resume. Before he left, he said "Dad" and started this conversation. Two people were silent, one wanted to help, and the other nodded and didn't help. They walked across the yard together and sat down in the hall. Su Qin first talked about his ideas, and finally said some hopes. He just wants the old people to pay more attention to their health and let their eldest brother go to work. After listening to this, the old father was silent for a long time and said a very weighty and insightful sentence: "Where to go depends on your knowledge." There is only one idea to be a father. Find out for yourself: No matter what country you are looking forward to, you must say King Zhou before you can travel far. "

This passage is very weighty, referring to the first two sentences. This is also a communication art worth learning. The hardest thing in the world is to put other people's money into your pocket and your own thoughts into other people's heads. Everyone finds that the more you insist on what to do, the more unconvinced you are. But if you say, "I'll just talk about my opinion, which may be wrong, you can weigh it yourself", it will be easily accepted. "Where to go, with your knowledge and knowledge" is actually giving the responsibility of decision-making to the other party. Where you go to work is your right, you must think and decide. This is called unbearable lightness. As a father, there is only one thought, and you have to figure it out yourself. Only emphasize the importance of what is said later, and thinking is modest. It's a technique of retreating for progress. The less you take yourself seriously, the less others dare to ignore it. This is called lifting weights as easily as possible. Dad, that's heavy. You see, my father loves mountains, and the mountains are so heavy! So this is very weighty, but you must handle it with care and let yourself weigh it.

This passage is very insightful and refers to the last sentence. "Say Zhou Wang first" is a strategic vision. At that time, it was dusk in Xishan, and no one thought of going to work in this company that was about to withdraw from the market. However, loyalty and righteousness is a passport in the Warring States period, and it is also a good medicine to prevent and treat capricious or imaginary capricious symptoms. Fu Su's strategic guidance is very old-fashioned and politically correct. Later, King Zhou presented Su Qin with an Lao Wang car, which was equivalent to the endorsement of King Zhou, and played an important role in Su Qin's recognition in the Warring States Period. Yanji, whom I met, finally became Su Qin's lifelong companion. The father and son deserve the Best Strategy Award. By the way, Zhou Xianwang, the king of the Zhou Dynasty, was not confused to the end, but there was nothing he could do. He said, "Su Qin, you are not a mediocre person. There was once a Fan Yu who also advised me to refuel. You can't do it if you don't do it. What human resources can do, why wait for today? If the son is from Zhou, he is a national scholar. Find a big country to display, Zhou's royal city is already a tomb, and whoever is here must be a living dead. " This is the same as some not-so-good companies or rational people now.

The second kind of "father-son pair" is actually "mother-son pair". There is no father, and both mother and father are involved. This is about Su Qin's classmate Zhang Yi, who won the Awakening Award. Zhang Yi wants to manage the manor and take care of her mother. Zhang's mother thought it was too small, so she asked him the purpose of his study first. Zhang Yi replied: Make contributions and shine brilliantly. Zhang Mu sneered and asked: How can you make contributions if you are so far away from the masses and the main battlefield and don't exercise in practice? Zhang Yi said that my mother has worked hard for half her life. Because she is getting old too early, I am determined to wait on my mother at home.

At this time, Zhang Mu said two paragraphs, one of which said: "There is nothing better than Confucianism in terms of filial piety. Meng Mu was widowed and Mencius lobbied the world. Is Mencius unfilial? Is Meng Mu heartless? Your teacher is famous all over the world, but he doesn't know the main idea and forgets the important principle. How can I face the celebrities in the world? "

