Talk about the harm of Internet addiction and give an example.

Tollstam said, "All happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." Then, when I came into contact with Xiaofei's story, I thought that the students who were considered bad children seemed to be similar, but everyone had their own stories, and they needed to be concerned and cared for. After all, children are children. They will make mistakes and make detours, but they are all pure in nature. No child is heinous and hopeless. Therefore, every child deserves to be saved as long as it can. This is a real case of the Urban School and the Three Kingdoms Youth Growth School. Xiaofei (a pseudonym), a 15-year-old boy. Mr. Liu is very worried about his son, because his son often lingers in Internet cafes and stays at night for a day or two. When we first met Xiaofei, what we saw was a quiet and shy young man with fine features. No matter what, we can't put the words "Internet addiction", "infatuation with games" and "unhealthy youth" on him. The reporter asked Xiaofei: "What do you often do in Internet cafes?" "Play games, surf the Internet, QQ." "Then what to eat?" "If you have no money, buy a bottle of water to satisfy your hunger." This is probably the problem of children that many parents have faced. However, Xiaofei's problem is not as simple as going to Internet cafes often. He has stolen because of the cost of going to Internet cafes. The reporter asked him: "How did the expenses of going to the Internet cafe come from?" "Ask dad to ask for it." "What if Dad doesn't give it to you?" "Then, try to steal it and sell it ....." Xiaofei said softly, with a look of indifference. Indeed, according to Xiaofei's father, everything from mobile phones at home to computers and household appliances at home will be sold by Xiaofei. So that all the valuable things in the family disappeared later. We see that Xiaofei's family is not rich. He lives with his father. The place he lives in is just a flat house. The whole house looks very old, and it is ten meters square. In addition, this humble house was borrowed from relatives. Xiaofei's father gets up early and is greedy for the dark all day. What he does is the hard work of sanitation carrier. His salary in January is only 1,2 yuan. It is already very reluctant to pay for the expenses of the family with such a salary. Then, Xiaofei's behavior has increased the burden on the family. In fact, this is not what Xiaofei's father values more. Parents want their children to be good. If Xiaofei keeps on studying like this, his life may be ruined. This is undoubtedly what Xiaofei's father is most worried about. Dad Liu said: "I really have no choice. I have used all the methods I should use." I can't always tie him up, and it will only play a worse role. " "I am very anxious and have a headache." It is understood that Liu's father said: "Xiaofei dropped out of school, and he didn't study in the second semester." It is that his academic performance is very poor, and the teacher thinks that he is holding back the class. The teacher said, forget it, don't influence others, you'd better go back. " He was abandoned by his teachers and classmates. Since then, Xiaofei dropped out of school at home and became addicted to the Internet. Xiaofei is lonely. His mother left him for three or four years, and his parents divorced and separated. Father's busy work is almost regardless of him, so this undoubtedly leads to Xiaofei's lack of care. The disharmony of the family is also hidden. It turns out that Xiaofei's father once had the experience of taking drugs. Dad Liu told us: "When I feel bad about drug addiction, sometimes he will help me to buy some tools in the drugstore." Hearing this, I can't help but feel a little chilling. When my father was addicted to drugs, Xiaofei didn't want to help his father get rid of drugs, but to help him buy drug tools. It sounds shocking from the surface, but from the internal analysis, such a reaction also reflects Xiaofei's family affection buried in his heart. For a child, he doesn't know how to help his father get clean. Seeing dad suffering from drug addiction, his first reaction was to tell him not to continue suffering, which is understandable. So, he still loves his father. He is not a thoroughly bad boy. Later, Liu's father was persuaded by his relatives and friends to go to a drug rehabilitation center, and Xiaofei was taken care of by his aunt, but during this period, they faced another problem: the house was to be demolished! When my aunt took Xiaofei earlier, because my father entered the drug rehabilitation center, my mother left home all the year round, and the name of aunt Xiaofei was signed in the main column of the relocated house at home. Since then, Xiaofei's mother objected and insisted on getting the house back, otherwise she would not set foot in the house! The changes at home made Xiaofei disheartened and began to pin his life on other things. He surfed the Internet, played games, made friends with young people and made friends with men and women. According to Liu's father, he told us, "I have been in contact with two girls." The reporter asked: "How good is it?" Liu's father replied, "They have developed to have sex ... between them ... I asked him." In addition, Liu's father also told us: "He sometimes looks in the mirror at home, makes nail polish on his nails, draws eyebrows and gets something feminine." Later, I asked him why this happened. He said that it would attract others' attention. " Xiaofei's behavior is obviously biased. Later, Xiaofei's father also found that Xiaofei was closely related to a boy who was a little older than him. "I heard from my son that he may have a homosexual tendency." Dad Liu said that if it hadn't been discovered early, I didn't know what Xiaofei would develop into. Liu's father is worried about him and afraid that he will embark on the road of abnormal development. He