Ode to Joy: Always compete with the same interests, don't say the shortcomings of fools.

Recently, I watched a very popular TV series "Ode to Joy", in which Qu Xiaoyu told Andy that only you can carry it on the 22nd floor, and shared his father's life motto: "Always compete with the same hobby, and don't * * fool about shortcomings." This sentence is very interesting at first glance, and then Qu Xiaoyu himself said that talking to Andy would make him suspicious, and he didn't know whether he was a good friend or a fool. What kind of person can speak effortlessly and feel tacit understanding?

It is a person's values that determine the goal of life, a person's methodology that determines the realization path, and a person's attitude towards others that determines the externality of the realization process (that is, whether there is foreign aid or not). Simply put, values determine the direction, IQ determines the height, and EQ determines the width. These three dimensions can basically describe a person's life trajectory. Ode to Joy can bring such a great influence. I think it's not only because of the staff's intentions, but also because of the setting of characters, so that every woman can see her shadow through a certain personality combination of Andy, Xiaoqu,, and Guan. The novel magnifies the characteristics of a character, and most of us are hybrids in different living environments.

Who can carry the whole 22nd floor?

Andy is knowledgeable, self-disciplined and intellectual. She doesn't lose to men at work and gets material and spiritual satisfaction from herself, so Andy is the most secure woman on the 22nd floor. She has a line that she feels good now. She has the ability to live a good life. She can raise her brother with mental disorders alone. If a woman is independent and powerful both physically and mentally, so what if she has psychological barriers and tactile barriers? Lao Tan, Singularity and Bao Yifan are still with her.

Qu Xiaoyu is rich and beautiful, quaint and eccentric, and his temperament is still a genius. I don't think she is as Bai said, but more like a modern and improved version of Huang Rong. She is a rose with thorns. Her thorn is that she doesn't like Fan Jie's vanity and Qiu Yingying's stupidity. Although her remarks are harsh, sometimes if we can meet more straightforward people like Xiaoqu in our life, it will actually help us better understand the social reality. If we always regard ourselves as Xiong Haizi, reality will give us a lot of embarrassment. So ditty seems arrogant, but in fact, it is very clear in my heart. Whether you are tired or not when you are with your customers is unambiguous. Knowing the routine when arguing is sincere, so Zhao Sanzang is handy.

Guan Juer's family is good, clever and sensible, gentle and considerate, and hard-working, which reminds me of the word "gentle as jade", but the audience often feel wronged because she cares too much about others and ignores herself. Therefore, being moist as jade is her A side, and being moist and depressed is her B side.

Fan Mei and Xiao Earthworm are both controversial roles. Fan Jie is influenced by her family background, so she worships money for a reason. She lacks what she pursues. She is hard-working, beautiful and enthusiastic, but at the age of thirty, she has not lived to be what she originally wanted to be. I think it's useless to be keen on those celebrity parties. I met those tycoons across classes and accepted the ridicule of the rich second generation, but I was destined to live a depressed and vain life with a heart of hope and desire. Little earthworm's father bought her many books on success, and she went to argue with Andy. All these show that her nature is simple and straightforward, but a person's vision and pattern are basically controlled by his own family, just like the earth goes around the sun, the farthest place you can reach is already doomed. If you want to break the shackles, you must constantly double the rotation speed until you break free, and sometimes you even need a lot of luck. But unfortunately, most of us are just ordinary individuals, unable to have excellent intelligence, strong perseverance and occasional luck. Qiu Yingying is like this. She is naturally optimistic and lives happily, which is actually a good life. The difference between Qiu Yingying and Fan Jie is that Qiu Yingying has accepted the self-class, while Fan Jie can't accept the status quo in her heart, and she is not strong enough to fight back on her own like Andy, so all her hopes are pinned on marriage, hoping to make up for her shortcomings by marriage.

Back to the question at the beginning, what kind of person can speak effortlessly and feel tacit understanding? In fact, from the closeness between these five girls, we can see that Andy and Xiaoqu communicate most about work and feelings, Xiao Ye and Guan Guan are good girlfriends, and Fan Jie is between these two groups, but she can't really blend in with either of them. In fact, tacit understanding comes from the same cognition. The big level is the same life style, and the small level is similar values and life experiences. I don't think it is absolutely right to "always compete with peers and don't argue with fools about shortcomings", but it is not wisdom to accept the fact that the other person's knowledge may not be as good as yours, not to be a good teacher, not to look at God's perspective, and to know individual differences without arguing.

One of my favorite discussions, whether Descendants of the Sun or Ode to Joy, is about values. In Descendants of the Sun, everyone said that we should be evenly matched. In my opinion, being evenly matched is not only the material and spiritual independence of each other, but also the respect for each other's differences, so as to strive for logical significance to the greatest extent.

I have read some comments that we all want to live like Andy, but the reality is Guan Yu and finally Fan. Actually, I want to say that Guan Juer will grow up, and Fan is very cute. If there is only routine in social love now, then hard work and growth should be my last belief.