Make tea slowly in cold water-waiting is also an educational method.

Since the tea ceremony, it has become a habit to make tea with hot water. Hot water makes tea, and the tea is fragrant. When you don't drink, you will be intoxicated first. Perhaps people think that only hot water can soak out the charm and effective components of tea. As it turns out, the effect of making tea in cold water is not bad. As long as you have enough patience and are not in a hurry, the fragrance of tea will slowly seep out, and making tea in cold water can effectively retain the effective components in tea, which is more beneficial to the human body, but we just need to wait patiently.

Where there is expectation, there is reason to wait. This seemingly long waiting process often has a special feeling to nourish the soul, and so does education.

After teaching for more than 20 years, I found that every school year, each class will have one or two students with learning difficulties in different forms, and it takes a long waiting process to expect their progress-

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? 1. The Lone Ranger broke through the cocoon?

Qin Xiao is my student in the 2008 school year. He doesn't like studying, often doesn't finish his homework and is late almost every day. His classmates and teachers kindly asked him to help him with his homework, but he found a chance to slip away. Because of this, the classmates are reluctant to play with him, and he seems quite willing to be ignored and enjoy a person's world casually.

This makes me see in my eyes and worry in my heart. Psychologically speaking, normal children like to associate with their peers and attach great importance to friendship. If children are not interested in making friends and like to be alone, it is largely because of inferiority, which is very unfavorable for children's growth. And Xiao Qin, because it is difficult to have the opportunity to express himself in the class, is either the last or the second in every exam, and naturally feels inferior. What is even more frightening is that his inferiority complex has become numb to a natural state.

Realizing this, I intend to let him find opportunities to express himself in classroom teaching. But I found that he lacked the confidence he deserved. He was always afraid of making mistakes in his speech and making a fool of himself. Sometimes, even if he is sure of the answer, he is afraid or unwilling to say it. As the saying goes: haste makes waste. In the process of opening the channel to his heart, I knew I couldn't rush into it, so I decided to take a step-by-step approach: in class, I would give enthusiastic and positive encouragement and praise to the students who raised their hands to answer questions, right or wrong, and then I would pay attention to Xiao Qin for a period of time and try my best to create a natural and confident performance opportunity for him on the premise of making sure that he had the initiative to express his wishes.

After many troubles, the opportunity finally came: that day, I deliberately asked a very simple question. When Qin Xiao heard this, his eyes blinked quickly, expecting to see me immediately lower my head, but my little hand scratched around at a loss. Little ass was on pins and needles, too. He tried to stand up and sit down several times, and then he tried to stand up again. My heart is full of joy: it seems that he wants to show himself this time, but he dare not take the initiative because of face or fear of failure. Opportunity knocks only once. So, in the face of many small hands, I raised my voice: "This question, the teacher should ask the students who listen carefully to answer, and only the students who listen carefully can answer correctly." Who is the most serious student in this class? It's Xiao Qin! "After hearing what I said, his eyes suddenly lit up, then timidly stood up and answered the question in a low voice. I encouraged him: "Your answer is correct. Speak up so that the students can hear you, will you? "? Students, let's clap! "After the applause, Xiao Qin said the answer loudly again, and the whole class heard more warm applause. This time, it was a applause of approval, a heartfelt applause from the students, and Xiao Qin showed a confident and proud smile on his face. ?

From then on, he can finally show himself boldly in Chinese class, and occasionally he can tell the answer accurately when the students with better Chinese scores can't answer it, which is amazing. I share this harvest with other teachers, who can also receive surprises from Qin Xiao from time to time in the classroom outside the Chinese class.

Writing here, I suddenly remembered an article I once saw in a book. It is said that more than 30 years ago, a strange lawsuit happened in Nevada, USA. A mother took her 3-year-old daughter to court because she knew the letter "O", on the grounds that kindergarten deprived her daughter of her imagination. Before she knew the letter "O", her daughter could say round objects such as apples, the sun, football and bird eggs. She has lost this ability since kindergarten taught her to know 26 letters. The mother asked the kindergarten to be responsible for the consequences and compensate her daughter for her disability. The lawsuit caused an uproar. Some people thought that the mother was crazy, and some people thought that it was a fuss and a waste of energy. But my mother is persistent and strong, and she does not hesitate to lose everything. Unexpectedly, the kindergarten eventually lost the case.

Under the patient waiting and guidance of the mother, the child let go of his imagination, so the simple "O" can exist in thousands of forms.

Although there is still a certain gap between Chinese and western education, we have different views on western education. But I am still deeply moved by the mother's extraordinary love for her children, her cherish of their potential, her praise of their imagination, her high concern for their future and her patient companionship.

