What kind of experience is it to have a mentally retarded child at home?

I want to talk about it from the perspective of a family member and an outsider.

My wife's brother gave birth to a son at the first birth, which was later found to be mentally retarded. He went to several hospitals and there was no rule of law because of lack of oxygen. Then his brother is going to send the child to the welfare home. My mother-in-law disagreed and insisted on living. She said I raised it myself.

After that, she really left the child behind. My wife is the youngest, and our income has been good in recent years. He always said that my mother was young and bitter, so we bought a suite for my mother-in-law in our hometown, and the name was still written on ourselves.

The children also came, and the master bedroom was given to the in-laws and children. We go back to the second bedroom once in a while. My own children were very young and didn't know much about it. Every time she sees that cousin, she is scared. She told me that she didn't like Brother Dabao and that his eyes were scary. I can only comfort her. Brother Dabao is pitiful.

Later, his eldest brother gave birth to two treasures, and last year he gave birth to three treasures. I felt a little angry when his family took a family photo during the Spring Festival. It was too much.

My wife said it wouldn't happen to me. It's easier said than done. She told me to tolerate others.

Maybe what he said is right, it didn't happen to me, but I always feel that the parents of this child are really unqualified, don't like this child, and feel that this child has lost his face.

I have always been a little dissatisfied with his brother and sister-in-law. They completely treat their children as outsiders and naturally live in my house.

As an aunt, I think I have done enough, but I also have selfishness. In recent years, that child often has seizures. I told my wife that it is ok for him to live in our house, but one thing is that if one day he dies and can't be placed in our house, he must go back to his home to do things.

Would it be cruel of me to say so?

I have come to my side, and I must accept the reality and try my best. I've cried too many times. Poor boy, I will try my best to take care of him. What worries me most is what he will do when I get old.

Discover his advantages and be good at guiding!

As we all know, a mentally retarded child has a great influence on the family and the child itself, and even some family members can't accept this fact. What are the manifestations of mentally retarded children? On the one hand, learning ability is poor, and attention is not concentrated, so you can't learn anything or turn around after learning a knowledge, which leads to the problem of going to school. What's more, cognitive ability is particularly poor. In life, you can't recognize people, you can't recognize all kinds of things, you can't tell who and who, what and what. On the other hand, life can't take care of itself, and ordinary things in daily life, such as bathing, eating and dressing, can't be solved. In the long run, it will cause a great blow to children's physical health and mental health.

If the children at home are mentally retarded, learn to accept this fact frankly, don't blame all the problems on the children, and try to solve them. What can I do to be a better child?

First, we should improve the child's self-reliance and try to let him solve the problems in life by himself. Parents can teach him around, but let the children do it themselves. He has done too much, so he naturally knows what is right.

Second, children should be encouraged not to lose confidence in him just because they are not as good as other children. If you scold the child for doing something wrong, he won't do it again. In the long run, nothing can be done well and nothing can be learned.

Third, balanced nutrition, children's mental development, nutrition is very important.

Don't give your child a different look, whether at home or in other places.