In the face of Zhang Yi's insistence, Zhang Mu took him to the stone house on the mound in the backyard-a specially built family temple, and led Zhang Yi. "You see, Zhang's ancestors were originally official families. They have been rich since your great grandfather. My father is a general and my father is an official. So far, there are only four generations. Zhang Yi, you are talking to Zhang's ancestral grave. How can you contribute to the fourth generation of Zhang's descendants? " This means that our ancestors originally came from the bottom of society, and after three generations of struggle, they entered the edge of the mainstream of society. The ancestors did this. How are you going to surpass them? This is a heuristic teaching and scene-based education. After Zhang Yi's mood was adjusted to the same channel ("I couldn't help feeling sad, kneeling on the ground, hugging my mother and crying loudly"), I spoke the second paragraph of the words that hit the floor. "Whether the Zhang clan is revitalized or reduced depends on you alone. This is the sense of honor. Is it a gentleman's behavior to be filial to Gao Tang, to be contented, to care for each other, and to forget the details? " It means that you have more important career to do than honor me, and the important thing is to do it well in advance!

This pair of "mother and son" is full of masculinity and can be called a model for parents to teach their children. It is not too much to award it the Awakening Award. Yi cheung was so elated that he finally became the prime minister of Qin State, which happened to be the Qin State of Su Like.

There are differences in IQ between people, but they are not that big. Another reason for the difference is whether there are experts at home or at home to guide you. If Zhang Mu wasn't such a strong woman and was content with her children and grandchildren, there wouldn't be such a celebrity as Zhang Yi in the world.

The third is the father and son who won the "Best Emotional Award". To tell you the truth, it really makes me feel deeply. Lielie is not a prince. The prince's brother died young, and the tallest of the dwarfs was elected as the prince. His father was in office for a long time. He was in his fifties when he officially acceded to the throne, and he died in a few days. He has always been regarded as a mediocre and embarrassing person, but he is very self-aware, which even many smart people and capable people do not have. It was touching to see the "father and son" between him and his two sons.

After determining that the winning stranger is the direct son of the winning column, the other son, a former candidate, can only be an "ordinary person". Mrs. Huayang reminded the winning column to arrange him and avoid living with strangers who won the prize. This is what the award-winning father Qin said. Win column was silent for a while, "Chang Shu" fell asleep at his desk, woke up at night, wiped the saliva at his mouth, drank some herbal tea, went to win column, talked all night, and went to Hangu with Win column early in the morning. There are no details about "father and son" that night in the book, but I believe there must be very detailed contents. Take a casual guess. It is estimated that the current international and domestic situation is there, how a young man should treat losing the election, and the deep feelings and necessity for his son are there. Then guess the reaction to victory, from grievance to conviction, from expressing obedience to organizational arrangements, from grassroots to speaking with performance.

Let's look at the circumstantial evidence in this regard. Won the column didn't speak, then he also understood that won the column must be arranged, and faster, so he "went out of the study to the backyard of double Lin Yuan" and double Lin Yuan, that is the place where he painstakingly arranged for his son to learn and practice martial arts. Father and son talked a lot, because "he didn't go back to the study until midnight", not to the bedroom, but to the study. This is equivalent to a father personally accompanying a child who failed in the college entrance examination to a vocational high school, ready to take another road to success.

Winning has also changed a lot. When he arrived at Hanguguan Barracks, Won Zhu told him that he wanted to send Won Ye to join the army for experience. Meng Ao said that Sun Ye already has a title, and he can be directly the commander-in-chief or other grassroots or middle-level cadres. At this time, Win Ye's performance can be said to be quite humble, and his three views are very positive. The book says that before his father spoke, he "Huo Ran got up and bowed" and confessed himself. It wasn't like this before winning. Dad invited a famous scholar Ishikura as a teacher. When we first met, Sheng was "coming with a straight face and making a shallow bow". He didn't pay any attention to Shi Cang at all, and even spoke directly. Ishikura's evaluation is that "this son is unlearned, but he does not lose his true colors" and is willing to give it a try. The result of the test is very disappointing. I thought I was "surly and impetuous", and I "learned from Mohist Legalists" and "guided in many ways" with the knowledge of Mohist Legalists. Unfortunately, I "can't correct it" and finally wrote a letter and left.

