In the countryside, what kind of life is it if there are no sons and all daughters?

My hometown's next-door neighbor, Dad Xie, gave birth to five daughters without a son. His state is quite interesting and contemporary. Share it with you.

Dad Xie is over 70 now, but he is in good health, and now he still plants a few acres of land. He gave birth to five daughters, but no son. The daughters have been married for many years, the eldest daughter is in her early 50 s, and there are a group of grandchildren. When I was a child, I remember that he often beat his mother-in-law because he blamed her for not giving him a son! My mother-in-law seems to be at fault, too, and has been very patient. Once I saw him holding his mother-in-law in the pond at the door. Mother-in-law looked up and was held down by him, which was very pitiful. But it was a long time ago, and now the old couple seem to be fine.

Father Xie has a brother who has three sons. Later, I heard that he offered to let his brother's second brother adopt him as his son. His brother agreed, but after adoption, they didn't live together. But now it seems that there is no preference for boys, and no one talks about succession.

However, I went back and listened to my adults. Although mother-in-law Xie has suffered a lot because she has no daughter, if any son-in-law daughter gives birth to a son after her daughter gets married, she will be kind to them and cruel to them. I don't know what her mentality is!

The most interesting thing is that when I went back to my hometown some time ago, I found a cemetery built in the vegetable field in front of my father's house, surrounded by a cement wall half a meter high, which looked beautiful. At first, I thought whose old man died and was buried here. Later, when I asked, I realized that it was Xie Dad who dug his own grave. I heard from the old man that because he has no son, he is always worried that no one will take care of him after a hundred years, so all his focus is on his own affairs now. Alas, the absence of a son may indeed be the inner pain of the elderly in rural areas who have no son to arrange their own affairs! Think about it this way, it's still a little sad!

In rural areas, if there are no sons, what is the living condition of all daughters?

This problem is divided into two parts, one is the past and the other is the present. If you want to ask how it is now, I will tell you that life is basically good and economic conditions are ok. Having a baby is really the same as having a daughter. There are many daughters at home, so it's good to recruit a son-in-law for one of them. Moreover, many rural people now have the money to do business outside and buy a house outside, so there is no shortage of doors.

But if you ask them what their mentality was before, it's a long story.

Let me tell you an example of our village. This family has four daughters, but no son. His third woman and I are classmates. In the past, anyone who had children and no sons could not even mention it in the village. Although others didn't say anything, he knew everything in his heart. Parents can't be without stress. After all, the phenomenon of son preference in rural areas is very serious. Parents are very strict with their children, so it is natural to beat and scold them.

It can be seen that in the past, whoever had no boys was really depressed, and the preference for boys was too serious.

Of course, after all, that era has passed, and it is really the same to have boys and girls now. And if anyone wants more than two boys, it is really a problem that children can't get married, and some boys are doomed to get married.

As a post-80s generation, what I see now is that in rural families with four or five daughters and no children, their parents are still living a comfortable life.

In our village, my good friend Xiao Juan has four sisters and no brothers. Now both sisters have grown up and have their own families. If necessary, her parents will go to their daughter's house for a while. If they don't want to go, they will stay at home. Her father often plays chess with others, while her mother only cooks one meal a day. When she is free, she will plant some side dishes in front of the door.

The land at home has not been planted for a long time, because the daughters say it has been hard for so long. Now that they have grown up, it's time to enjoy themselves. The pension money given together every month, plus the money given during the Chinese New Year holidays, makes them more than enough to live, but they are well-off financially.

His parents are also very open-minded. It's good to have a son, but they don't want it. People live all their lives. Have a good life, just be happy. As for the rest, everything is natural.

Those who have given birth to three or four sons have a good reputation, but their parents are of course tired of living together. Because of hard work all his life, after his son got married, he helped one to take care of the child and did not help the other. Originally, a bowl of water was difficult to level, and finally it became thankless. Sons don't care about their parents' kindness, but complain.

In fact, in rural areas, there are too many families with many children, and parents can't do it well. Finally, when I was old and needed care, I was kicked around like a ball by my son and daughter-in-law.

I remember an old saying: "Having a son is a fame, and having a daughter is a blessing." It will gradually weaken the phenomenon of son preference. In my opinion, parents who cherish their daughters will eventually live happily.

Without a son, he was looked down upon in the countryside. A daughter who has the ambition to marry well is still envied by others.

