Is it really faster for parents to rush their children when they are fooling around?

Is the child getting faster?

"How many times have I told you, get up early and get up early, just don't listen!"

"I think you are putting on clothes on purpose!"

"I ate breakfast for most of the day, and I said I was going to be late. You give it back to me slowly ... "

Do you sound familiar? It seems that I or my relatives and friends have said or heard similar words.

It seems that for children who love to dawdle, no matter how good-tempered we are, we have become "impatient"

But did our urging really make the children faster? Come to think of it, not really.

Children who are often urged by their parents either become "extremely dependent" when they grow up, and everything is arranged by their parents. Or become "extremely rebellious" and specifically oppose the opinions of parents.

So what should we do?

Children are becoming more and more dull.

Children are also independent individuals and are willing to maintain their status as independent individuals, which we often don't realize.

When we rush our children, they will think you are fast, so I can't be like you. I want to slow down. Children distinguish themselves from others in this way.

If we continue to urge our children, it will become a struggle about their inner selves. And getting slower and slower is the only weapon that children can compete with us as independent individuals.

The child is becoming more and more anxious.

Stress is a magical thing. Appropriate pressure can promote people's progress, but too much pressure is harmful to people's psychological development.

We always urge our children, which will add a lot of unnecessary pressure to them and make them more and more anxious.

Many times our urging is emotional, with obvious anger and blame, and children live in "panic" every day.

The children are getting more and more careless.

In fact, the reason why children react slowly when they are young is because the brain is fully operating and thinking, and practice makes perfect, and it will become faster and faster.

In fact, put yourself in others' shoes. We're doing something we've never done before. It was slow at first, but then we got familiar with it and became faster.

No matter what the actual situation is, we urge our children. Under our pressure, children can only improve their speed, but because they are unfamiliar, they will inevitably be negligent and become careless.

And this carelessness will make us more angry, even more impulsive, and vent our emotions more, which forms a vicious circle.

Let children have a sense of time.

Many times, children have been labeled as "procrastination" before they form the concept of time, which is unfair to them.

The first thing to do is to guide them to have a sense of time. For example, we should know the measurement methods and units of clocks and time, gradually establish perceptual knowledge, and deduce the concepts of punctuality, quickness and slowness on this basis.

Consciously mentioning time in daily life, such as packing your schoolbag and going to the toilet, has a fixed duration. When communicating with children, children will have a more intuitive feeling by using the accurate way of "leaving in ten minutes" instead of repeating "hurry up" in a hurry.

Distinguish between "fake grinding" and "real lazy guest"

Children's nature is to explore the world. They may think about how shoes were invented when they put on their shoes, and then indulge in their own imagination, and inadvertently become "muddling along."

If children seem to be muddling along, they are actually observing new things. When we have enough time, we might as well communicate with them to make them grow better; When time does not allow, explain the situation to your child and promise to discuss it later.

If the child really dawdles because of laziness, then we can't hide and tolerate it, and seriously set the most basic rules and bottom lines for the child, so that the child can develop a sense of punctuality from an early age.

Examples speak louder than words.

The best way for children to speed up and improve efficiency is for parents to set an example. We are all "late procrastination" ourselves, so it is hard not to let our children be negatively affected by procrastination.

Therefore, in daily life, we should set an example of punctuality and efficiency, don't put off work until the last minute, and don't get up late on weekend mornings.

Make more time agreements with children and strictly implement them. Children are in such an environment, and a good sense of participation will make it easier for children to learn to be efficient and professional.

Feeling.

Allow children to slow down.

Some people are born with a short temper, just like Zhang Fei and Guan Yu in ancient times. They were praised for their battlefield. But some people are born dull, such as Yang Zhenning, and finally become scientists.

Therefore, whether it is an acute child or a chronic child, it is a temperament type person, regardless of good or bad. Mom and dad should first distinguish the child's personality and don't have to change it forcibly.

Raising children means waiting for flowers to bloom, and flowers take time. In this process, we take good care of it and water it on time. One day, lovely flowers and bones will bloom and then have their own wonderful. So, don't worry, don't yell, don't hurt. Parents' deepest love for their children is to allow them to slow down.