"Twenty-Four Foolish Filial Piety" (22)

This story has nothing to do with people like Baili Xi. During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, there was indeed a Baili Xi. He was a famous figure in the Spring and Autumn Period. The protagonist of this story is Zhong Yu (542 BC-480 BC), whose courtesy name is Zilu.

However, I still want to talk about Baili Xi. Baili Xi (approximately 725 BC - 621 BC), surnamed Jiang, Baili clan, given name Xi, courtesy name Ziming, nicknamed Doctor Wuxi, was a native of the Yu State in the Spring and Autumn Period (now Pinglu North, Shanxi Province). A famous politician and thinker in the Spring and Autumn Period.

Baili Xi was captured by the Jin State and became a slave of the subjugated country. He was taken as a dowry to the Qin State, but later he could not bear the humiliation and ran away. I originally thought about going to Chu State to see if it was possible to work for King Chu Cheng (BC691-BC626), but this King Chu Cheng didn't know what he was doing. The Chu people in Nanyang caught Baili Xi and asked him to herd cattle.

This Duke Mu of Qin (approximately BC670-BC621) knew that Baili Xi was capable, and he could not let the people of Chu know how powerful Baili Xi was. So Duke Mu of Qin sent someone to Nanyang to buy slaves, and he bought Baili Xi back with five sheepskins. Therefore, Bailixi later had the nickname "Doctor Wuxi".

This time Qin Mu Gong began to apologize to Baili Xi and said: "I know that Mr. Baili is a capable man. I didn't know that Mr. Baili also came to the country of Chu before, so he was not welcomed from afar, which led to the misfortune of Mr. Baili in Chu. For this great suffering, I would like to leave the affairs of state to the master, and hope that the master will teach me how to make the country rich and strengthen the army."

Since all the kings of the Qin State have apologized, they will not pursue the consequences of the previous crimes in the Qin State! slave treatment. Besides, when I went to Chu State and didn’t know anyone, I was treated like a slave! Baili Xi also borrowed the donkey from Poxia and was worshiped as a doctor by Duke Mu of Qin.

After he became the official of the Qin State, the people of Chu heard that they had let the capable man go, and then they went to tell King Chu Cheng. When King Chu Cheng found out, he slapped his thigh and said, "This is Whoever kills a thousand swords has caused this king to lose a high-ranking minister!"

Baili Xi has been the Prime Minister of Qin for seven years. He is diligent in government affairs, approachable, and lives a frugal life. He begins to pay attention to discovering talents." If the plan is not improper, the action will be successful." This brought Qin to great power and established hegemony in the Spring and Autumn Period.

It is said that when Baili Xi died, "the men and women of Qin shed tears, the boys did not sing songs, and the threshers did not beat each other." That is to say, both men and women in Qin State cried bitterly, even the children stopped singing ballads, and the people who were pounding rice did not make corresponding chants because of their sorrow.

Let’s stop talking and let’s continue telling the real story of “a hundred miles of loss”.

Let’s not talk about Baili Xi for now, and let’s talk about the story “A Hundred Miles Bears a Rice”. Since Baili does not refer to a person, it must refer to a real distance of a hundred miles.

When Zhong Yu was a boy, his family was extremely poor. He engaged in various kinds of labor to maintain family life, and even often ate wild vegetables to satisfy his hunger. Therefore, Zhong You’s family is 100% proletarian! Speaking of Zhong Yu, we must first talk about his master Confucius! Confucius was 9 years older than Zhongyou.

Confucius was a declining aristocrat, and Confucius’ father was originally a nobleman of the Song Dynasty. During the civil strife in the Song Dynasty, his father’s great-grandfather fled to the State of Lu. At any rate, he was also accompanied by the officials of the Song Dynasty. He had many servants and lived well in Lu.

Confucius’ father could only be a doctor in a small place like Zouyi, and he was also one of the slave owners! However, as a foreign noble, he could never defeat the local Lu people. Therefore, Confucius's father also became worse as he became more and more confused.

It is said that Confucius’ father was over sixty years old and had nine daughters in a row, but he could not give birth to a son. He married another concubine and finally gave birth to a son, Meng Pi.