In rural areas, all daughters will indeed be laughed at by others and expose their shortcomings! I remember there were only five girls in the Wang family in the village. At the beginning, they all wanted a boy, a second girl and a third girl ... they never wanted to be a boy.

I once heard from the person next door that Wang Moumou, who has no offspring, wants to take advantage of his vegetable field. There are no descendants in his family anyway. They are often looked down upon and gossiped. Later, their children lived up to expectations. From elementary school to high school, they dumped all the boys in the village, and so did I.

Now his five daughters have grown up, come out to work and are very filial to their parents. The first three daughters are all married. When I came home for the Spring Festival, I saw his eldest daughter gave birth to a boy. My grandmother likes to hold her daughter's hand and say, "You are so happy, you have a son!" " Much happier than your mother, she said, sticking up two fingers. Yes,

Actually, I don't think it's necessary to be afraid of what others say. Let it be, let it be. Sons and daughters are all the same, and their mouths are all on others. Say what you have, don't live in the shadow of others, just be yourself!

My family just gave birth to two daughters. The following is my personal experience.

Grandma gave birth to five sons, and dad was the second in the family. Because my father had no son, when my sister and I were young, the quarrel between my father and my brother and the bad blood between my mother and menstruation were all handled in a low-key and inclusive way. Mom and dad are trying not to let them look down on me and my sister.

For a long time, mom and dad silently endured the ridicule and ridicule of others (no son). My parents turned this silent contempt into a driving force for struggle, and thrifty housekeeping sent my sister and me to college. It is rare for a family to have two girls go to college in our village.

Now my sister and I have both learned something, and both have stable jobs with good salaries. Have the ability to let mom and dad live a stable and comfortable life. Now, great changes have taken place in parents' situation. People in the village are especially envious of my mother. When you meet her, you will say that you have a pair of good daughters.

In fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, it is good to be normal. Having a baby is as good as having a girl.

I think this question is still qualified to answer.

I was born in the countryside and have four sisters at home. Father is the second child in the family, with one elder brother in the upper class and two elder sisters in the lower class. Every family has a son and a daughter. My mother is the eldest in the family, with two older sisters and a younger brother. The two sisters are also a son and a daughter, and the younger brother has two sons.

Since the birth of the elder sister, my father has been bent on having a son, and he will never give up until he reaches his goal. However, time and time again, his daughter completely resigned him. When I was a child, not only my parents' brothers and sisters discriminated against them, but also many people in the village discriminated against my family. Even when they quarrel, they scold my parents for not having a son, and my grandmother also scolds my mother. Mom is a typical housewife, and dad works hard to earn money to support his family. Although life is not rich, it also ensures food and clothing for our sisters. At that time, my mother worked very hard, taking care of four children, cooking for a large family, washing their winter clothes all morning, farming and raising pigs to support the family.

Slowly, our sisters have grown up one by one, and they can help their mothers share the housework, and they have also started to study and work away from home one by one. A few years ago, my parents were still doing small business from morning till night, just to avoid becoming a burden to us. At the end of last year, under the repeated persuasion of our sisters, they finally sold their business, took a break and lived their own lives.

In 20 17, our four sisters got married one after another. My two sisters are closest to home and often go back to accompany them. I also go back occasionally in the city. In 20 18, my sister and I gave birth to a daughter and my sister gave birth to a son. My parents are so happy that they can't hold them. When the Spring Festival comes, our whole family huddles together and sits happily together.

Now on holidays, we buy things, clothes and red envelopes for our parents. Four sisters always discuss what their parents are going to do. Finally, those who once discriminated against my parents and only daughter shut up and even began to envy.

Dad is finally relieved, and even often shows off how happy his daughters are.

There are three sisters in my family. After the 80s, we never felt that our parents preferred sons to daughters. Haha, maybe it's because there are no boys at home!

Sister is stronger, probably because she thinks she is the boss and should shoulder her due responsibilities! My sister is the youngest, so my sister and I let her go. My parents are hardworking and my family conditions are better. The three children actually spend a lot in the countryside, and their parents are really hard. Now they are married! There is no preference for boys in my heart, because my family is also a daughter! When I was a child, because our three sisters studied very well, the village said that our parents were very lucky, and I didn't hear that there was no son at home, but sometimes I think that maybe parents care about themselves! Otherwise, I wouldn't have three children.