2. "The whole class is my enemy."

In the autumn of 2009, shortly after I took over, I was surprised to find that Chopin was the protagonist of almost every small dispute. In every dispute, he felt that he was not wrong and it was someone else's fault.

After the home visit, I learned that although the child is tall and strong, he is not old enough to handle things a little naive. Coupled with the busy work of his parents, he neglected to enlighten and supervise, which made him develop many bad habits such as procrastination, lying, irritability and unsanitary. At the same time, the child's father has a bad temper, and the way to discipline the child is to fight or fight. Once a child makes any mistakes, he always feels that the responsibility lies with the teachers and classmates. Under the example of teaching by example, children think that all big and small things are the fault of others and never feel that they need to take responsibility. At first, mom and dad didn't think anything was wrong. In their senior year, they saw that their children didn't have many frequent friends and rarely mentioned their classmates. When they get along with their younger brothers and sisters, they always care about each other and rarely show humility. This makes them anxious, but they don't know how to help their children.

Knowing this, I didn't care too much. For so many years, I meet naughty children every year, even junior high school students who are clamoring for someone to be a teacher. Finally, they all settled peacefully and graduated smoothly. This child, just talk more and guide more.

Unexpectedly, Chopin could really come to work: one day, while changing seats and moving learning tools, he got into a fight with his classmates. I found that it only took five or six seconds for the situation to reach their seats, but he completed a full set of movements with his hands and feet. Of course, the other side is not very easy to bully-it is also tall and strong, and it is quick to move. Then, both of them were in tears. However, every student can see that Chopin is particularly ruthless, and every movement is to do his best. Therefore, all the accusations point to Chopin.

In the corner outside the classroom, another student quickly admitted his mistake and promised to handle things calmly in the future. As for Chopin, his eyes are still bright and his hands are clenched, and he resolutely refuses to admit that he is wrong. Speaking of excitement, he also pointed his finger at his classmates and swore. At this time, I can't say anything more. First, I told him to stop hitting people. He just said "mmm".

Looking at the back of his departure, it suddenly occurred to me that if a child is aggressive, aggressive, disrespectful and distrustful of others, then he is probably a loveless child. Chopin is aggressive, in fact, to cover up his inner anxiety and pretend to be strong.

In the evening, I called my parents and exchanged my recent observations and ideas with them. Finally, I suggest that parents create more situations to let their children feel true love and be willing to pay true love in the family. My parents agreed with me very much and said that they would fully cooperate with the teacher's work.

The next day, I took time to call Chopin to the office. After sharing countless stories, he finally admitted that he was wrong and promised to report anything to the teacher in the future. I patted him on the shoulder with satisfaction: "The teacher believes in you, come on!"

However, a few days later, Chopin hit someone again!

The reason is also very simple. He scribbled on the blackboard during class, and the class cadres criticized him. He kicked him without saying a word. After asking the beaten classmates that it was okay, I took Chopin directly to the office. For two whole classes, I listened to his complaints with runny nose and tears: his classmates looked down on him because his clothes were broken; Because of his poor grades, his classmates laughed at him; Because he is fat, his classmates call him a fat pig; Because of irregular practice, his classmates gave him a nickname behind his back ... Finally, I asked him, "So, who is your best friend in our class?" He gnashed his teeth and said, "I have no friends. This class, the whole class is my enemy! " "My heart suddenly shuddered. Why is this child so extreme? I didn't mean anything, just said to him gently, "The teacher thinks that every student in our class can be your friend." If you look again, your good friend will be hidden by your side. " He left with a snort of cold.

In order to confirm whether Chopin told the truth, I made an observation after class. I found that he didn't lie to me: in class, he likes to raise his hand to speak, but he is laughed at by his classmates every time because of his improper use of words; During the break, he is always alone in twos and threes (the classmates say that he can walk without taking a shower or changing clothes for three or five days, and he stinks and doesn't want to be near him); During morning exercises, he stood crooked, and every movement could not be in place, but it could make the obese muscles tremble, and naughty students laughed at him on the spot. ...

After thinking about it again and again, I made full use of my time to talk with my children and shared many stories, telling them: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you; Give someone a rose, and the hand has a lingering fragrance; Helping others means helping yourself ... After class, I chatted with Chopin and encouraged him to do more for the group, change clothes and take a bath frequently.