I think the internal cause of victory lies in the fact that the stranger has determined his son's position and he himself has begun to reflect calmly. The external cause lies in the old father's long talk all night, and the external cause will work through the internal cause. Because there was a "father and son pair" before, and the effect was not good. Realizing that Fan Ju was sent to inspect the role of the prince and grandson in the organization, Ma Zhu immediately gave his study double Lin Yuan to the winner who was expected to be a useful person and used it to learn and practice martial arts. The winner didn't agree, so he "talked privately with his son face to face". He frowned and reluctantly agreed to stay for three months, but he was not used to moving out. It can be said that winning at this time is a complete ignorance and numbness of the upcoming opportunities.

"Grab the column and grab the book, father and son" did not elaborate on the specific content, but it must be a very important conversation. It is called the "Best Family Award" because the bread here contains the deep affection of Won Zhu for his son. Looking at the scene when they left the military camp, we can know how much Won Zhu expected of this son, and his helplessness, guilt and hope for compensation after he could not be the first son. Win was about to leave when the pillar stopped him. "Take off the black embroidered gold cloak and put it on your son's shoulder silently, and then take off the dagger at your waist and put it in your son's hand." I hope I can't entrust this to Jiangshan. The winner, who has always been generous, noticed that his father's hand was "slightly trembling" and that "the gray temple was aging a lot in an instant". However, his performance can be said to be very mature, "temporary hesitation", "gritting his teeth and laughing", showing the inner waves and the calm appearance. He said, "Father, it's not appropriate to be a soldier." Yes, a recruit, isn't holding these things equal to telling others that I am not an ordinary soldier? It is touching that the winner "tied his cloak and dagger to his father again and bowed deeply". Dad, you are old, take good care of yourself (your father is old, take good care of yourself)! Say that finish strode, won the column almost fell, Meng Ao a little look down upon, won the column long hiss, "ao elder brother, my in the mind bitter! There is no reason to say ... "

It is rare to describe the scene of the Daqin Empire sending its son to join the army at such a close distance. Won Zhu is not an easy-going person, but he had at least two in-depth conversations with his most promising son, and finally "talked" again with actions when breaking up. I think everything speaks for itself. This time, the "father and son" is better than the previous ones. I was really touched.

Winning the list is considered as "mediocre but not broken" As for King Wuling of Zhao, I am afraid it is neither mediocre nor broken. In the end, Yan Zhu failed in choosing a successor. King Wuling of Zhao abandoned his long career and became a child. Both his sons wanted to be in civil strife. Finally starved to death in the dune palace.

For another son who won an alien, Won Zhu also had a very emotional "father and son pair", which happened on the night when the alien won the coronation ceremony, and the place was in his study. At first, I asked the stranger how he felt about today's gift, and then he said that it was decided by grandpa, not by dad. Do you know why grandpa did this? Won by son shook his head. Won column told him that this is to tell the world that we have a future! Under normal circumstances, I, the prince, have not acceded to the throne, so I don't need to determine the prince and grandson so early. This is because I am in poor health and will leave at any time. At this time, he said a word, which is expected to shake the whole body and mind of the winner: "You are the real Chu Jun of Qin. Do you understand? " This is the appointment of a generation for the future and destiny of the country.

The stronger is yet to come. He told the story of the king of Qin. His brother and himself are princes, and their health is not very good. He "doesn't hate his short life, but he has only one regret in his life." If you win, you must go all out to make up for your regrets. So what's the regret? Yuan Zhu said: "My father's lifelong regret is that there are no powerful talents behind me." This is to say directly that you won a stranger. You are just a tall man drawn from the short, a transitional figure. Therefore, although the award-winning column is considered "mediocre", it is actually not that bad. His mediocrity is compared with that of a powerful king like Qin.

