People need to understand the way of the world all their lives: some old friends must not be lost.

I saw this view on the internet.

One man said that he thought we should seek friends from fellow travelers instead of dragging our former friends on the road. In this world, there can be no friendship beyond class, and friendship must be equal. Many friends who got into trouble together when they were young can only be used for memories, not the same way.

Finally, he summed up this sentence: friends are people who need to exchange views, not just exchange feelings alone.

I used to think so, but when I grew up and experienced something, I became more and more convinced that some old friends should never be lost.

Later, you will find that with the enrichment of personal social experience, you will meet many people, whose thinking and knowledge are at the same level as yours, and they can talk to you about many things, making you feel that you have met a bosom friend.

In fact, this state is far from being a true friend.

Just like colleagues, since we can enter the same company, we can definitely talk about many ideas together, but colleagues are colleagues.

I have heard from many people in my life that no matter how well my colleagues play at work, as long as they take a vacation, most of them will no longer have contact. Once they resign, it will be the end of the world. Once the WeChat contact information is deleted, there will be no more contact.

Yes, with the growth of age, it will become more and more difficult for everyone to make real friends in society. On the one hand, not only the other person may have ideas, but you will find that your own ideas often become less pure.

We all live in a social environment, and it is impossible to be completely unaffected by it.

When you accept a new friend, it is inevitable that you will have bad feelings because you don't know the other person's past and what kind of person he or she is, and you dare not speak easily or say anything at all.

On the other hand, any friendship needs you to maintain, but most people have less energy to deliberately manage a relationship as they get older.

Of course, this friendship is not completely equal, excluding those with interests.

So, maybe the fellow traveler you later thought was just a superficial article.

In fact, between true friends, all roads lead to the same goal, and they are different.

I saw someone say that the embarrassment between many old friends lies in:

In fact, if you think about it from another angle, you can rest assured: can the friends you know later understand your difficulties? Do you understand your hesitation?

No, there is no such thing as empathy between people. Even if your thoughts and opinions are at the same level, the other party has never experienced the same thing, and it is impossible to really understand your feelings.

Perhaps, old friends will care more about you from the heart because of their former friendship, whether they understand it or not, but new friends are really not necessarily.

After all, because of the time limit of understanding, you may not have that kind of relationship at all.

Even, many times, the other person understands you, but he or she is not necessarily interested, just listening.

Moreover, the same language between old friends is not just about catching up.

Because each of you will have a lot of experience in many different industries. Between friends, it is not necessary to export opinions, but to understand each other.

Sometimes, you just want to find someone you can trust completely and say what you think.

I feel much better after that.

I have so little hair myself.

Our life experiences are completely different. She stopped studying after the first day of junior high school and then worked outside, while I studied longer than her. By the time I graduated from college, she had been working for almost ten years.

Once, because of different paths in life, we had almost eight years, and we never met each other at all, only occasionally contacted each other online.

I remember the first time we met after graduating from college. We had a barbecue at a night market stall by the river, and the evening breeze blew slowly. I squinted and listened to her talk about her travels over the years. I feel that she has changed a little compared with the little girl I remember, but she hasn't changed.

Because she still loves to laugh as before, she gave me a big hug as soon as she saw me, and I found all the familiar feelings came back at once, even though we haven't seen each other for eight years.

I remember when I was a child, sometimes she would rather be late than wait for me to go to school, because I often get up late;

I remembered that she went to her own canteen to steal something for me to eat, and her mother found out and was punished. She didn't say it was for me.

That night, we talked a lot about our childhood. Later, her family bought a house in the county. Even if we meet more, we won't just talk about the past every time.

Because each of us has a life to move forward, and we have something to experience every day, which can be a conversation between friends.

Just like I met her some time ago, she got married, and she talked to me for a long time about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and I couldn't give any good suggestions. She thinks I won't give advice, so let's spit it out together.

There are many things in life, aren't there? The road is always my own, and sometimes I just want to find someone I can trust to tell.

Accept the differences of friends and you will naturally get along well.

I seldom talk about my work and my life ideas with my friends, and I seldom speak loudly and output my own opinions, which need the approval of others.

I won't express my opinion unless they are asking my opinion.

Because I think a friend is a friend, and a friend is a person who can know many people in daily necessities, so as long as I am at home, I often go shopping with her, go out to eat together, talk about feelings together, gossip together and care about each other's lives.

After the New Year this year, I didn't buy a train ticket when I went back to work. After I told her about it, she later told me that her husband was still at home. Anyway, the two of them are free at home and can drive me together.

In fact, it takes nearly four hours to go one way alone, but I still find it more troublesome, so she said you're welcome.

Later, I grabbed a ticket and didn't let them send it.

Friends are actually like two different circles intersecting. Intersection is a part, but at the same time, each one will have some gaps, so there is no need to expect two completely coincident circles. Everyone is an independent individual, and there is no complete coincidence.

The older I grow up, the more I find that among these friends, the ones who really talk are old friends. Most of them are friends who met in junior high school and then played all the way, or friends who met in college.

With this feeling as the foundation, although some people are in different cities, they may not see each other for a year, but every time they meet, everyone can chat happily.

If something really happens, they will be the first people to think of, and those who can help will provide whatever help they can, including money.

I bought a house last year and borrowed it from two old friends. Both of them have known each other 15 years. In fact, I don't have much contact with them at ordinary times, because in different cities, most of them can only be seen when I go back for the New Year.

But after they took the video to confirm that it was me, they all transferred the money to me at the first time.

Then, another good friend of mine, who had known me since high school, asked me after learning about it: Hey, why don't you borrow it from me because I have money in my hand?

I said, I'm not far away. If I need it again, I'm sure I will call you next.

If I were a new friend, no matter how good the relationship is, I would definitely not open this mouth.

Because understanding a person's personality is a long-term process, I can't guarantee that my new friends trust me completely and don't want to embarrass others.

I don't think I will hesitate if they need my help in the future.

Friends get along with many things like this. Because old friends know each other, sometimes the other person may say something inappropriate quickly, so you can forgive them.

But if you have a misunderstanding with new friends, there will inevitably be a gap in your heart and you will wonder if others have a problem with you.

Therefore, between old friends, it is always more natural.

In fact, my major is different from my friend's, and I am also in different fields after graduation. When we are together, few people talk about their respective jobs and their own life ideals. What is said the most is often the trivial things in life, which may never be finished.

Like-minded old friends, really don't lose.

I don't think this kind of like-mindedness means that we should think at the same height and have the same view on life.

Does not mean that the pace of progress must be the same. Making friends is not just a mountain stream. Friends can also have daily necessities and chat with our cups in their hands.

Like-minded people should refer to people who, like you, are willing to maintain this pure mentality and remain unchanged in front of each other for many years, and are willing to maintain this friendship. Actually, this idea is enough.

Just like I have four children who grew up together, others are drifting away and there are no books.

Only this one grew up, and we have the best relationship since childhood. When we grow up, even if our lives develop in different directions, it doesn't affect that we are still good friends and have a lot to say.

Friends are like wine, which lasts for a long time, Mika.

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