Why are you getting married?

First, why get married? Many people are troubled by this problem. What is the purpose of marriage? Let's get to know each other together. Everyone has different answers and different solutions to this problem. Getting married and having children is a matter of course; Marriage is the only way to continue the flesh and blood; Marriage is a passport; After marriage, you can live a good life; Marriage is a safe haven for the soul. I have heard too many such answers, but how many people behind such answers can be heartfelt and confident? How many people don't hesitate? Because few people will think carefully about why they want to get married. Marriage is an art, and the relationship between husband and wife is the most complicated relationship between people. Because it includes economic relations, family relations, sexual relations, friends relations, children relations and other interpersonal relations, marriage and family relations are the starting point of all social relations, and affection, love, friendship and passion are all among them. After getting a marriage certificate, it is not only a salt and a meter, but more importantly, how to accumulate property, how to distribute it and how to protect it. Marriage is a lifelong practice, and all problems between husband and wife should be solved within the relationship. The way of husband and wife lies in management. Marriage is a responsibility. If you choose marriage, you choose responsibility. Why are you getting married? Because the marriage law will make you recognize your relationship, and you are legally married. The relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend is unstable. Today you are his girlfriend, tomorrow anyone on the road will say it's his girlfriend, and people you don't know can't testify. But getting married is different. Monogamy is legal and fair. And you got married in the presence of relatives and friends of both sides and received all the blessings. And after you get married, you can have your own baby, parents and a happy family of three. The cruelest sentence is to die alone. These four words are very heavy. When you are alone, eating is not fragrant. Moreover, if a person doesn't get married, people around him will get married slowly, have their own families, settle down, and enjoy family happiness on holidays. And lonely people have nothing. She won't feel the hardship of bringing up a child and the pain of giving birth to a child, but she won't enjoy the feeling of being happy for the child. And mother and son are connected, where can you find a young man who is connected by blood and always thinks about you? When you are old, children will teach you new things outside. When people are old, they always like their relatives, and they like to talk to people and talk about the past. Second, Tu Lei said why people get married. The man figured it out and the woman let it go. 1. In the traditional Asian concept, no matter how talented, capable and developed your career is, returning to your family is the standard to measure your success. Men and women are about the same age. Both family and society demand that you get married. 2. Marriage is a sublimation from love to another level. I have to admit that this is a great invention in human history. It is the need of happiness for men and women to get married and start a family, and it is also the need to prevent the aging of the population, successors and future generations. In my opinion, there are three reasons for getting married: first, getting married is to have children, carry on the family line and reproduce human beings. Second, physiological needs. When men and women grow up to a certain age, they will have sexual needs, and they can solve their physical problems properly after marriage. Third, interdependence. Only when you get married can you formally have a home and someone to rely on, and you can settle down. 4. Why do people get married? Men are older and women are younger, so it is natural to get married, which conforms to the law of natural ecological reproduction. It is the obligation and power given by nature or heaven and earth to leave roots for future generations, and it is a natural law that people or other animals must follow. How nice a person is, why get married? Why do you want to get married? Why do people get married? What is the meaning and value of marriage? This question should be thought by many people. Some people have figured out that they choose to get married, some people have figured out that they choose to be single, some people are confused about getting married, and some people are confused about being single. Reason 1: It seems that it is the same obligation for every adult male and female to start a family and carry on the family line, but it is also the natural law of normal reproduction, so the male should be married and the female should be married. The second reason for marriage: parents always say that raising children to prevent old age. Although many children now just take a bite in their old age and don't care for the elderly, it is better than being lonely when they are old. Most children are still very filial to their parents, so getting married and having children is not only an obligation, but also a precaution against themselves. The third reason for getting married: many people who are not married after marriageable age should have this experience. A person is lonely, lonely and helpless. Although the feeling of freedom is unrestrained, the feeling of loneliness and coldness is also very uncomfortable. Therefore, only when you get