Slowly, Chopin stopped hitting people casually. With the reminder and help of his family, he slowly learned to take the initiative to help his parents do some housework and help his younger brothers and sisters do their homework. He also pays more and more attention to personal hygiene, and his body smell is naturally not so heavy. During the break, he often smiles and stands beside his classmates, listening to them talking and laughing. In class, students are also willing to listen to him quietly to answer questions. What is even more surprising is that the squadron leader came to me on his own initiative and said that he would like to sit next to Chopin and help him improve his academic performance. I told Chopin about it at the first time and asked him, "Is this classmate an enemy or a friend?" He was embarrassed, but he said without hesitation, "It's a friend!" "So, our class is not all your enemies?" "hmm!" Don't hesitate. I greatly appreciate the spirit of the squadron leader in helping others in class. At that moment, I saw Chopin smiling with his head held high Yes, he has friends, and he is a squadron leader who performs well in all aspects! From that day on, Chopin became a busy man in the class. After class, he either scrambled to clean the blackboard or looked around in the classroom. Whoever has a crooked desk will straighten it with his heart. When there is rubbish everywhere on the floor, he will pick it up quickly. When he meets a teacher in the corridor, he will take the initiative to help the teacher send the teaching AIDS back to the office. ...

? A new round of class cadre re-election, Chopin became the team leader and labor committee member!

A bigger surprise followed: that day, the school unified training. Finally, some students forgot to take the water cup, and Chopin took it back without saying anything, but the water cup turned out to be a male classmate who had fought with him and was regarded as his biggest "enemy". I smiled with relief. Another day, the squadron leader was busy cooking, and Chopin quietly picked up her lunch box and helped her eat it back. For these two things, I spent half a class meeting to praise Chopin. As a result, Chopin worked more actively, smiled more, tidied up his homework day by day, and owed less and less. At the same time, there are more and more mutual help behaviors among students in the class.

What impressed me the most was that day, at lunch time, Xiaozha spilled all the rice she had just returned to the ground, and rice soup spilled all over the floor. I was sitting on a small platform for dinner at that time, but I deliberately didn't say anything. I want to see the results of deliberate education during this period. With Xiao Zha's "Ah", many students turned their eyes to him. Chopin is no exception. Sitting at the back of the classroom, he stood up. After seeing the situation clearly, he immediately turned and picked up the broom and walked up. Chopin's action also made the students react at once: Dai Xiao brought a mop, Xiao Lei brought a garbage shovel, Xiao Ying pulled the table open, Abortion took out a paper towel, and some students reminded Xiao Yan to cook another meal ... After only two or three minutes, the students all sat back in their seats, and ZSZSZSZ began to eat lunch again. In the whole process, the classroom is still our favorite and there is no noise. At the class meeting that week, I described every detail of that day in the most sensational way. Of course, I mentioned Chopin first, and he took the first action. Finally, I said emotionally: "After so many years, this is my most touching and proud scene. It will always be treasured in my heart and warm me forever! " "The children looked at me quietly with tears in their eyes. Chopin held his head high and looked proud.

In fact, Xiao Qin and Xiao Bang are lively and enthusiastic children. They have many advantages in their hearts and look forward to the attention of parents and teachers. It's just that our teachers are used to running on the track of learning, and they are most concerned about whether the students' grades have improved, and they don't have enough patience to pay attention to and wait for the subtle changes and small progress of each child.

I once read such a story: a flower grower is very diligent, and his yard is always cleaned up by him, and nothing grows. One year, he went to a distant place on business and entrusted his friends to look after the yard. In early spring, my friend found several clusters of green grass buds in the yard; At the end of summer, the grass actually opened, and five small flowers gave off a faint scent. Verified by friends who study plants, this is actually a rare wax orchid. In the city flower market, a tree costs at least 10 thousand yuan! Knowing this situation, the florist said sadly, "In fact, it will break out of the ground every year, but I think it is an ordinary weed, and it is pulled out every time the sharp bud just appears." If we had waited patiently for it to blossom, this wax orchid would have been discovered long ago. "

In fact, have students ever made those "grass buds that break through the ground"? They need to protect their teachers carefully and wait patiently for them to show themselves and discover and realize their value. If a teacher is impatient with students' temporary shortcomings and deficiencies, it will leave the same regret as "blindly pulling out those weeds"

Every student is a living life. They can dream and imagine. They look forward to beautiful things and a bright future. They can jump, jump, play, create, innovate and be whimsical ... I hope I can become a wise teacher and wait for every flower of education to bloom with enough patience, love, care, confidence and tolerance.

I believe that making tea in cold water has its own beauty.

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Mr. Corn, graduated from Chinese Department of East China Normal University, has been a primary school teacher for 24 years 19. School education seems to be a simple repetition. Inside, you will find that "the sun is new every day" and "there are no two identical leaves in this world". Over the years, I grew up in setbacks, thinking while growing, and now I recall with emotion. With the help of the platform to sort out and share their teaching experience, I hope it can play a role in attracting jade.