The eldest daughter and the second daughter are not willing to marry Confucius’s father, because Confucius’s father is a 66-year-old bad old man, and the younger daughter is only 13 years old and knows nothing. It all depends on her parents. Well What a tragedy, a 13-year-old yellow flower girl is going to marry a 66-year-old bad old man!

Anyway, the result is that the 14-year-old girl Yan Zheng gave birth to Confucius in the midst of hardships and lived a good life for three years. Confucius's father fell ill. Then Confucius, his sister and aunt drove away Confucius, Yan Zhengzai, Meng Pi and Meng Pi's mother.

In addition, according to Sima Qian's "Historical Records: The Family of Confucius": "He and the Yan family's daughter married and gave birth to Confucius.

"This record makes the descendants of Confucius very embarrassed. My ancestor was born after he had a union with a 13-year-old underage girl. The He here is Confucius's father.

The Yan family has three daughters, the youngest One of them was named Zheng Zai. Yan asked her three daughters: "Uncle Liang He, the official of Zouyi, although his father and ancestors were ministers, he is a descendant of the sage king. This man is ten feet long and has unparalleled strength. I like him very much. Although he is a bit older and his temperament is a bit strict, there is nothing wrong with that. Which of the three of you wants to be his wife? "

The two eldest daughters were silent. The younger daughter, Zheng Zai, stepped forward and replied: "Everything is subject to father's arrangements. Father does not need to ask any more questions. "My father heard the tone of this and said, "You can do it. "So he married his youngest daughter to Shu Lianghe.

The story is very exciting, but everyone still doesn't believe in "Confucius' Family Tales" and only believes in Sima Qian. As for the debate in the historians, it is not whether Confucius was a wild heir. ╯□╰

Historical circles give three different meanings of yehe, roughly as follows:

Yeheyi: Ancient Chinese etiquette considers marriage and childbirth. The appropriate age is that men should be between 16 and 64 years old, and women should be between 14 and 49 years old. Anyone outside this range is considered unethical and is called "Ye He". Yan Zheng was 66 years old at the time, and his mother was only 13 years old, so they called it "Ye He San": Shu Liang He and Yan Zheng had sex in the wild (this is an ancient custom). Therefore, it is called "Yehe". Could it be that Confucius' father had some evil intentions and tricked Yan Zhengzai into the wilderness to do that "Yehe" thing? Some people even said that it was the "Yehe" in Nishan Mountain, so Confucius called him Kong. Ni.

No matter what kind of "wild alliance", Confucius has a bad reputation. This is probably the reason why Confucius couldn't get along in Zouyi (Jining, Shandong). Confucius and Meng Pi Together they moved to Queli (Qufu, Shandong) with his mother.

In short, Confucius lived a poor life in Queli of Lu State, farming at sunrise and resting at sunset, because Confucius' mother's family was obviously not a slave owner ( Duke Bozi Nan), not even a baron, was basically a slave class.

Later, the 17-year-old Confucius wanted to attend the family banquet of the Ji family, but was turned away by Yang Hu, a retainer of the Ji family. This fully shows that Confucius came to this world because he was not accepted by the society at that time. In the same year, Confucius’ mother Yan Zhengzai died of illness and overwork. Think about it, misfortunes never come singly!

19 When he was 20 years old, Confucius married a daughter of the Jiguan family from the Song Dynasty. He had no choice but to marry a slave class girl! With the help of his brother and others, he got close to Duke Zhao of Lu and gave birth to his son Kong Li in the same year. Because he happened to be given a carp by Duke Zhao of Lu, it was so auspicious that he named his son Kong Li with the courtesy name Boyu.

In the same year ( In 531 BC), the warehouse management job given to Confucius by Lu Zhaogong generally did not earn much money. He even asked his wife to contribute money. This caused many conflicts between the couple. Therefore, Confucius said the sentence "Only women and children" It’s hard to raise people! ”

Therefore, I think it is better to understand this sentence based on Confucius’ mentality. It does not necessarily have to expand the problem and say that Confucius discriminates against women.

In fact, At this time, his mother had been dead for several years. Apart from his wife, there were really not many other women around him. Of course, there was also a beautiful woman named Nanzi from the Song Dynasty. Although she was Confucius' dream lover, Confucius' status was too high!囧╯□╰

Of course, we can’t ask a three-year-old child to be particularly well-behaved, and he is that kind of rare heir, because Confucius’ father always has a son, and he is likely to spoil him to heaven. As soon as his father died, Confucius was kicked out by his sisters and aunt.