hopes Xiaofei will have a bright future. As a father, he has set an example to quit drug addiction and worked hard to make money for his children to study. It cannot be said that he is still a good father. Later, in order to help children get rid of internet addiction and correct their behavior, Liu's father contacted the Three Kingdoms Youth Growth School of Urban School, and Xiaofei also expressed his willingness to go there. The reporter asked Xiaofei: "What are you going to do if you quit Internet addiction in the future?" "Still engaged in beauty salons." "Have you learned it before?" "I have." When it comes to the future, when it comes to dreams, Xiaofei is obviously a sunny boy. His expression tells us that he still has a bright future, and he is still full of expectations for the future. When I first arrived at school, Xiaofei was still a little scared and uncomfortable. The instructor and teacher led the students to welcome his new classmate, showed him around the school, and the psychology teacher talked with him. The crux of Xiaofei's problem is not Internet addiction, but lack of care. After learning about Xiaofei's situation, the school made corresponding education and guidance programs for him. Xiaofei trained and participated in activities with his classmates at school, and the school gave him guidance and education in puppy love, Internet addiction, gratitude and self-reliance. Especially in the aspect of mother, I pay more attention to opening this knot for Xiaofei. The reporter asked Xiaofei, "Do you miss your mother?" "Yes, but she won't come back." You can see from Xiaofei's eyes that he misses his mother. We decided to contact Xiaofei's mother the day before taking her home, so that they could meet and ease Xiaofei's psychological shadow. Finally, we finally got in touch with Xiaofei's mother: "Are you Liu Yifei's mother?" "Yes, I am." "Do you have time tomorrow to pick up your son with us?" "I will work the night shift tomorrow." Xiaofei's mother is not sure whether she can come tomorrow. Finally, when everyone thought Xiaofei's mother would not come, she unexpectedly appeared in everyone's sight. After going to school, the school talked to Xiaofei's parents and introduced Xiaofei's situation at school. At the beginning of the training, Xiaofei ran away because he couldn't bear the pain. Later, after the guidance of his psychological teacher, he slowly settled down and cooperated with the school to help and educate himself. However, Xiaofei has some resentment towards her mother. The school also hopes that Xiaofei's parents will pay attention to their children's family education and give them more care. During his school days, Xiaofei changed a lot. At the moment he saw his father, Xiaofei knelt down to his father. He cried and hugged his mother. This kneeling, let us see the child's remorse. "Mom and Dad, when you were working, I couldn't understand your hard work before, and now after this time, I understand the labor and sweat of your work." "Dad, you have worked hard." Father Liu touched Xiaofei's head and said that the child had become energetic. In the past, his hair was not willing to be cut short, and he had to blow it three times a day. Now he has become energetic and taller, and more importantly, he is sensible. Indeed, when we meet again, what we see is no longer the boy who was silent and indifferent at first sight. People can indeed be transformed, and this transformation is certainly gratifying. Liu's father sat talking to Xiaofei and kept holding Xiaofei's hand. "Not a day goes by without thinking about you at home. I always think of you, and I haven't even called you. I am afraid that I will come to see you and shake your heart. " We have seen his father's love, and every parent wants his children to be good. Mom was crying. The change of the child made him feel gratified and guilty. Xiaofei took his father to his dormitory, and his father held his hand all the way. Dad was very pleased to see the change of the child. Xiaofei folded his own square quilt, but his former son didn't fold it at home. "He always goes online as soon as he loses his quilt." Xiaofei is now doing some labor activities arranged by the school, weeding and watering vegetables. Xiaofei's father said, "I asked him to water the vegetables at home, but he didn't water them ..." Xiaofei and his father went to try to pick beans and eat them. When picking them, his father turned around and smiled with relief. He is not a young father, with an old and emaciated face, so this smile seems to make people particularly happy for him. Now Xiaofei washes his own clothes. Xiaofei said, "Of course I do my own thing." This short sentence is comforting. He is no longer the boy who lacks responsibility and doesn't know how to stand on his own feet. Although he didn't do well, he really has a purpose. Xiaofei's father is undoubtedly happy. After that, he gave the school a banner. "Thank you for doing so much work to save my children. Thank you very much." For him, the school made him grateful for his son's transformation. For a parent, what is more gratifying than a child going back to the right path and being proactive? Xiaofei's transformation has come to an end. For his mother Xiaofei, I still think he can come back. "Mom, can you come back?" Mother's attitude is firm, and she will take care of the children, but: "I'd rather beg outside until this matter is solved, and I won't move back." Of course, this matter is about aunt Xiaofei signing the house owner, but Liu Fu said that this matter has been settled and it is not easy to change. This is an interlude. Finally, Xiaofei hugged her mother and went back with her parents. The ending of this matter is satisfactory. Xiaofei has finally changed, and her insistence on her mother is not unsolvable. Therefore, no one is absolutely irreversible. We look forward to the better and better road after Xiaofei.