"Daughter-in-law, divorce if you want, but you have to pay back the 80 thousand bride price." Should I accept this request?

It is a common custom to give bride price when getting married. Can I get it back after the bride price?

Chen Heng and Maureen became husband and wife five years ago. At that time, they accepted the 80,000 bride price from their in-laws and left the money at their parents' home. Instead of giving cash, her mother-in-law married a car with hundreds of thousands, so her mother-in-law has been very unhappy and kept nagging Chen Heng: "Daughter-in-law, our family gave you 80,000 bride price, and your family didn't marry you at all. It's unfair to leave this 80,000 bride price to your parents!"

In fact, Chen Hengjia has married a car, which is almost twice as expensive as the 80,000 bride price. Chen Heng's parents didn't really want to leave this 80,000 yuan bride price, but when her mother-in-law gave it, she was actually very reluctant. They worry that if this 80,000 yuan is kept by Chen Heng, maybe her mother-in-law will let her go back by innuendo. After all, her mother-in-law values money more than anything else.

Because of this, Chen Heng's parents kept this 80,000-piece bride price for her in case of emergency. In short, they didn't really take this 80 thousand bride price as their own.

02

Sure enough, my mother-in-law has been thinking about the 80 thousand bride price. Since she moved in, she has been asking her about money: "Daughter-in-law, did your parents really keep the 80,000 bride price?" In order not to let her ask further questions, she had to say, "Yes, after all, my parents have raised me for more than 20 years, so I have to make some compensation!"

If the mother-in-law knew that the money was actually her own, she would definitely insinuate or imply that she had no money and ask for the bride price back.

In the second year of marriage, the arrival of the baby made her panic. There are so many places that need money to give birth to a baby that she hasn't saved any money. Pregnant, she can't go to work, she can only get the minimum wage, and her husband's salary is not much. It was at this time that the bride price money came in handy. Chen Heng's parents didn't leave any bride price, so they returned all the money to her, and she also spent it on the baby.

03

In the past five years, the relationship between Chen Heng and his wife has gradually broken down. When she gave birth to her second child, she learned a news like a bolt from the blue. Her husband cheated her when she was four months pregnant.

Once disloyal, never again. Although the second child is four months old, she still insists on divorce, but her husband won't. She kept saying that she had lost contact with that man. He doesn't want a divorce, and his mother-in-law is against it.

Although they refused, Chen Heng secretly aborted the child. Now that she is determined to divorce, don't let innocent children be born again.

My mother-in-law was very angry when she learned that. When Chen Heng filed for divorce, her mother-in-law still remembered the 80,000 bride price she gave when she got married: "Daughter-in-law, you can divorce if you want, but you can return the 80,000 bride price your parents received when you got married."

In fact, Chen Heng's parents didn't take any part of the 80,000 bride price, but they all returned it to her, and almost all the money was spent on their grandchildren. Unexpectedly, after so many years, my mother-in-law has been obsessed with the 80,000 bride price and always felt that she had paid a lot for it.

Do you think it's appropriate to mention the bride price after being married for so long?