My daughter-in-law earns 6,000 yuan a month to support her family, but her mother-in-law accuses her of neglecting her family. How can she go back?

Introduction: Women should have the ability to make money at any time and try to have an independent source of income. Only in this way can there be a "retreat" at any time.

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There is a mother-in-law in the community who spits out her daughter-in-law every day, saying that she only cares about her work and ignores her family.

This daughter-in-law is called light light blue, and her work unit is good. She earns 6,000 yuan a month, then gives 5,000 yuan to her family every month and keeps 1000 yuan for her daily expenses.

Light light blue is a capable professional woman, but her husband idles around all day and has no job. He can't work anywhere for long. Quarrel with the boss today, quarrel with the employees tomorrow, and always get fired.

Today, Lan Lan's son 1 1 years old is in the fifth grade of primary school. Because of her husband's monthly income, light light blue earns money at home, and only her parents-in-law have a meager pension. Therefore, the domestic economic pressure is almost entirely on light light blue.

When children were young, their mother-in-law took care of them, and their husbands didn't care at all. He is with some friends all day. Later, the child went to primary school. At first, grandma could tutor the child. However, with the growth of children's age and the deepening of textbooks, grandma is dying.

Therefore, Lan Lan's mother-in-law asked Lan Lan to quit her job and help her children with their homework at home.

Light light blue felt ridiculous and helpless, so she resigned. What did the family eat and drink? Is this not a joke? !

Therefore, light light blue never takes her mother-in-law's words to heart, and continues to work to support her son and this family.

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However, my mother-in-law is very stubborn. Because light light blue didn't listen to her, she quarreled with light light blue several times. She even said that even if Lan Lan resigned from her job and lost her income, the family's living expenses could be supported by the pensions of the two elderly people. However, her children's education cannot be delayed. If light light blue doesn't quit her job and go home to tutor her children, it means that light light blue is not a qualified mother.

Light light blue has been bearing the financial pressure of the family, and her husband is not worried at all. Now her mother-in-law said it. Light light blue returned to her mother-in-law angrily. "There will be a lot of places for children to spend money in the future. What should I do if my child goes to school? " What about college tuition and living expenses? What if I need money to find a job through the back door? It doesn't cost money to get married when the children are older, does it? Your son is worthless. He doesn't tutor children, nor does he work to earn money. If you don't teach him, why do you take care of me like this? "

Later, because light light blue didn't listen to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law began to speak ill of light light blue everywhere, saying that light light light blue only loves work, doesn't love home, doesn't love children and doesn't deserve to be a mother.

When light light blue knew about it, she was so angry that tears fell down. She simply cut off the family's financial resources and did not provide their expenses. Finally, her mother-in-law compromised, and she dared not speak ill of light light blue again.

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Everyone in the community can see that the hardest thing in this family is light light blue.

The aunts in the same community are also accusing the light light mother-in-law. The family can't make money, and the living expenses are all supported by the daughter-in-law. It doesn't matter if the son is not well. My mother-in-law is also very picky. My daughter-in-law is cruel and doesn't care about this family. What can I do?

Not only that, people in the community also praised Lan Lan as a reasonable person. While praising, I can't understand how light light blue can stand such a husband, but many little girls divorced early.

No one knows why we will prevent such a man from getting divorced, but it is undeniable that light light blue is indeed a good woman who can live and take care of her family.

Fortunately, light light blue is a career-oriented woman. She can stand on her own feet, earn money and spend money by herself, and at the same time, she can support the whole family. Otherwise, if light light blue doesn't have her own career and income, I'm afraid it's even harder to meet such a family.

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Aunt Liu's daughter, Hui Hui, divorced in the fifth year of marriage, saying that the second child she was pregnant was a daughter, and she suffered indignities in her husband's family. Hui Hui simply gave up the child when the child was five months old and brought her eldest daughter back to her family.

According to Aunt Liu, Hui Hui has never been wronged by her since she was a child. She has been reaching for clothes for a living. However, when I arrived at my husband's house, I took care of all the housework. My husband's family and her unmarried sister-in-law, a family of five, cook, wash clothes and clean the house. Hui Hui takes care of everything.

Hui Hui's in-laws are patriarchal. When Hui Hui gave birth to her first daughter, her mother-in-law and father-in-law gave her a lot of anger when she was confined in Hui Hui.

For the sake of her marriage, Hui Hui submitted to humiliation, tried to be a filial daughter-in-law and tried to please her husband's family. However, her painstaking efforts were not recognized by her husband's family, which made the relationship between Hui Hui and her husband worse and worse.

When Hui Hui was pregnant with her second child, her mother-in-law was happy to have a grandson at first. At that time, she was quite kind to Hui Hui. However, when Hui Hui was five months old, her in-laws didn't know what the relationship was, and they only learned that Hui Hui's second child was a daughter during the prenatal examination. After that, her husband's family changed face and said a lot of ugly things.

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Hui Hui had expected her husband to communicate more with his in-laws and know more about himself. After all, having a baby is beyond his control. Unexpectedly, however, her husband, like his parents, not only ignored Hui Hui, but even disliked that Hui Hui could not have a son.

In a rage, Hui Hui filed for divorce, and her husband's family readily agreed. After the divorce, Hui Hui went to the hospital alone to kill her daughter and took her eldest daughter back to Aunt Liu's house.

Since then, Hui Hui and her eldest daughter have been taken care of by their mother. After sitting in the small moon, they went to the south to work alone.

Five years have passed since Blitzkrieg, and Hui Hui is 37 years old.

When chatting with video yesterday, I heard that she bought a house in Hainan and was going to take her daughter and Aunt Liu to Hainan for the New Year.

Looking at the video, Hui Hui's beautiful clothes, ruddy face and energetic appearance were never seen before when she was still divorced. I am really happy for her. Unfortunately, Hui Hui still has no other half.

When asked about this question, Hui Hui said: "It is good to live a comfortable life. When you make money, you can buy whatever you want. You are free and there are no restrictions."

Judging from Hui Hui's present happiness, a woman's happiness may be related to marriage, but it doesn't depend entirely on it.

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Women's happiness is entirely in their own hands, relying on their own abilities.

There are many happy women and many unhappy women in marriage, but whether they are happy or unhappy, the fate of most women in marriage is closely related to independent economy and independent thoughts.

If a married woman has no job or income and her parents have no status, she will often be inferior to her husband's family after marriage. If you meet an unreasonable husband's family, you will even be spit out and rejected.

On the other hand, if you are a woman with independent financial resources, you will earn money and spend it yourself. No matter how much you earn, you will have confidence. If your income is considerable, you may even make your in-laws admire you, and even no one in your in-laws dares to embarrass you.

Therefore, as a woman, don't pin your happiness on your husband. Two people in marriage should support each other and walk hand in hand, not who owes whom, let alone help the poor.

Women should remember that they should have their own money, an independent economy and be able to support themselves at all times. Even if your husband loves you very much and promises to support you for life, I still suggest that you have an independent source of income, so that life and marriage will have no way out even in case of "one thousand"

Women earn their own money and spend their own money. The money they earn is different from that earned by others.

Spend the money you earn, you can pay at any time, and spend other people's money is asking for it. The former is self-reliance and the latter is charity. At any time, self-reliance is better than living on charity, even if it is your husband who gives charity.