married and start a family will you not feel lonely and cold. The fourth reason for marriage: the wedding is the most lively and blessed event in a person's life, and it is also a blessing of heaven and earth. The Bible says that men and women are made by God, and women are made by men's ribs. Originally, men and women are one, so men and women must be lifelong partners. Without a partner, there will be an indelible sense of loneliness. Marriage, whether secular or theological, is full of blessings, so we should conform to God's will and nature. What will happen if you willfully choose to be single? Advocating freedom and self, not getting married for a long time, and galloping in your own free country certainly feels good, because you are still young and full of vitality and passion for life, but after many years, when you have had enough of this life, look at your classmates, colleagues, friends and other people's children who will know how to play soy sauce. How will you feel at that time? Regret it? But it's too late to catch up with this kind of thing. Don't get married when it's time to get married: it's right to get married when you're tired of playing, but look at your age? It is difficult to find the right person before getting married. Do you regret giving up liking yourself or someone you like? It's a pity that people already have their own family, water under the bridge! By this time, it is already difficult to find a partner to get married, and it is even more difficult to be picky. Dedicated to those friends who are confused about marriage: the fruit will fall off when it is ripe, which is a natural law and law. If you resist willfully, you will eventually lose the beauty you deserve, just as flowers are backward and you will never see them again. When others pick fruits from trees, you don't pick them. By the time you want to pick it, it's fruitless. Why are you getting married? Why are we getting married? Because of love, there is something annoying on the internet these days: both of them are cheating in marriage, and the circle of friends has made it clear that we are true love. Someone commented on this matter: Naked contemporary Ximen Qing and Pan Jinlian compared themselves to the Supreme Treasure and Xia Zixian Zi. Both of them cheated in their marriage. You like other people's wives. Shouldn't their husbands do what a man should do? How dare you say that you are threatened? In all fairness, both of them have cheated in their marriage, and each has his own family and children. Such irresponsible behavior also shouted "Is it wrong for me to love?" Don't think about how great your love is all day. Any family that does not trample on others in good faith should be spurned by others. What's the situation now? It's really messy. You have reason to cheat. If you cheat, you can excuse love. Don't! What do we mean by love? If it is before marriage, you can find someone who likes each other; If it's after marriage, it's really love rat and love rat hanging colorful flags and playing the world's performances all day. If two people form a family, if it is not suitable, and there will be many quarrels one day, you can agree to divorce and find someone else; Cheating in marriage, chop and change, is really a villain's behavior, can not change the old habits, high-sounding, hated by people who flaunt love, so hook up by hook or by crook; I thank you. This is not love. You don't deserve the word "love". If you want to use love to excuse your desires, it is really "shooting yourself in the foot". There are so many such things that I am extremely confused: why do you want to get married? I used to be afraid of the word "marriage" for a long time. Why? China has a very troublesome social situation. Falling in love is a matter for two people, and getting married is a matter for two families. This seems to be the case in recent years: when I was not married, my parents were urging me; You get married here, and all kinds of family conflicts follow. In family conflicts, it is either the difference between two generations, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or all kinds of infidelity after marriage, making a fuss about having children? To some extent, getting married can't make you happy. It upgrades you from a person to a big family, and housework is more complicated. Our most enviable marital status: because of love; But love is really nothing in marriage, and many times marriage can't be complete. At the age of 25, when I was urged by my mother, especially when my sisters each had a family and gave birth to a baby, the frequency of being urged was getting higher and higher. Fortunately, my mother and I are the kind of people who talk about everything. I once asked her old man, "Mom, why do people get married?" "This society is like this. People are married. If you don't get married, don't make people laugh?" Mom smiled and said I was stupid. "I don't care what others do, so I have to do it. To put it bluntly, it is not just natural. " I muttered a sentence. At present, there is indeed such a situation in society: anxious to get married, urged by parents, in order to have children; Go with the flow. Why do you care so much? If others tie the knot, you should also tie the knot. Don't do anything special. This kind of "urging" has also led to many children getting married instead of "weaning" themselves; What's more, they married blindly, gave birth to children, and became parents before they grew up; After marriage, parents interfere severely and family conflicts continue. Most of our elderly parents don't understand what the word "happiness" is. Anyway, let's live together. Who can we live with? In this family concept of the older generation, adults of our generation can really think about the word "marriage" like adults and ask themselves if they can take on the responsibility of a small family, and don't be instigated by their parents all day, making trouble. Understand one thing: life is your own, happiness can only be controlled by yourself, and more often, it is really "no one knows." I once read a news: "According to the statistical bulletin on the development of social services in different years, from 2003 to 20 15, the marriage rate in China rose and fell, but the divorce rate only rose and did not fall. According to British media, the divorce rate in China is rising rapidly, and China is now one of the easiest and cheapest places for divorce in the world. Pay attention to such a key point: the marriage rate in China has gone up and down, but the divorce rate has only gone up and down, and it is increasing year by year. Especially now, couples in their eighties and nineties get married and leave faster. Instead of breaking up after marriage, it is better to polish your eyes before marriage and treat your marriage well, instead of being interfered by your parents. One more thing, the cost of divorce in China is really low. This has also led many young people to be very cautious about marriage and divorce, and can't bear the impulse of their parents to follow the trend of marriage. What's more, they have exposed this mentality of "it doesn't matter, it's a big deal to leave". We always urge people to get married, but we don't take marriage seriously. I remember a very interesting thing: I was in Shangri-La at the end of June and went to Zangzhai for the first time. There are still relatively backward ones. Zhuo Ma who received us lived in a polygamous family. She married a sister who was an escort. We are very interested in their marriage. This Zhuo Ma said directly, "That's much better than you. Many of you are stealing, but we are still aboveboard. ".Now that I think about it, what Zhuo Ma said is also reasonable. Of course, the marriage system of Tibetans is not discussed here. This kind of marriage only exists in remote villages. Most Tibetans still believe in monogamy. The divorce rate in China has been rising instead of falling, and the couple finally got divorced: some couldn't get along, some were interfered by their parents, and some cheated. But we wouldn't have left if we hadn't been so hasty before marriage. Nowadays, many people think that marriage and divorce are too easy, which catalyzes this phenomenon for no reason. There was once a popular chicken soup article on the Internet: "Irish marriage is not allowed to divorce, but you can choose the fixed number of years between 1 and 100. If you don't renew it after the expiration, it is equivalent to automatic divorce, but the shorter the time, the higher the cost. The registration fee of 1 is equivalent to more than RMB 20,000, and 100 only needs 6 yuan money. Those who choose to get married for one year have a thick book about marriage to read, while those who choose to get married 100 have only one piece of paper, which reads: I wish you a long life. "The fact is that divorce was indeed prohibited in Ireland in history, and this law was abolished in 1995. Instead of exploring the chicken soup itself, imagine whether it really exists. If marriage can automatically choose its term, how long are you willing to choose with the person you love? Choose two or three years, or 30 years, or really 100 years as mentioned in the article. How many people hold the idea of "living alone for life" before getting married, but how many people can really have the love of "accompanying life". If your marriage is not that easy and there is a huge fine, will you still get married without hesitation? Therefore, some people say that Ireland is popular with "not getting married". Who dares to step into marriage without certain certainty? What is marriage? What did we get married for? Is marriage really a contract signed between you and the person you love in the witness of God? In my opinion, marriage is more a commitment to the person you love. In this lonely world, you are looking for an ultimate partner. You accompany each other and face the hardships of life calmly. Everything else is empty. The only person who can really accompany you from birth to death is really the person around you. Some love is enviable, and some love can only be the tragedy of both sides. The combination of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman undoubtedly proves this point. Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman both abandoned their predecessors and chose to combine. They vowed to be "born of love". Liang Qichao said at their wedding: "Don't take selfishness as the criterion, don't take absurdity and pleasure as the purpose of life pursuit, don't treat marriage as a joke, think that you can get married if you are happy, divorce if you are unhappy, make your parents feel ashamed, make your friends look down on yourself, and make the society look at jokes! Anyway, I hope this is the last time you two get married in your life! This is my congratulations to you! -I'm finished! " Liang Qichao's unique wedding words also swore the love tragedy between Xu and Lu. Why are we getting married? "Don't take selfishness as the criterion, don't take absurdity and pleasure as the purpose of life, and don't play with marriage. "Some love really defiled the word' marriage'. Can you really spend your life with the person you love as an adult?