What should I do if my child is naughty or disobedient? Try these methods.

When children are disobedient, we always want to reason with them, but even if we are calm and even if the reason is right, we will find that children will not become better, obedient or even worse. The reason is that when children are emotional, the brain cannot receive all the information transmitted by others. Do you think, when we quarrel with others, will we listen to what others say?

When the children are noisy, they still hear the voices of adults all the time. At this time, the brain will give a very primitive explanation. Adults continue to scold him and continue to accuse him, and we will find that the child does not listen at all.

Faced with such a situation, I would suggest that when children are disobedient and lose their temper, they can use the input of other sensory systems to help them stabilize their emotions first. For example, hugging is a good way. Although the younger child will resist after hugging, it will only give him more tactile stimulation, consume physical strength and stabilize his mood more easily. Older children may be punched and kicked when hugging. At this time, you can hold hands with your child and hold the child's hand tightly, so that the child can get tactile stimulation from the palm of his hand. Plus, if you are holding hands, you can't move, and the child will be more stable.

As for when it makes sense, I suggest that after the child is emotionally stable, find a suitable time and place to talk to the child about his own experience and how he feels now. Then reason with the children and tell them what to do. If time permits, they should immediately simulate the situation and let the children do a drill in the right way. This way is to help the brain react immediately when something happens next time, so that the child's disobedience will be improved.