Everyone has heard the saying that there is a stepmother and a stepfather. What kind of truth is contained in this?

In Jiading County of Ming Dynasty, there was a woman who got married at the age of 16.

After marriage, she and her husband had deep feelings and gave birth to a pair of children a few years later. Unexpectedly, the weather is not beautiful. In a few years, the woman can't afford to get sick.

Seeing that seeking medical treatment was fruitless, the woman knew that her life would soon end.

But when I think that my husband is in his prime after his death, I will definitely marry a new wife. As the old saying goes, "Where there is a stepmother, there is a stepfather". At that time, I didn't know how my little children would be abused by my stepmother!

As a result, women can't help but grieve. On her deathbed, she wrote this poem:

At that time, I went to your house on February 28,

Nothing is too good for you.

I have nothing to say to you today,

Don't teach your children to wear reed flowers.

It is said that after seeing this poem, her husband never got married again.

Hemp (xǐ), the male plant of a herb, only blooms without fruit.

In this poem, in fact, it is a woman who compares Ma Zhu to her husband. One is to express a couple, but he left halfway, leaving a pair of young children for her husband to raise, feeling guilty; One is to hope that after I leave, my husband can blossom like hemp, and it doesn't matter if he doesn't bear fruit.

The implication is that I hope my husband will not get married again.

But hope is just hope after all. Can it be realized? After all, I'm dead, what can I do?

So she began to worry about her young children again.

In particular, the last sentence "Don't teach your child to wear flowers" is about a dying mother's infatuation and helplessness for her child.

"Louisianization" is an allusion.

It's about a man named Min Ziqian in the Spring and Autumn Period. His mother died when he was a teenager. Soon, my father married another woman and went home, giving birth to two sons.

There is a two-part allegorical saying that "stepmother beats her son and works hard in secret". Min Ziqian's stepmother is such a woman.

One winter, my stepmother made cotton-padded clothes for three children.

The cotton-padded clothes she made for her two biological sons were full of cotton. The cotton-padded clothes that can be made for Min Zikai are full of reeds. On the surface, it looks thicker than the two sons', but it is not cold at all.

On one occasion, my father took three children out and let Min Zikai drive.

But because it was too cold, Min Zikai was shivering with cold and drove the carriage into the ditch.

When my father saw this, he was furious. He picked up the whip and hit it, cursing as he hit it:

"Your two younger brothers are not dressed as thick as you, nor are they frozen, you spineless thing.

As a result, after a few whips, the cotton-padded jacket broke and the reed flowers were exposed.

When my father saw it, he immediately understood. I have to divorce my stepmother when I get home.

Who knows, at this moment, Min Zikai knelt down and pleaded with her stepmother. He said something that not only touched her on the spot, but also made us feel sad now.

He said: "One mother is cold, and three mothers go."

Why do you say that with a stepmother, your father becomes a stepmother?

There are three reasons:

First, because of the past family division of labor, taking care of the children left by the ex-wife naturally fell on the stepmother;

Second, in the father's eyes, whether born by his ex-wife or stepmother, they are all his own children, but for stepmother, this is not the case.

This last reason is actually the most important. Because whether widowed or divorced, when a man remarries, the new wife he marries will be younger. New here, plus being a little wife, men's own bones are already crisp. In this case, even if the stepmother is a little unkind to the child, the man will turn a blind eye and let it go.