Winning the stranger sincerely admits that you can only say that you are a "medium talent". Won Zhu said, fortunately, you are peaceful and have no grumpy spirit. Just hang in there. It can be seen that "stability" is generally given priority in choosing successors. For example, when Kangxi chose the prince, the boss actually peeked at himself, worried about how long he could live, and he was not good-tempered with people, so he "abolished two things" and finally chose Yongzheng, who seemed to be different and devoted himself to learning Buddhism. Those sons who were eager to roar were finally defeated by the seemingly indifferent Yongzheng.

What is extraordinary is that he immediately instructed the non-aliens to do two things from now on, one is to find a powerful minister to assist, and the other is to have an outstanding son. Otherwise, "weaker than three generations, Qin will decline." You can say that you are sober. Lv Buwei, a powerful ministerial candidate with a voice? Yan Zhu said that "the jade trial period has yet to be tested later", which shows the age.

Finally, he told foreigners that knowing that he could not do it was tantamount to not knowing. Of course, he wouldn't say that. Wang Yangming is a man after 1000 years. Won the column's words are also very level, he said:

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Say that finish, one of them bowed his head and thought, and the other gasped. They were silent for a long time, and no one looked at each other because their eyes were full of tears.

The fourth pair is the father and son between Qin and the king of Qin, and won the Awakening Award. Qin has been in power for a long time, and winning this position can be described as "long standby". The "father and son" between them, the most important thing is the successor. Although they are father and son, this royal father and son are different from ordinary people, and there are a lot of differences between them. Chang Shengzhu needs to find out what Qin's orders and instructions mean, and he can't ask, "Dad, what are you trying to say?" However, after Huayang and the Kazuki Watanabe musician's wife in the award-winning column were involved in the Li Di leak case, the conversation between father and son was very frank.

According to the counselor's suggestion, Yan Zhu wrote to his father, explaining that her son Yan doesn't have a suitable mother now, and it is not easy to deal with after returning home. Please ask his father for instructions After the two met and exchanged pleasantries, they got down to business. Won Zhu said that he was not involved in knowing his wife's plan and was willing to abide by the laws of the Ministry of Justice. The king of Qin asked, if you are the minister of justice, how do you rule? If you win the column, you will be beheaded. The king of Qin asked again, if you are the king of Qin, do you think you can be pardoned? Won the column dare not speak, the king of Qin asked again, this letter means to get married again (get married again, won the column this stranger will have a mother)? Won the column still dare not speak. Zhao Xiang, the king of Qin, patted the couch bar, sighed heavily and said a big sentence. There are records below:

This passage is so good that I recorded it all. I am well aware of your thoughts, but you are the one who wants to be a monarch. If you don't take the law seriously, Qin will be finished. Your qualifications are average, but it doesn't matter As long as the law is well maintained, there may be a powerful monarch among your descendants in the future, so your contribution is also great. Remember, if a mediocrity like you flouts the law, I'm afraid it won't be long before Qin reunites the six countries.

Because this passage is deafening and has too much energy. When Qin finished speaking, he seemed to have exhausted his heart and his face was red with sweat. After treatment for a while, the doctor fell asleep too much, and Zhu Ying "cried before the case and looked pale".

Tears, that was shocked. I didn't expect my father to say so many heartfelt words, so far and so deep. Pale, indicating that my little secret was seen by my father, and my mediocrity was clearly seen by my father. Paralysis is not only a shock, but also a feeling that Huayang Kazuki Watanabe musicians have at least one death, and a fear that Wang Fu will be held accountable in a rage. Later, he told Cai Ze that his father's words were "Knife or sword! Gouge your heart and bone! " "In the face of my father's reprimand, I just hope I don't get into a dead end." His conclusion is "finished, finished". In fact, he passed the customs safely, but he judged that it was even over and should be sentenced to "mediocrity without breaking." Sometimes I'm not afraid of being scolded, I'm afraid people will think it's unnecessary to scold you.