In addition, that era was originally an era where men were superior to women. Girls were not allowed to inherit property, and only healthy boys could inherit. Property.

If it were not for Confucius, a sixty-six-year-old man, who risked the disapproval of the world and put Confucius' mother Yan Zheng to sleep in Nishan, there would be no great man Confucius left.

Therefore, the sentence "Only women and villains are difficult to raise" was said by Confucius at the end of that kind of slave society. It is not inconsistent with the facts. We cannot use modern ideas to rigidly apply it to On Confucius’ head, that would be ridiculous!

After the age of 25, Confucius gradually began to want to start a side job, of course as a private teacher, and he would accept apprentices as long as he brought bacon. To a certain extent, this solved the problem of class consolidation between slave owners and the slave class, but at the same time it eased class conflicts and promoted social development.

The preliminary work we are going to talk about today is basically finished. Next, we will talk about the story of how Zhong Yu was accepted as a disciple by Confucius.

Confucius was a man of culture. He followed his brother Meng Pi since he was a child, and he read a lot of books. Although Confucius' father passed away, his brother was still alive, and he was almost inseparable.

If you don’t have your father’s pampering, then study hard. There is a high probability that Meng Pi is an educator himself, just to highlight Confucius. This brother has no focus, or even if he is not an educator , at least advocating cultural knowledge, he probably found all the books he could find for his younger brother Confucius at that time.

Finally, amidst the scoldings of his wife and the worry about daily necessities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea, Confucius succumbed to reality and began to think of ways to exchange the wisdom in his head for something useful, even a piece of bacon. That’s okay!

On this day, in the capital of the Lu State, our ten-year-old Xiao Zhongyou was going to borrow rice from a relative's house forty or fifty miles away. I mentioned in the second part that Zilu's family was poor, and they were also a slave class. They lived on coarse grains and wild vegetables for many years.

It turns out that this time, his elderly parents were sick and wanted to eat rice, but there was no rice at home. Zhong Yu thought that if he went over a few mountains to borrow some rice from relatives, he could satisfy his parents' needs. This is required.

After walking dozens of miles, I sat on the roadside and rested for a long time, waiting for someone to bully me. Zi Lu, who was tall and powerful, blocked Confucius' way. He raised his hand and struck Confucius with an iron fist, knocking Confucius to the ground.

Zilu didn't respect him either, and cursed: "Brother, Kong Laoer, the shabby young man, I caught you again this time! I make you look down on us country people every day. Next time you look askance at me, I will still Beat you up!"

Confucius groaned for a long time and then said: "My Master Zhong, how dare I look down on you! , I will definitely be a great general in the future! I have corrected my attitude a long time ago. I am not a piece of shit in the eyes of those nobles..." At this time, Confucius praised Zhong You all the time. Zhong You felt embarrassed. Zhong You helped Confucius up. He wanted to teach Confucius a lesson, but Confucius asked him, "Master Zhong, where are you going? I remember your home is quite far away from here."

Just in time to avoid embarrassment, Zhong You touched his forehead and said, "I'm going forty miles away to borrow rice. My mother is sick and wants to eat rice. I'll go and borrow some for her."

"No, no. La! I’m already halfway there! But thank you anyway! I know Doctor Kong is educated, just don’t think I’m a countryman, I’m leaving!”

So, little Zhong You! After walking dozens of miles across mountains and ridges, Zilu returned from a relative's home with a large bag of rice. Seeing his parents eating the delicious rice, Zilu forgot about his fatigue. Neighbors praised Zilu for being a brave and filial boy.

Soon, Zhong You’s mother heard that her son had beaten Confucius several times, which was okay. If Confucius hadn’t blamed him and sued the government, their family would have been miserable.

In 521 BC, Confucius was thirty years old and officially prepared to recruit disciples. When Zhong Yu heard that Confucius wanted to accept a disciple, he was the first to stand up and said: "Master, I will be your guard for free. I have been your guard for several years, and the protection fee is worth a lot of bacon!"

Confucius laughed, you didn't say you wanted to learn, Zhong Yu, I'll give you a name, from now on you will be called "Zi Lu", a guiding light, you must do what your teacher said!

