Modern people’s anxiety

Before we start, let’s talk about the word “anxiety”. Anxiety is simply a state of worry caused by the fear of something bad happening.

Of course, any emotion has advantages and disadvantages for people, and anxiety is no exception. For example, before winter arrives in the north, people will be anxious about having no food to eat and no clothes to resist the cold. This anxiety will make us prepare food and cold-proof clothes in advance to survive the winter safely. The anxiety caused by the fear of loneliness and the interruption of civilization will make us fight against the above two anxieties by getting married and having children, which is the benefit of anxiety to us.

However, excessive anxiety will cause great harm to us, and in more serious cases, we will suffer from anxiety disorders. This will have a huge impact on our physical and mental health. The specific manifestation is the negative emotions of constant fear, fear, and worry.

I don’t know if you have noticed that compared with the era of our parents in the 1960s and 1970s, the living standards of our era have improved a lot; People's happiness is getting lower and lower.

If I say this, many people will immediately refute me. I think you have never been hungry and think too much all day long.

"Am I really thinking too much?"

But reality forces you to think that most of us have no worries about food and clothing but still feel poor. Not only that, but there seem to be various unresolved problems in life. The problem of finding a partner to get married, the problem of work pressure, the problem of house, the problem of parents' support for the elderly, the problem of raising and educating children, the problem of self-care, every problem is so thorny and difficult, and these kinds of problems are what we modern people The source of anxiety.

Anxiety starts the moment you graduate from school and enter the society. It is difficult to find a job. After working for a few years, you are faced with the problem of finding a partner to get married. However, some people have to face high financial gifts and The mother-in-law makes things difficult for her in every possible way.

The anxiety of finding a girlfriend is even greater than the anxiety of not having a girlfriend or boyfriend. The pressure from parents, relatives and friends to force marriage and the fear of not finding a partner to spend the rest of our lives with and ending up alone. This fear of uncertainty about the future makes our happiness disappear.

Those who have bought a house are anxious, and those who have not bought a house are even more anxious. Nowadays, housing prices in China’s first and second tiers are already ridiculously high. In order to buy a house, some people have spent all the savings of two generations and taken on huge loans. Not only do they have to live frugally every month, they dare not change jobs, do not dare to get sick, and do not dare to lose their jobs. Those who have children still need to Set aside money for milk powder and education.

People who have not bought a house are also anxious that they will have nowhere to live in this life. They are even more anxious that because they do not have a house, no one will marry them and they will end up alone.

In order to combat various anxieties, the non-marriageists, Buddhist youths, and the lay-down generation emerged.

"Non-marriage advocates" are people who choose not to get married because they don't want to face being hurt, making things difficult for their mother-in-law, having a failed marriage, or not wanting to face the anxiety that comes with raising children.

? "Buddhist youth" refers to people who are no different from normal people on the surface, but in order to fight anxiety, they don't fall in love or get married, they only focus on their own interests and have no desires. In order to reduce the stress and anxiety caused by modern life, people often constantly lower their desires and living standards to relieve their stress. And this type of people are usually not accepted by their families and the public, so they are labeled as lazy and marginalized people in society and are scorned by the public.

? "Young people who lie flat" refer to those who don't want to work hard or struggle. To put it bluntly, they just want to be a salted fish. Of course, it also includes those who have struggled but found that the struggle was useless and chose to lie down.

To use one of their words, it is better for me to lie down than to say that I can't get what I want even if I try my best.

Generally speaking, whether they are Buddhist youths or lay-down youths, they are a vulnerable group in today's fierce competition for work and life due to their own abilities and conditions.

? Of course, in addition to the above three types of people, there is also a type of anxious people, namely those middle-class social elites. In the eyes of outsiders, they have cars, houses, working conditions, good marriages, cigarettes, and happiness, but people like them In China, work is often not only stressful but also very competitive. This kind of people can't get up and may fall down from the middle-class level if they are not careful.

In short, anxiety will appear as long as we live in this society, but appropriate anxiety will allow us to prepare in advance for various crises in our lives to deal with possible problems. But excessive anxiety will not only make us insomnia, weak, timid, but also take away our sense of happiness, thus causing great harm to our body, mind and even spirit.

Since problems are inevitable, let us have the best hope for various problems in life, do our best, and prepare for the worst so that we can face them calmly. anxiety.