The fifth is a father and son pair of Wang Jian and Wang Ben, who can win the prize tit for tat. The background is that, on the eve of the demise of Chu, Ying Zheng, king of Qin, took Li Xin, who is known as the invincible Wan Chu of the twentieth century, as a general. Wang Jian, who believes that at least 600,000 troops can destroy Chu, is conservative in thinking and cares about life enjoyment. Home decoration, even Wang Ben doesn't know the way, and I feel very uncomfortable. I feel that my father's extravagance in violation of regulations is a bit excessive. After meeting, I realized that the whole family has moved back to my hometown. In Mao Ting, a fake mountain top, Wang Jian ordered the housekeeper to "forbid anyone to go near this mountain", which shows that this is a very confidential conversation. One thing in this conversation is that the king of Qin must use Li Xin, and you, Wang Ben, are more powerful than Li Xin. You know this, and so does the king of Qin. Second, it is dangerous to say that the Wangs destroyed the Three Kingdoms. Third, the king of Qin took Li Xin as a last resort.

What Wang Jian said was about the king of Qin, which is of course confidential, and can also be said between father and son. It is said that this is a tit-for-tat father and son, because the father and son are almost arguing. Wang Ben said, are you going to back down just because there is danger at home? Let's give in. Why are you senile and ask the whole family to go back to the countryside to farm? Wang Jian said that what I want is "not my own temperament, but the national temperament." Wang Ben retorted: "I have no capacity. Can the country have tolerance? " Wang Jian said that you refuted it well. Now, the leaders will use the universally recognized Li Xin to help balance North Korea. If they succeed, North Korea's power will be balanced. If it fails, everyone will have nothing to say, and whoever has the ability will go up. It means that the Wangs will come out again then, and no one will give advice.

Wang Ben is very annoyed. You are too selfish. Knowing that the leader is taking risks, why not remind him? You should follow Shang Jun's example and be careless, regardless of public or private interests. If you don't tell me, I'll report it myself and win this leadership. It means for the benefit of the country, I don't care if others say I take credit. I won't tell you this old man, I'm leaving (dad, son).

Wang Jian was stunned. "Sit down for me!" After a while, he stood up, not aging at all, "tough and agile." Shit, it turns out that Wang Jian's old style is fake. Wang Jian said, your boy is still too young. If you think you are loyal to your country, you can say anything you want. Who is the leader Shang Jun faced, who is the leader we faced, what was his situation then, and what is our situation now? Now it's hard to say that Li Xin can't destroy Chu. The use of Li Xin by the King of Qin is also recognized by a cutting-edge general like you. This is a collective decision. I will raise an objection. Is it useful?

Finally, Wang Jian said faintly, "How many things in the world can only be understood by bleeding." After listening to Wang Ben, "I sat down in the pavilion and stopped talking."

Afterwards, Wang Jian's judgment was also confirmed. Li Xin failed to destroy Chu, and finally the king of Qin led 600,000 troops to destroy Chu with Wang Jian.

The above five father-son pairs, if the father and son are counted as two, should be six father-son pairs, which is a typical example in the Daqin Empire. All have good reference significance, ranking in no particular order. Their characteristics are: this is between the previous generation and the next generation, especially between father and son. At an important time, it is important and often impossible to make a difference in the situation, orientation and strategy.

In my opinion, the most important point of the role of father is to set the strategy and direction. Although I was among the best in grades since I was a child, I never thought about going to high school. When I was in the second grade, my father talked to me once and suggested that I set the goal of getting into a high school, which is almost unattainable, because the average score of almost every subject is above 97. But then I did, and it is very important to determine this strategic direction in time.

Of course, the first sentence is also a joke. In a family without a father, children can also become talents. Therefore, the "father" in the father-son pair is just a strong role, and it can also be the mother or other elders in the family.

Father likes mountains. The mountain should be thick, high and strong.

In a person's life, there are one or several pairs of high-quality fathers and sons (or mothers and sons), even if the road is rugged, it will not be too difficult to walk.