"Okay, okay! Thank you, Master, for the words!" Zhong Youke was happy. This year, Zhong You was 21 years old.

It is said that poor and humble couples are miserable. Ever since Confucius began to recruit disciples, he taught all kinds of disciples, and invited some from all walks of life to teach knowledge and knowledge at home. Our Mrs. Confucius was not happy.

Secondly, Mrs. Kong also has to take care of her son Kong Li and her youngest daughter Kong Jiao. The men have to do things, and the women have to take care of the housework. There is simply endless work to do, and now there is another group. The rough man's daily life had to be sorted out, so Mrs. Kong didn't need to worry too much.

Thirdly, from a psychological point of view, I used to fall in love with Confucius because he was an aristocrat after all. He had always communicated closely with the upper-level leaders and was a blue-chip stock. Look, now he is discussing state affairs with a group of untouchables like himself. , I laughed myself to death. When will ordinary people be able to influence state affairs? It has always been the nobles who have the final say!

There are four students in this first batch, Ran Geng, Min Sun and Yan Lu. This Yan Lu is a relative who has no choice but to accept him. Yan Lu is also a more miserable and run-down nobleman, so including Zhong You, together with the big guard, assaulted four students.

So Mrs. Kong, like most women, began to complain, scold, complain, and spread negative energy to Confucius. She even kicked Confucius out of bed at night to prevent him from getting close. Confucius was very depressed.

Confucius often said: "Food and sex are the nature of food!" You don't even let me eat, and my nature is not satisfied. Isn't it miserable for me? So he said the famous sentence Famous saying: "Only women and villains are difficult to raise!"

A year later, Confucius couldn't bear it anymore and divorced his wife. Confucius really didn't believe it. He couldn't live without women. At this time, Kong Li was already more than ten years old and could take care of his sister Kong Jiao.

Then again, this Mrs. Kong is indeed not very smart. She has followed Confucius for more than ten years and has not learned to be smarter. The son Kong Li (532 BC-483 BC) she taught is not like Confucius either. , very ordinary, just like Lu Xun's child Zhou Haiying is also ordinary.

Confucius’s disciples basically did not record Confucius’ family background and private life, which made future generations not sure whether the name Kong Jiao was correct or not, nor how Mrs. Kong lived after her divorce.

However, there are always clues that can make everyone guess the ending. It turns out that Dayu's mother was not living well. After being divorced by Confucius, she had been living in her parents' home. After all, mother and son were connected.

All I can say is that Kong Laoer was so abominable that he refused to let his son fulfill his filial piety and made his son grieve. Finally, two years later, Kong Li also pursued his mother and left, unwilling to take care of his mother again. See this bad old man.

Confucius should have finally felt a little sad after the death of his son. Four years later, he also met the King of Hell. I think Zilu would definitely be very dissatisfied when Confucius did not let his son Boyu fulfill his filial piety, and he might even scold his teacher.

To be honest, after studying the life of Confucius, I feel that Confucius is not a very likable person, but Zilu is particularly likable.

Just because of his loyalty, he ended up being chopped into pieces because of his sincerity. After Zhong Yuan died in 480, Confucius, although he repeatedly scolded Zi Lu when he was alive, felt even more sad when he died than when his son died.

Once at a meal, his apprentice brought meat sauce. Confucius couldn't eat it when he saw it. He picked up the lid and closed it, and then stopped eating. He couldn't eat it anymore. Only later did everyone know that he wanted Zhong You to eat it. This is the disciple I have followed all my life.

The two were master and apprentice, "father and son", and also guards and masters. Of course, no one would risk the disdain of the world to kill Confucius.

I did not expect that Confucianism would seal Zilu, a straight-tempered man, as one of the most filial sons for future generations to learn from and refer to.

In this way, there is nothing to criticize about this story! Then let’s criticize hypocritical Confucianism. Confucius himself was not that filial, and did not even allow his sons to observe filial piety. This is Confucius's double standard, and we must criticize it.

As a member of the upper class under the slave social system, Confucius’ words and deeds must have served the upper class. Although he broke the barriers that allowed poor people to learn knowledge, it was because he was forced by his wife to change The second way here.

If he could make money as an official, he would definitely choose to be an official. This is because the road to advancement is slim, and monarchs from all over the world don’t want him, a bully who can only talk but can’t do practical things, so he has no choice but to I had no choice but to do a side job to earn some extra money.

