What rules should I pay attention to when drinking with my mother's friends?

1- seat

Generally speaking, the seating order is "Zuo Zun Dong" and "Zun Men". If it is a round table, the host and guests face the gate. In terms of the distance from the host and guest, the closer the host and guest are, the more respected they are. At the same distance, the left side is more respected than the right side. If it is a square table, if there is a seat facing the gate, the seat on the right side of the gate is the host and guest. If it is not facing the gate, the right seat on the east side is the chief.

If it is a big banquet, the arrangement between tables should pay attention to the chief, with 2, 4 and 6 seats on the left and 3, 5 and 7 seats on the right. According to the identity and status of the host and guests, relatives and friends should sit separately.

If you are the host, you should arrive early, then wait at the door and show the seats to the guests. If you are invited, you should be seated according to the host's arrangement.

Generally speaking, if your boss is present, you should lead him to the main seat and ask the customer to sit on the left side of the main seat, which is the highest level. Unless the host's leadership level is very high.

About toasting

1, the host respects the guest.

2. Accompany guests and respect them.

3. Host and guest thank each other.

4. Accompany guests and respect each other.

Remember: guests must not make a noisy toast, which is very impolite and disrespectful to the host.

6- Leave your seat

Generally, cocktail parties and tea parties take a long time, about two hours or more. Maybe after walking around and meeting some people, I will want to leave soon. At this time, you can't help but understand some skills of giving up halfway.

It is common that when the banquet is in full swing, because someone wants to leave, everyone breaks up in a hubbub, which makes the organizers really anxious. In order to avoid this disappointing result, when you leave halfway, don't say goodbye to everyone in the conversation circle, just quietly say hello to two or three people around you.

If you leave the reception halfway, you must explain and apologize to the host who invited you. You can't disappear in an instant.

Say hello to your host, and then you should leave at once. Don't drag your master on in Daimon Masaru. Because the other party has a lot of things to do that day, there are still many guests waiting for him (her) to meet him (her). You take up too much of the host's time, which will cause him or her to be rude in front of other guests.

Some people attend cocktail parties and tea parties, and when they are ready to leave halfway, they will ask people they know if they want to go with them. As a result, the lively scene was so encouraged by her that it broke up early. This noisy thing is the most difficult thing to get the forgiveness of the host of the banquet. An elegant person should never make such a mistake.

Rules on the wine table:

(1) If you really can't drink it, you can't open the first bite and eat it with a rice bowl filled with vegetables.

(2) If you are sure to drink, don't put ink on it, and then there are rules.

Rule 1: Although the wine table is affectionate, it is boring; Love is shallow, lick it. " But don't say this when drinking.

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Rule 2: Keep a low profile, curl your hair and never fill it up as soon as you get on the wine table.

Rule 3: Leaders will drink with each other before it is their turn to respect each other.

Rule 4: You can be respected by many people. Never be respected by many people unless you are a leader.

Rule 5: Respect others by yourself. If you don't clink glasses, how much you drink depends on the situation. For example, the drinking capacity and attitude of the other party must not be less than that of the other party. You should know that you respect others.

Rule 6: Respect others by yourself. If you clink glasses, say, if I finish drinking, you will get pregnant.

Rule 7: Since you are in a humble position, remember to add more wine to the leader. Don't blindly drink for the leader, just replace it, and pretend that you want to drink because you really want to drink, not for the leader. For example, leader A can't drink enough. Beating around the bush can stop people who want to worship leader A.

Rule 8: Pick up the glass (beer glass), grab the glass with your right hand and put it on the bottom with your left hand. Remember that your cup is always lower than others'. If you are a leader, you should be sensible and don't put it too low, otherwise how can you be a person below.

Rule 9: If there is no special person present, you'd better touch the wine in the right order, and don't favor one over the other.

Rule 10: clink glasses, make a toast and make a statement. Otherwise, why the fuck should I drink your wine?

Rule 1 1: Don't talk business at the dinner table. After drinking, the business will be almost the same. Everyone knows that, otherwise people will not be free to drink with you.

Rule 12: Don't pretend to be crooked, say something wrong, do something wrong, don't plead, and consciously punish the wine is the last word.

Rule 13: If there is not enough wine, put the wine bottle in the middle of the table and let others fill it themselves. Don't be silly to pour wine one by one, or what should the people behind you do if they don't have wine?

Rule 14: There must be a glass of wine at the end, so don't leave your glass empty. You can't run away ~

Article 15: Be careful not to make a slip of the tongue after drinking, don't talk big, don't be rude, don't spit everywhere, don't throw chopsticks, don't point, don't drink soup, don't fart and burp, don't go to the toilet without stopping you.

Rule 16: Don't say "I can't drink" (if you drink), lest others accuse you of hypocrisy. Believe it or not, people can really tell if they can drink.

Rule 17: The leader drinks with you to give you face. No matter how much the leader tells you to drink, do it yourself first. Remember, put your hands and glasses down.

Rule 18: peanuts are a good thing for drinkers. It is essential to keep a clear head and ask questions after drinking. A cup of yogurt, a cup of hot water and a hot towel all show your concern.

Etiquette at the banquet

1, enjoy the whole people, don't whisper.

Most banquets have more guests, so try to talk about topics that most people can participate in and get the approval of most people. Because of different personal hobbies and knowledge, the topic should not be too biased as far as possible, so as not to be dominated by one family, far apart, and talk endlessly, leading to digression and ignoring everyone. In particular, try not to whisper to others and give others a sense of mystery, which will often cause jealousy of "just you two" and affect the effect of drinking.

2, aim at both sides, grasp the overall situation

Most banquets have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When you go to eat, you should first look at the expressions around you and prioritize. Don't drink for the sake of drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, let alone let some grandstanding drinkers disturb the host's meaning.

3. Appropriate language and humor

Sprinkling it on the table can show a person's talent, common sense, self-cultivation and communication etiquette. Sometimes a humorous language will leave a deep impression on the guests and make people feel good about you invisibly. Therefore, it is very important to know when to say something, to use appropriate language, and to be humorous.

4, moderate persuasion, don't force.

On the wine table, we often encounter the phenomenon of persuading wine. Some people always like to regard the wine field as a battlefield and try their best to persuade others to drink more, thinking that it is unrealistic to drink enough.

"Talk about heroes with wine" is ok for people who drink a lot, but it is difficult for people who drink less. Sometimes, if you persuade too much, the feelings of your former friends will be completely destroyed.

5. Toast in an orderly way, with clear priorities.

Baking bread is also a science. Generally speaking, a toast should be made in the order of age, position and the status of the guest and the host. Before toasting, we must fully consider the order of toasting and distinguish between primary and secondary. In order to drink with people you don't know, you should first find out your identity, or pay attention to what others call you, so as not to be embarrassed or hurt your feelings.

When toasting, you must grasp the order of toasting. If you want to have a guest at the dinner table, you should be respectful to him, but you should pay attention to the fact that if someone with higher status or older people is present, you should not only be respectful to those who can help you, but also propose a toast to the respected elders first, otherwise everyone will be embarrassed.

6. Read words and understand people's hearts.

If you want to get everyone's appreciation on the wine table, you must learn to read and read. Because when dealing with people, we must understand people's hearts, so that we can play a good role on the wine table.

7, the edge is gradually exposed, sit firmly on Mount Tai.

At the banquet, you should see the occasion clearly, correctly evaluate your own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to keep some alcohol and talk, don't let others underestimate yourself and don't show yourself too much, choose the right time and gradually radiate your own edge, so as to sit firmly on Mount Tai and not give others the idea of "this ability", so that everyone can't underestimate your strength.