Talk about the sense of boundaries

When I was growing up, there was really no boundary between my relationship with my parents. So in our house, my parents never knock on the door when entering my room. The bags I leave at home may be looked through at any time. In fact, this kind of operation makes me feel very uncomfortable. I asked more than once, please respect my privacy, but it turned out that it had no effect at all.

I recently watched a video about the sense of boundaries, which made me feel that the reason why I was ignored was because I didn’t make any changes in my actions. So I started locking the door every time I went back to my room and when I went to bed, and I would not just put my bag on the sofa in the living room. After persisting like this for a few days, I discovered that although they still wouldn't knock on the door, they wouldn't come into my room without incident anymore. My bag had not been looked through since I had put it away!

I suddenly discovered that I used to complain that my parents were too tight on me. In fact, I didn’t think about any changes I could make. If I wanted to expect others to change through just a few words, it would be really difficult. Instead of trying to change others, it’s better to see what you can change about yourself!

When things haven’t changed despite being said many times, it’s better to think about what you can change!