He was also lustful. Nanzi asked him to meet and chat about life and ideals, so he went to meet the beautiful woman. He saw the beautiful woman dressed coquettishly and wearing gold and silver jewelry. The extravagant appearance will make him unhappy. The eldest guard, Zi Lu, misunderstood Confucius and said, "Master, are you having an affair with Nanzi? Why did I hear the clanking sound in the house?"

Confucius immediately swore: "Zi Lu, are you having an affair with Nanzi?" , Don’t doubt me! If I do something wrong, I will be struck by lightning and die!”

Zilu believed it immediately, haha, only a straight-tempered person like Zilu believed in Confucius! If it were Zixia, he would not believe it. Instead, he would think this is normal. Everything is based on pragmatism. This woman Nanzi has value, why not meet her?

In the last part, I have a discussion with a group of friends. I will record the discussion process and results as follows to share with you. If you find it fun, you might as well actively participate in the discussion!

Qi Jiu said: "It must be Zilu. Zilu is so cute and loyal. How can he be so hypocritical as Kong Laoer! Kong Laoer advocated loyalty, but he left his hometown to seek an official position in another country. In current parlance, it is called surrendering to the enemy and treason. His loyalty is only to his mother. Confucius advocated filial piety, but he did not fulfill the duty of a filial son. A person who lost his father at the age of three and his mother at the age of seventeen did not support his parents. If there is no chance, he will not understand the difficulty of supporting old parents. It feels better to support a virtuous old man, but it is a great hardship to support an immoral old man. Therefore, Confucius can stand up and speak without pain in his back. If Confucius' mother could. He lived to be eighty or ninety years old and was in poor health. It is difficult to say whether Confucius was a truly filial son or a truly rebellious son. As the saying goes: As a child, Confucius missed his late mother on the first anniversary of his mother's death. But he cried uncontrollably, but was reprimanded by Confucius, who thought that Confucius went too far, which was enough to show Confucius's ruthlessness. It is true that the son missed his mother's death, which shows that there is affection between mother and son. If there is not a drop of tears for the deceased relative, It’s just resentment. This is obviously an unfilial act. So Confucius is a super liar who talks one thing and does another, and is a hypocrite who doesn’t match his words with his actions.”

Xiao Xiao replied: "Confucius bragged and made false propaganda, and he had obsessive-compulsive disorder! He clearly wanted to become an official, but he refused to learn other skills besides ethics and ethics that could make a country strong, its military stable, and its people prosperous. So he emphasized everything he was in charge of. The omnipotence of etiquette means that it is necessary to use etiquette to manage the army, use etiquette to manage finances, use etiquette to manage diplomacy, and use etiquette to govern the people. In the end, the state of Lu became weaker and weaker after the emergence of Xingtan Confucianism, and it lost the opportunity to revitalize the country. After they exhausted the Lu State, they moved to the Qi State, which was still relatively powerful at the time, and developed Jixia Confucianism. As a result, the Qi State faced destruction less than a hundred years after the emergence of Jixia Confucianism. Such Kong Laoer. It’s terrible. I’m so unlucky to be with you. I’d better choose Zilu as my friend!”

Youyou replied: “Confucius’ thought is the culprit that causes China to lag behind the Western powers.”

Mei. Qin replied: "Who is willing to wander around with a charlatan? Confucius is just an ordinary person, not a saint!"

Ruishan replied: "A scumbag, as scared as a lost dog!!!!!!" Stop complimenting me! Choose a dog and don’t want him to be your friend!” Maybe someone will ask, whose dog is Confucius? Maybe some people have never thought about whose dog Confucius is. In fact, the answer is very simple. Confucius was a lackey of the slave family. He worked for the restoration of slavery throughout his life. Slavery collapsed during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, so Confucius was truly the loser of the slave family. I like Zilu.

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Weiwei replied: "Hey! Why do you hate Confucius so much? It’s not like I chose him to be a teacher, I chose him as a friend! I’d rather choose Confucius to be my friend! After all, Confucius was well-informed! Traveling around the country and seeing a lot of weird and weird things, it’s also good to listen to his stories and bragging! Zilu's bragging will definitely fail Confucius! ╯□╰! ”

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